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Subject: measher order
Posted By radley on 31-08-2010
I wonder if anyone has come across this issue, consent order says that there is a measher order on the family home until the youngest child leaves school, the house is sold, or if I live with partner as man and wife for over ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-08-2010
Yes. A Mesher is intended to allow you to live in ...
Added By Stuart on 06-09-2010
Lol....the bloody barefaced cheek and greed of som...
Added By why? on 09-09-2010
stuart. renting is not 'greed'. The ex would get m...
Added By Stuart on 10-09-2010
LOL.....so the poster is looking at renting the pr...
Subject: Ex dragging her feet
Posted By riva on 31-08-2010
The Decree Nisi was issued late last year and our financial statements have been exchanged between the solicitors. Things looked to be progressing reasonably toward the first meeting with a judge. However, now she has put t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-08-2010
Do you mean one of you has applied to court for a...
Added By riva on 01-09-2010
Thanks for the quick response sometimesitdoesn'two...
Subject: New Seperation
Posted By ever2006 on 19-08-2010
Hi
My wife has decided after 4 years of being married that she would like to seperate. She has 'temporarily' moved bak to her mothers with our 4 year old son.
The question is regarding finances. ...
Added By Stuart on 19-08-2010
Right....just to ease your worries.....
Added By ever2006 on 19-08-2010
Thanks for the swift reply.
I have ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-08-2010
Because you are married you have rights to live in...
Added By EnglishRose on 21-08-2010
Make sure that your solicitor has filed immediatel...
Subject: Financial advice for a friend
Posted By BeeBee on 13-08-2010
Hi
Friend and husand have separated. They co-own a pub (which has been very successful in the past but affected by the economy) with a large mortgage in joint names. He wants to keep the business in the hope ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-08-2010
Do they actually own the pub outright? Many public...
Added By BeeBee on 14-08-2010
They own the pub outright but have a very large mo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-08-2010
The point of divorce is to lead separate and inde...
Added By EnglishRose on 21-08-2010
I don't think it's wise they keep it in joint name...
Subject: Could I lose my house?
Posted By scruffbear on 10-08-2010
Hi, have just received my Decree Absolute but instead of jumping for joy like you would expect me, things couldn't be worse! Am the respondent, divorce battle has been going on for two years, we got to Decree Nisi stage quick...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2010
Before ratifying a consent order judges are duty b...
Added By why? on 11-08-2010
the childs own father if still alive is the respo...
Added By EnglishRose on 23-08-2010
Let'#s hope you've picked a woman who earns good m...
Subject: Trying to pay off a debt
Posted By Juggler on 06-08-2010
Hi, there.
In the financial settlement of the divorce, the ex-husband would have got 30% of the value of the house. I said that I would pay all the debts if he would take a lower figure and he agreed. (This was...
Added By why? on 07-08-2010
no advice im afraid. do you have any idea why your...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-08-2010
Can't think of a legal remedy and it is perhaps a ...
Added By why? on 07-08-2010
perhaps a letter from your solicitor stating quite...
Subject: wanting a divorce after 1 year and a baby!
Posted By neera on 05-08-2010
Hi All
Situation: I've recently discovered that my husband of 1 year has been having and affair - thats why he has been behaving unreasonably towards me. I have not confronted him about the affair as i really want a d...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-08-2010
All the jointly and solely held assets minus any l...
Added By Stuart on 08-08-2010
You were doing pretty well until you wrote "i inte...
Subject: wanting a divorce after 1 year and a baby!
Posted By neera on 05-08-2010
Hi All
Situation: I've recently discovered that my husband of 1 year has been having and affair - thats why he has been behaving unreasonably towards me. I have not confronted him about the affair as i really want a d...
Subject: Should I pay CSA as the legal guardian?
Posted By chipstick on 02-08-2010
Hi,
My daughter is 15 and I have been the legal guardian for the last 8 years since the divorce, but last Novemeber I found my daughetr to be smoking with my ex's blessing.
An argument between me and the daughte...
Added By Stuart on 02-08-2010
I dont know about you being the legal guardian.......
Added By chipstick on 02-08-2010
Thank you Stuart for the reply,
I plan to s...
Added By Stuart on 02-08-2010
Does the order state your daughter lives with you ...
Added By chipstick on 02-08-2010
Hi Stuart / All,
The order is for t...
Added By Stuart on 02-08-2010
So you dont have a financial order for child maint...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-08-2010
Child support and orders determining residence, c...
Added By chipstick on 03-08-2010
Ok thanks for the information,
I gu...
Subject: clean break
Posted By Stuart on 02-08-2010
Is a clean break on obtainable by following the D81 etc route or can simple undertakings be given by each party not to make future claims on each other?
Im talking about a short marriage (1year) no children, no...
Added By chipstick on 02-08-2010
Stuart,
would like to help as you h...
Added By Stuart on 02-08-2010
Hi,
Thanks for the advice....yes, I...
Subject: Child Bennefit
Posted By Alan11 on 20-07-2010
Seperated 3 years with 2 boys aged 5 and 8. We have shared care 50/50 from day 1. Now officially divorced and have shared the kids costs equally. She paid me half the child bennefit each month as she origainally registered an...
Added By Stuart on 20-07-2010
Are you living together then?
What ...
Added By Alan11 on 21-07-2010
Thanks Stuart. We have seperate houses and have th...
Added By why? on 21-07-2010
i guess you could go online to the csa website and...
Added By Captain Oates on 27-07-2010
You need to write it off as you are legally on thi...
Added By Alan11 on 27-07-2010
Thanks Captain. At least I know where I stand and ...
Subject: Separation & financial
Posted By jaynee on 17-07-2010
Hi,
Long story, sorry, but here goes. Put £70k into buying bigger house with partner in march 2006, he contributed nothing, married in July 2006. After just under 3 years of marriage he had an affair, so we spl...
Added By Stuart on 19-07-2010
I have a suspicion that he is going to argue that ...
Subject: Pensions
Posted By zabby on 16-07-2010
Trying to sort out a consent order between me and ex. We have got to pensions. My ex has a SIPP as he is director of his own company. He has had discussions with the the company you he has his SIPP with and informs me that...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-07-2010
I believe Heather Mills had signed a confidentiali...
Subject: Deed of Covenant
Posted By why? on 11-07-2010
Hi all.
The following wording is that of the deed that i am being asked to agree. I am the petitioner, h is the responde. Here goes:
NOW THIS DEED WITNESSES:
1. Pursuant to the agreement a...
Subject: Consent Order Not Signed
Posted By alanreed on 10-07-2010
Hi can anyone help? Recently been taken back to court re outstanding maintenance payments to my ex. arrears came about as asked for order to be set aside as appointed CSA. CSA now acting but ex wants arrears up to time that...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-07-2010
Was agreement well documented in correspondence? ...
Added By alanreed on 11-07-2010
Thanks for the info. Solicitors did sign the draf...
Added By Captain Oates on 28-07-2010
You need to ask your solicitor this, we are guessi...
Subject: Nominal maintenance claim.
Posted By daisychain333 on 07-07-2010
Can someone plse explain in what circumstances this can come into play on a court order, i have one of these. Divorced and court order for maintenance two children & clause of nominal maintenance for me £1 per annum.<...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-07-2010
The short answer is, yes, a change in circumstance...
Added By Stuart on 08-07-2010
So you are asking for more money from your ex even...
Added By why? on 08-07-2010
i think this is because like many pwc, the money f...
Added By Stuart on 08-07-2010
I always wonder how the recipient of the SM & CM w...
Added By scots caz on 08-07-2010
Well, in fairness, they would have had many years...
Added By Teadrinker on 09-07-2010
"I always wonder how the recipient of the SM & CM ...
Added By daisychain333 on 09-07-2010
Thank you Teadrinker this exactly the case...
Added By Stuart on 14-07-2010
Have to say that from the last post I detect a bit...
Added By daisychain333 on 15-07-2010
Have to say judging from both your posts and as a ...
Added By Stuart on 16-07-2010
Sorry Daisy, did I strike a bit of a nerve? lol......
Added By Teadrinker on 17-07-2010
Stuart, you do seem to always look for arguments t...
Added By why? on 17-07-2010
the poster only commented on the holidays her ex h...
Added By daisychain333 on 17-07-2010
This is my first posting on here & I was under the...
Added By Owl1 on 17-07-2010
Stuart , you often sound bitter.
Yo...
Added By Stuart on 19-07-2010
Lol....bloody hell....
Allow me to ...
Added By Teadrinker on 20-07-2010
Stuart, how would you explain your comment about w...
Added By Owl1 on 20-07-2010
"Well sorry but thats life. My sons mother and her...
Added By why? on 20-07-2010
stuart.
i know this might seem like...
Added By why? on 20-07-2010
in other words, in case that wasn't clear. the pos...
Added By Stuart on 20-07-2010
Lol....
Tell you what...I'll stop p...
Added By Stuart on 20-07-2010
Oh incidently, not that Ive anything to explain to...
Added By Owl1 on 21-07-2010
"Oh incidently, not that Ive anything to explain t...
Added By daisychain333 on 21-07-2010
Why........her attitude in fact was more of a 'ho ...
Added By why? on 21-07-2010
thats what i said tho daisy chain. you made refere...
Subject: Setting aside consent order
Posted By scots caz on 04-07-2010
Hubby divorced a couple of years ago and consent order re child maintenance signed off by court £475 per month based on CSA for 2 kids, he subsequently had a large pay drop but continued to pay the same even though by CSA cal...
Added By why? on 04-07-2010
hi.
it does obviously change things when a ...
Added By scots caz on 04-07-2010
thanks - sorry meant to say he is going to college...
Added By Stuart on 05-07-2010
I think your hubby better make an application to t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-07-2010
Normally the courts have no power to order CM or a...
Added By scots caz on 05-07-2010
thanks all - I understand that he needs to get it ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-07-2010
Strictly speaking as far as the consent order is c...
Added By scots caz on 06-07-2010
thanks STIDW - the wording on the consent order is...
Added By Captain Oates on 28-07-2010
Courts are pragmatic - what a load of rubbish - sp...
Subject: Kids - Where do i stand?
Posted By Desparate on 01-07-2010
Hi all
Not been online here for quite some time now. I went through divorce approx 5 years ago now and although it was messy as I my ex wife was blackmailing me using the kids as the weapons.....
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-07-2010
The terms "residence" and "contact" were replaced ...
Added By Desparate on 01-07-2010
I hear what you are saying about the resentment fr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-07-2010
Unfortunately when there are children our ex's re...
Added By Desparate on 02-07-2010
I'm quite happy to go through the CSA but with the...
Added By Stuart on 02-07-2010
You cant be controlled and bullied like this.
Added By Suzy on 02-07-2010
Surely in the pretty near future the kids will tel...
Added By Desparate on 03-07-2010
Thanks for all your replies so far.
...
Added By Stuart on 03-07-2010
Who said anything about having to be aggressive?
Added By Owl1 on 03-07-2010
Desparate, I wouldn't get too tied up about showin...
Added By Teadrinker on 04-07-2010
Des, are you saying that the amount of CM you pay ...
Added By Teadrinker on 04-07-2010
Sorry, I meant escalate not ex... Though the other...
Added By Owl1 on 04-07-2010
"Her asking to see your P60 isn't an intrusion int...
Added By Desparate on 04-07-2010
Thanks everyone for all comments which have been m...
Added By why? on 04-07-2010
personally, i think that you should reach agreemen...
Added By Owl1 on 05-07-2010
Why if you read Desparate's original post you will...
Added By Stuart on 05-07-2010
Des, I think the ladies here are actually missing ...
Added By Teadrinker on 06-07-2010
Are you saying then, Stuart, that exes must simply...
Added By Owl1 on 06-07-2010
Stuart, I think you need to read Desparates origin...
Added By Desparate on 06-07-2010
Hi all
Thanks for the positive comm...
Added By Owl1 on 06-07-2010
Desparate I think we can all sometimes "bully" to ...
Added By Stuart on 06-07-2010
Owl, you are talking like an arse - contract law.....
Added By Stuart on 06-07-2010
* should have been a "couple of quid"
Added By Owl1 on 07-07-2010
Stuart, its a contract and subject to Contract law...
Added By Stuart on 07-07-2010
Err....I have said that Des's ex is entitled to th...
Added By Stuart on 07-07-2010
"If providing a p60 is a source of emotional angst...
Added By Desparate on 07-07-2010
Hi all
After much thought, I have d...
Added By Owl1 on 07-07-2010
Again Stuart go back and read Des's origin...
Added By Stuart on 08-07-2010
Owl...I give up....clearly its YOU who cant read.....
Added By Owl1 on 09-07-2010
"My ex has now demanded to see my P60 so she can d...
Added By Stuart on 09-07-2010
No, she hasnt threatened to go to the CSA....she h...
Added By Owl1 on 10-07-2010
Well my children are all adults now Stuart. Part ...
Added By Stuart on 11-07-2010
Owl....you are off your head love....lol...
Subject: Enforcing an order for costs - time limit?
Posted By Suspicious Minds on 27-06-2010
In 2007, my ex was ordered to pay the costs of our divorce.
For various reasons there has been a massive delay in implementing our AR order and he has so far refused to pay up the costs. My solicitor had sugge...
Added By Stuart on 30-06-2010
Im not aware of a limit to these things especially...
Subject: Sale of Family Home
Posted By fulham on 26-06-2010
Hi All,
My ex wife has decided to sell our former family home and move to Devon.
This triggers the release to me of my interest in the property by way of a court order.
Her Conveyancer has asked me to sig...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-06-2010
Think about this from the buyers POV. Would you be...
Added By Owl1 on 27-06-2010
This is absolute standard practice in any conveyan...
Added By fulham on 28-06-2010
Thanks for the comments guys. I will speak with bo...
Subject: CM help please! - does 'cease fulltime secondary education' mean after A's?
Posted By shankster on 21-06-2010
Hi,
I posted on a CM topic elsewhere ...but think my own question might have been slightly lost...
My court order states '...18 years or cease fulltime secondary education..'
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-06-2010
If the order specifies CM ceases at the end of ful...
Added By shankster on 21-06-2010
Thanks for the quick response but i don't ...
Added By Stuart on 21-06-2010
I think its based on the fact that its worked out ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-06-2010
When courts consider issues relating to CM the sta...
Added By shankster on 22-06-2010
thanks for the insight on this... i couldn...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-06-2010
Try;
http://www.csa.gov.uk/en/case/...
Added By Teadrinker on 23-06-2010
My Consent Order says "until 19th birthday" and ma...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-06-2010
It certainly is more straight forward when the age...
Added By Simes 2p on 30-06-2010
TD,
'I told him where to stuff his ...
Subject: I need to escape from this fiasco
Posted By Iwannabefree on 20-06-2010
My mariage broke down about 6 years ago, since which time I have remained in the FMH but with finances split into individual accounts, separate bedrooms, I do my own washing/ironing etc. So to all intent and purposes we are ...
Added By why? on 24-06-2010
its a shame you have not had any replies to your p...
Added By Iwannabefree on 24-06-2010
Thanks for for your reply Why? In terms of being ...
Added By why? on 26-06-2010
in that case id go ahead and put forward what you ...
Subject: loan
Posted By tiger on 19-06-2010
On my form E I have confirmed that I am owed £7.5k from a third party so obviously this amount is put into the pot to divide assets. However I am now struggling to pay for SOL bills and have asked the third party to return lo...
Added By tiger on 20-06-2010
can anyone help please?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-06-2010
Sorry no one has replied yet.
Reas...
Subject: CM - full time education STILL not clear
Posted By helpmeplease on 19-06-2010
Wonder if you can help.
I have 2 children based in Ireland (aged 18 and 19)
19 year old about to start Uni this September.
My court order says to pay CM whilst children are sti...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-06-2010
You should be aware that even if over 18s are away...
Added By shankster on 22-06-2010
The more i read about this topic the less ...
Added By helpmeplease on 22-06-2010
Hi thanks for the replys.
...
Added By shankster on 22-06-2010
Why dont the solicitors make it clearer in...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-06-2010
Although under 18s are a priority courts take the ...
Subject: Redundancy, Redundancy Compensation and Child Maintenance
Posted By DV on 14-06-2010
I currently pay 20% of my net income as defined in a court order that states that this is equivalent to the then CSA guidelines.
I am being made redundant and will take a tax free lump sum of 30K and then recei...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-06-2010
Under CSA/C-MEC rules contractual redundancy pay,...
Subject: variation of periodical payments
Posted By snowy on 13-06-2010
Hi everyone
Hopeful that someone can answer my question. When you fill in Form E, do you have to provide copies of credit card statements to the court and the other party? I'm representing myself, and so is m...
Added By Suzy on 14-06-2010
According to the Form E you are required to provid...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-06-2010
With variations to PPOs judges direct what informa...
Subject: caught up in my partner's finances
Posted By 2ndtimeround on 11-06-2010
Hello all,
Both myself and my partner are divorced, we have a 3 month old and my daughter from my marriage lives with us too. Unfortunately, my partner has not been able to settle finances with his ex and he eventually...
Added By Owl1 on 12-06-2010
I think your partner needs legal advice and that s...
Added By evr on 12-06-2010
I agree. It would be best to hire a barrister for...
Added By EnglishRose on 13-06-2010
Why did you give your new partner who hasn't even ...
Added By 2ndtimeround on 15-06-2010
I haven't given my partner any equity. He has move...
Added By Stuart on 15-06-2010
hi 2ndtimeround....ignore ER. She sometimes talks ...
Added By Stuart on 15-06-2010
Apologies for the spelling mistakes......I was in ...
Added By EnglishRose on 18-06-2010
So I still don't understant. You put your own home...
Added By 2ndtimeround on 20-06-2010
Obviously I haven't explained myself very well but...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-06-2010
Owl is spot on, not disclosing your income when t...
Added By Stuart on 21-06-2010
With the benefit of the exact science of hindsight...
Subject: Help me get divorced please
Posted By MrNoOne on 09-06-2010
Hi,
I’m back and still not divorced and it’s becoming very emotional for me and I just feel shes trapped me from moving on.
She filed for divorce back in June 2007. We have a 4.5 year son w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-06-2010
I can empathize, my ex procrastinated for almost 5...
Added By MrNoOne on 10-06-2010
Hi stidw,
Can the Decree Absolute ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-06-2010
Yes, the absolute can be granted at the same time....
Added By MrNoOne on 10-06-2010
There is no pension sharing or anything like that ...
Added By EnglishRose on 13-06-2010
Sometimes it's best to wait until the finances are...
Added By MrNoOne on 13-06-2010
i should know by this coming week if she's going t...
Subject: complete financial mess
Posted By cement on 08-06-2010
Having looked through past posts there is nothing that appears similar so am posting this in case anyone can offer any sensible advice.
Sister and her hubby of the past 17years have split and neither will speak...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-06-2010
The first thing is for your sister to see if it's ...
Added By cement on 09-06-2010
Cannot take a payment holiday and it is an interes...
Added By Suzy on 10-06-2010
Cement, is your sister burying her head in the san...
Added By cement on 10-06-2010
Thanks Suzy for the comments. I had suggested she...
Added By Suzy on 10-06-2010
I suspect that she could get in a lodger quite eas...
Subject: can i withdraw?
Posted By why? on 03-06-2010
hi.
as many of you know, i found information on h that provedhe was lying to solicitors and hiding financial information. As a result h was keen to reach agreement with out going to court. due to court date, next week ...
Added By EnglishRose on 04-06-2010
YOu must urgently in writing fax and or email inst...
Added By why? on 04-06-2010
hi er.
you will see on my other pos...
Added By Stuart on 07-06-2010
"or get out there and out earn him - that's the be...
Added By why? on 08-06-2010
hi stuart.
on this i actually agree...
Subject: tenants in common
Posted By why? on 29-05-2010
what happens to the marital home if a couple divorce who have children and the couple are tenants in common? what would be the purpose of purchasing as tenants in common rathar than joint tenants?
Added By Owl1 on 30-05-2010
As I understand it the marital home is always matr...
Added By why? on 30-05-2010
thanks owl. that all makes sense.
Subject: overseas salary
Posted By maelstrom on 27-05-2010
I have a quick question. Stbx works overseas on a contractual basis through an umbrella company . He has maximised his expenses allowance and minimised his net income for tax purposes. He pays tax in Italy and national ins...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-05-2010
Is he employed and paid by a UK company? If not a...
Added By maelstrom on 29-05-2010
His contract is with an Italian company and he is ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-05-2010
Even if your husband worked in the UK there are le...
Added By EnglishRose on 31-05-2010
Yes, it doesn't look good. Eeven in the UK the sel...
Added By why? on 03-06-2010
yip. but that doesn't really help the poster does ...
Subject: evidence at last
Posted By why? on 26-05-2010
hi
at last i have proof that h has purchase a house at £50,000 above the value of the matrimonial home. we asked him about the house (before knowing actual address etc) and he said he was renting. we now have ...
Added By Stuart on 28-05-2010
How did you get the trust deeds?
Je...
Added By why? on 28-05-2010
hello stuart.
well, i had guessed w...
Added By why? on 29-05-2010
sorry. title deeds. not trust deeds.
Added By EnglishRose on 31-05-2010
Great fun. What a find.
You can now...
Added By why? on 31-05-2010
yes. they each have 50%. we were practically on ag...
Subject: Consent Order
Posted By Jelly on 26-05-2010
I have a consent order which states my ex husband must pay me a lump sum by 16 June. Any idea as to whether I will receive notification that I am going to recieve the money or do I just 'wait and see'? Also what steps do I ha...
Added By Stuart on 26-05-2010
Not sure what you mean by notification...
<...
Added By Suzy on 26-05-2010
My ex had to pay me a lump sum - 6 weeks after the...
Added By Jelly on 27-05-2010
Thanks both for your answers. The divorce actually...
Subject: SM & retirement
Posted By louise45 on 21-05-2010
My husband pays his ex a large amount of SM every month. This was decided by court order on divorce & increased last year(6 years since divorce) after a very costly(£12k) court case.
My husband now has an IVA in plac...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-05-2010
Retirement is a change in circumstances and it is ...
Added By EnglishRose on 31-05-2010
He can almost certainly apply to reduce it if he d...
Subject: Bonuses
Posted By Filly on 20-05-2010
I have just finished watching itv programme re Divorce. How can my soon to be ex husband hide pay awards and bonuses for the last two years?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-05-2010
Actually it isn't that easy to hide money, unless ...
Added By Filly on 25-05-2010
Yes to both Q. He has sworn in Court that his sal...
Subject: Taking my fair share
Posted By Sarah J on 17-05-2010
Hi my husband has recently left me for someone else. I am not sure whether I should do what I can to protect myself financially by transferring 50% of our savings (in his name though) into my account or whether I should wait ...
Added By Stuart on 18-05-2010
Its not illegal. Its as much yours as it is his.
Added By why? on 18-05-2010
i have to say i find this difficult to answer. i h...
Added By Teadrinker on 18-05-2010
I haven't got an answer but I think it would be il...
Added By Stuart on 18-05-2010
Sorry, I misread the original post and yes it woul...
Added By Sarah J on 19-05-2010
thanks for all you comments which I take on board....
Added By Teadrinker on 19-05-2010
I sympathise. It's very unfortunate that your join...
Subject: repossession
Posted By george76 on 15-05-2010
I have been seperated from my husband for 18 months and we have 2 children. He has recently stopped paying towards a secured loan on the property I am living in with our children. The house is up for sale and although I am ma...
Added By Suzy on 16-05-2010
In order to be repossessed the loan company will n...
Added By george76 on 16-05-2010
There is no formal agreement through the court, he...
Added By Stuart on 17-05-2010
First advice is to speak to the loan company and e...
Subject: rental payment
Posted By Prettyeyes76 on 13-05-2010
My husband and I are renting a room to his friend and the ex wife is saying that she deserves half of the rent! Is this right? There was a set amount that is to be paid to her by a particular date in order to buy her out and ...
Added By Suzy on 14-05-2010
If something went wrong in the house that needed a...
Added By Teadrinker on 15-05-2010
Sorry, I don't know the answer but hopefully someo...
Added By Suzy on 15-05-2010
I forgot to say that you should also check the sma...
Subject: segal / connell order.
Posted By why? on 12-05-2010
h and i have agreed that if either of us goes to csa then the spousal maintenance will increase or decrease appropriately so that the same amount of money is provided overall.
however, my solicitor says that af...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-05-2010
A Segal or Connell Order enables courts to order m...
Added By why? on 29-05-2010
hello. my soliciotr and the barrister dont seem to...
Subject: for the attention of divorce divorce
Posted By why? on 08-05-2010
hello. you made a comment on scarletts previous post regarding my position with husbands income. i had explained that he was only calculating maintenance on the half salary which is paid to him directly. the other half of his...
Subject: house held in trust
Posted By why? on 05-05-2010
h states that he wants the house to be held in trust for the children so if i die first then house will go to them. this sounds to me like he is giving my part of the settlement directly to the children? how would this affect...
Added By Stuart on 06-05-2010
If the house is transferred to you as part of the ...
Added By Suzy on 06-05-2010
As Stuart says - it sounds a bit controlling.
Added By why? on 07-05-2010
hi and thanks.
yes. i have thought ...
Added By Stuart on 07-05-2010
You cant really say that about a new partner Why?<...
Added By why? on 08-05-2010
hello.
had meeting with solicitor a...
Added By Teadrinker on 09-05-2010
Two things puzzle me about this. Firstly, if you d...
Added By why? on 09-05-2010
hi teadrinker.
the children will be...
Added By Owl1 on 09-05-2010
Hi TD and Why
The correct answer to...
Added By why? on 09-05-2010
thanks owl.
all of that was very in...
Added By Suzy on 09-05-2010
Why
I don't want to hijack your pos...
Added By why? on 09-05-2010
hi suzy.
im afraid that, like you, ...
Added By Stuart on 10-05-2010
All this talk of giving a new partner a rent book ...
Added By why? on 10-05-2010
stuart.
a bit touchy there....howev...
Added By Suzy on 10-05-2010
Stuart, I undertand your viewpoint.
My dad ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-05-2010
That's why some of us remain single ;) The childre...
Added By why? on 10-05-2010
yes. i think i would have a cohabiting agreement t...
Added By Suzy on 10-05-2010
Thanks for that STIDW. Does that mean that if one ...
Added By why? on 11-05-2010
hi suzy.
i doubt its that simple. my solici...
Added By Stuart on 11-05-2010
LOL....not touchy at all Why?
Just saying i...
Added By Suzy on 11-05-2010
Stuart, I really appreciate your viewpoint - its h...
Added By why? on 11-05-2010
hi to both.
stuart, i think for me ...
Added By Stuart on 12-05-2010
I just think that prenuptuals are an admission tha...
Added By why? on 12-05-2010
i dont know where you came to all those conclusion...
Added By Owl1 on 13-05-2010
Stuart. I see "pre -nuptials" ( or putting your as...
Added By why? on 13-05-2010
hi owl.
you know what owl......? im...
Added By Owl1 on 15-05-2010
What your solicitor is telling you is that if you ...
Added By why? on 16-05-2010
ok owl. i thought however, that by placing my asse...
Added By EnglishRose on 17-05-2010
Are they saying just that you will own the house b...
Added By EnglishRose on 17-05-2010
on the last post why that is indeed correct. If th...
Added By why? on 17-05-2010
hi er.
yes i see your point. howeve...
Added By Owl1 on 18-05-2010
Why, you are very confused by something that is ev...
Added By Stuart on 18-05-2010
Since when do you name trustees in every will Owl?...
Added By why? on 18-05-2010
hi owl. thank you for explaining. i do now at long...
Added By Owl1 on 19-05-2010
Here we name a trustee and/or executor. Property i...
Added By why? on 19-05-2010
thanks owl. you are correct about executors/truste...
Added By Stuart on 19-05-2010
Why? The executor and the trustee is not automatic...
Added By Owl1 on 20-05-2010
Stuart, I won't explain it all further to you or e...
Added By Stuart on 20-05-2010
Ooh you are such a patronising little twit arent y...
Added By why? on 20-05-2010
no. the twit is my h. he is now stating that my wi...
Added By Owl1 on 21-05-2010
Just mirroring Stuart....
Added By Stuart on 21-05-2010
LOL.....
Subject: Consent Order
Posted By Charly175 on 04-05-2010
Hi,
After a very lengthy and messy divorce and family court proceedings and consent order was agreed at a FDR and rubber stamped by the Judge. This was back in 2008, the majority for the order has been complie...
Added By Stuart on 04-05-2010
I doubt you can ask for the house to be signed ove...
Subject: Divorce after 14 years separation
Posted By Luqa on 03-05-2010
Hi, I'm new and posted this on the general board instead of this one.
My partner has started divorce proceedings against his wife after 14 years of separation. They had no children together, and separat...
Added By Stuart on 04-05-2010
Solicitor has given the worst case scenario? And a...
Added By divorcedivorce on 04-05-2010
If the assets were acquired post separation then i...
Subject: The time has come....
Posted By LuluBalulu on 30-04-2010
..to sell my house. I should sell it as my youngest is now 18, but all 3 children are still at home. Can I be forced to sell the house to pay my Ex husband his 15%??
What can I do?
Lulu
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-04-2010
Sadly there are often difficulties with these type...
Added By Stuart on 30-04-2010
Yes you can be forced. Your ex simply has to apply...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-04-2010
I sympathise. I'll be in the same position next ye...
Added By Stuart on 01-05-2010
TD has a good point.
If you can tak...
Subject: an extreme case
Posted By qaz on 28-04-2010
my partner's divorec has been dragging on for 5+ years due to the ex's refusal to engage in any meaningful way. several FDR's have been held and following one penal notice the judge put the ex on notice that if financial disc...
Added By Stuart on 29-04-2010
Err.........nope.....all sounds rather dodgy to me...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-04-2010
Has the opinion of a barrister been sought?
...
Added By qaz on 30-04-2010
A barrister have been engaged throughout, hence th...
Subject: any point in raising this? does it make any difference?
Posted By why? on 25-04-2010
hello.
h has so far refused point blank to negotiate. it seems to be accept his offer or 3rd trial in july. had good reason for long time to suspect new house is on the horizon for him and gf to move into. their baby ...
Added By Stuart on 26-04-2010
Surely any property he purchases counts as a marit...
Added By why? on 26-04-2010
thats what i believe. however, i believe it will o...
Added By divorcedivorce on 04-05-2010
If he has purchased a second home without revealin...
Added By why? on 04-05-2010
thank you. what is o.c.e.s? i know the development...
Added By divorcedivorce on 04-05-2010
Office Copy Entries from the Land Registry - they ...
Added By why? on 04-05-2010
thankyou
Subject: Mortage Payment
Posted By pat1896 on 25-04-2010
Hi I have been married over 24 years and have an endowment mortage which I am also paying 5 different top ups due to short fall over the years
My self and wife have lived apart for nearly a year and I still pay these ...
Added By Stuart on 25-04-2010
Why wouldnt it be legal?
Subject: advice on divorce
Posted By nutsinotts on 24-04-2010
Im new to this site so any help will be grateful.My husband and i split very recently after i slapped him so he gave me a black eye and grabbed me by the throat.I want to go for divorce as i have had enough.What grounds can i...
Added By sprout on 24-04-2010
If you want to divorce him, I believe the only way...
Added By why? on 25-04-2010
it doesn't matter who hit who first. there was phy...
Subject: Canceling legal aid and self representing
Posted By whichwaysup on 24-04-2010
Can anyone advise on this?
My ex partner is currently taking proceedings against me. He is choosing to s/r, I have been using a solicitor.
I have been awarded a certificate for funding and have t...
Added By Stuart on 25-04-2010
Dont worry.....I can assure you that the work alre...
Subject: Left the ex, but want to move on now
Posted By markys on 21-04-2010
I left the FMH 3 months ago and am currently renting, along with paying my ex around £1,000 per month which I have agreed to do until both my kids leave school. One is 19 and going to Uni in September and the other 17 and n...
Added By Stuart on 21-04-2010
If you purchase any property either in your sole n...
Added By EnglishRose on 22-04-2010
Gosh that was quick. I doubt most teenagers would ...
Added By Markys on 22-04-2010
I'm not sure what relevence that has to my questio...
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-04-2010
You say that you are in the "separated" stage righ...
Added By why? on 24-04-2010
i believe that getting divorced makes no differenc...
Added By divorcedivorce on 04-05-2010
If you have the resources to buy, then all you are...
Added By why? on 10-05-2010
thats interesting and confuswed me somewhat.
...
Added By divorcedivorce on 11-05-2010
I think the judge was probably referring to the di...
Subject: Removal of charge on a property
Posted By DC35 on 19-04-2010
As part of a consent order there was a charge put on my property for when my son reaches 18 or I remarry etc
If i want to buy my ex out before this time I was wondering ........
Do I need...
Added By Stuart on 19-04-2010
Depends if he agrees.
If he does th...
Added By why? on 19-04-2010
why would he not agree?
Added By DC35 on 20-04-2010
He does like to put a spanner in the works...
Added By Stuart on 21-04-2010
I'd get it checked by a solicitor before entering ...
Added By why? on 24-04-2010
hi stuart.
i stilldont understand?w...
Added By Teadrinker on 25-04-2010
I think the difference is that if you sell a house...
Added By why? on 25-04-2010
i see. sounds silly though doesn't it. they either...
Added By DC35 on 25-04-2010
......... even though the house is in my n...
Added By why? on 25-04-2010
as far as im aware. if you both agree a figure the...
Subject: both got nothing - how do we sort finances?
Posted By tantrums on 15-04-2010
Sorting out my partners divorce, and not sure how to go about the finances. They have been apart over five years, and he has nothing of value at all, (20 year old fiesta and 20 year old campervan that doesn't work). No hous...
Subject: statement of arrangement for children problem
Posted By tantrums on 15-04-2010
I'm helping my partner start his divorce based on 5 years separation after his wife took their two year old and left him. They have not been in touch since and we have only just found her address but know nothing else about ...
Added By Stuart on 15-04-2010
The statement of arrangment form is simply to let ...
Added By tantrums on 15-04-2010
She wouldn't let him see the two year old, and her...
Added By evr on 16-04-2010
So you're planning on marrying someone who has not...
Added By why? on 16-04-2010
it seems that the obvious thing to do is enter 'no...
Added By Stuart on 17-04-2010
I think Why? is right.
Statement of...
Added By EnglishRose on 17-04-2010
I would just say the arrangements are not known. I...
Added By tantrums on 18-04-2010
why do you presume that because he has no assets a...
Added By Stuart on 19-04-2010
Yes you are right. This has moved on from your ori...
Added By EnglishRose on 19-04-2010
I know. We get emotive over it. My ex could have h...
Added By tantrums on 19-04-2010
I agree with you both. I know men that have conta...
Added By EnglishRose on 22-04-2010
And it's not your problem anyway. It just is all t...
Added By Stuart on 23-04-2010
"It just is all too typical on these boards - men ...
Added By skovby1 on 23-04-2010
"I don't want 365 nights a year to have to be deal...
Added By Teadrinker on 25-04-2010
ER, do you seriously think your children would be ...
Added By skovby1 on 25-04-2010
LOL @ TD
My son and I got a huge mo...
Added By why? on 25-04-2010
i think er is simply expressing her feelings towar...
Added By Teadrinker on 25-04-2010
I think all parents need breaks and most would pre...
Added By Stuart on 26-04-2010
Just a question tho TD, how do couples who stay to...
Added By why? on 26-04-2010
one of them (usually the man) goes out for few dri...
Added By Teadrinker on 27-04-2010
Stuart, I was replying to ER's comment about deali...
Added By Stuart on 29-04-2010
I just feel so sorry for all these hard done by, h...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-04-2010
I do appreciate what you're saying, Stuart, but ca...
Added By Stuart on 30-04-2010
Yes well TD....you know my thoughts on people like...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-04-2010
Thanks for not yelling at me, Stuart. LOL
<...
Added By divorcedivorce on 04-05-2010
If you do not complete the Statement of Arrangemen...
Subject: child maintenance
Posted By scarlett7318 on 15-04-2010
Hi. Has anyone got any advice for me, please?
I have a bit of a tricky ex (not unusual, I know!), who despite being very well off, manages to get away with paying less than he really should for child maintenanc...
Added By Stuart on 15-04-2010
Not sure what you think can be done.
...
Added By scarlett7318 on 15-04-2010
Thanks Stuart. I appreciate what you are saying an...
Added By JohnR on 15-04-2010
In the first instant, the csa will go on the suppl...
Added By why? on 16-04-2010
it is veryt annoying and upsetting when this sort ...
Added By Stuart on 17-04-2010
In the words of Dom Jolly....
"you ...
Added By divorcedivorce on 04-05-2010
Oh dear another scoundrel who chooses not to pay. ...
Subject: seperation please help
Posted By barks on 07-04-2010
hi,
i left my partner july last year, it was amicable and we are still friends.
we were together 15 years but wernt married and have no children together, however she has 4 children 2 of which still live with h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-04-2010
As you were unmarried your ex partner cannot make ...
Added By barks on 07-04-2010
ok, thanks,
does that mean the council will...
Added By why? on 09-04-2010
i dont know the answer to council housing.i suspec...
Added By LazyLizzie on 09-04-2010
It would be worth calling the council and asking t...
Added By JohnR on 13-04-2010
That analysis of intentional homelessness does not...
Added By LazyLizzie on 13-04-2010
My friend was declared intentionally homeless.
Added By why? on 14-04-2010
that'sa different matter then. it was intentional ...
Added By EnglishRose on 14-04-2010
JohnR sounds right.
What is it with these w...
Added By Stuart on 14-04-2010
When you say "get a job like the rest of us" do yo...
Added By tammy2 on 14-04-2010
That was a bit bitchy Stuart lol, I also work extr...
Added By Teadrinker on 15-04-2010
It sounds to me like she's been bringing up her ch...
Added By why? on 16-04-2010
i dont think the postersaid that his ex has never ...
Added By Teadrinker on 17-04-2010
Well said, why.
Subject: Finacial questions?
Posted By brownie on 05-04-2010
Hi I'm at the point of starting divorce proceeding and wondering how this is likely to leave my financial position.
I'm 52 and have been married for 29 years and have three children 33, 22, 16. My eldest has le...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-04-2010
No, your husband is in for a bit of a shock. Afte...
Subject: Must Consent Order Be Altered?
Posted By MJ2006 on 04-04-2010
All of the things in our consent order have been done apart from selling the house.
The order is that once it is sold and the mortgage costs and joint debts paid our individual debts are paid and we get half ea...
Added By Stuart on 09-04-2010
So does the order not simply state that you split ...
Added By MJ2006 on 12-04-2010
The order says that the unsecured debts should be ...
Subject: Home advice
Posted By susan1970 on 01-04-2010
Hi All, Hope someone can offer some advice. I divorced from my husband 5 years ago and I still live in marital home with our 10 year old daughter. We had a court order which stated that the house is to be sold and be split 65...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-04-2010
"1) If I carry on paying the mortgage myself will ...
Added By susan1970 on 02-04-2010
Thank you for the response.
1) I c...
Added By Stuart on 02-04-2010
Sounds to me like you are asking if you can get th...
Added By susan1970 on 03-04-2010
Sorry Stuart you must be mis-reading my reply. I d...
Added By Stuart on 03-04-2010
Of course the court order still stands!!
I ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-04-2010
I think it's a case of exploring the options to mo...
Added By susan1970 on 04-04-2010
Many thanks to both of you for your comments.
Added By Stuart on 06-04-2010
"He was in fact sacked for gross misconduct, will ...
Added By susan1970 on 07-04-2010
No, don't want any more from the pot. Just want to...
Added By Stuart on 08-04-2010
If your offer amounts to the same as if the house ...
Added By susan1970 on 09-04-2010
Thanks Stuart, Same as you I thought I would not h...
Added By Stuart on 12-04-2010
"but he just said he didn't want me to buy it."
Added By EnglishRose on 14-04-2010
I think you need to explain to him in writing / em...
Added By Stuart on 14-04-2010
Susan, you wouldnt need an order to get the sale s...
Added By susan1970 on 15-04-2010
Thanks Stuart, yes thats what i'm hopeing to do. W...
Subject: Financial Advice
Posted By Stressedmum on 31-03-2010
Hi there,
This is my first time posting on this board but hoping you can help.
My ex and I split up at the beginning of last year. We were together 5 years but married for 19 months. We have two ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-04-2010
When you say 3/6 do you mean the children stay wit...
Added By Stressedmum on 01-04-2010
sorry no i mean he has them 3 weekends in 6.
...
Added By why? on 02-04-2010
you are entitled to your share of the equity in th...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-04-2010
Every case turns on the particular facts and it's ...
Added By Stressedmum on 03-04-2010
hi there, thanks for your replies. I have had a le...
Added By Stuart on 13-04-2010
Im afraid that it looks very much like you will ne...
Subject: Finances and divorce
Posted By frankfrank on 29-03-2010
Never done this before and never want to do it again! Getting divorced.
There doesn't seem to be any standard formula to arive at a financial settlement and yet similar situations must come up many times. It's driving ...
Added By Stuart on 29-03-2010
Spousal maintenance is usually ordered on need and...
Added By frankfrank on 29-03-2010
I have a pension of 100,000 she has one of 37,000....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-03-2010
A good starting point is to consider how everyone ...
Subject: Extracurricular activities
Posted By Loobee on 29-03-2010
I have a Minute of Agreement under which my ex agreed to pay me a fixed figure of monthly maintenance for our daughter and to cover the cost of her extracurricular activities. He is now arguing that dance and drama do not fa...
Added By Stuart on 29-03-2010
How long has the maintenance order been in force?<...
Added By Loobee on 29-03-2010
The order has only been in force since October 200...
Added By JohnR on 29-03-2010
As a rule of thumb, if he lives and works abroad f...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-03-2010
Under which jurisdiction was the Minute of Agreeme...
Added By Loobee on 30-03-2010
The agreement falls under Scottish jurisdiction. ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-04-2010
Ok, if the MoS has been registered through the Sco...
Subject: Wills
Posted By teadrinker on 23-03-2010
Does anyone know any good books or websites regarding everything to do with wills please? I'm struggling to find the information I need. Thanks.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-03-2010
Which? used to publish a do it yourself guide to w...
Added By Simes 2p on 24-03-2010
TD, you little sexpot you. I did study them on my...
Added By Teadrinker on 24-03-2010
I think I'm more teapot than sexpot, Simes...
Added By EnglishRose on 26-03-2010
If the will names a lawyer and the relatives want ...
Added By Teadrinker on 26-03-2010
Thanks, ER.
Added By Teadrinker on 30-03-2010
Simes, are you ever going to get off that dating s...
Added By Simes 2p on 31-03-2010
TD, if I ever get back here, which I must admit ha...
Added By Teadrinker on 31-03-2010
Thanks, Simes. I also remember saying Marry in Has...
Subject: Investigating cheating & marital infidelity!!!
Posted By vporkz on 22-03-2010
E Snoop Zone: Email Surveillance Services...
For all those people who want to find out if your partner is cheating or the password to your partner’s Yahoo!/Gmail/msn/AOL and other. Or if you are a pa...
Added By Stuart on 29-03-2010
You might as well be advertising hitman services f...
Subject: Do women's income really not matter?
Posted By 2010divorce on 20-03-2010
Future ex wife is looking for £300 CM despite earning £8k more than me, gets all the child benefit and tax credits (must be worth £500 a month) despite me having him nearly a 3rd of the month.
I'm in expensive rent...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-03-2010
Both parties 'needs,' incomes and obligations are ...
Added By EnglishRose on 21-03-2010
I don't get anything as I earn so much despite hav...
Subject: changing a court order
Posted By julie21 on 20-03-2010
can i do this.
circumstances have changed. ex partner off work sick, paying half maintenance, i now have three disabled children. third son diagnosed. All will live at home for a long time.
atm there is a charg...
Added By JohnR on 21-03-2010
You asked a very similar question on 9-8-2009.
Subject: Court Costs
Posted By david1972 on 20-03-2010
Hello Everyone,
I would like a little advice please. A residency case for my children is nearing completion and my ex-wife's solicitor has told me, off the record, that her chances of getting the children back...
Added By Stuart on 20-03-2010
Her costs are hers and not classed as marital debt...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-03-2010
Each party is responsible for their own costs unle...
Added By david1972 on 20-03-2010
Thank you for your responses. My ex had a legal ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-03-2010
A costs order for children cases is actually fair...
Added By david1972 on 21-03-2010
My ex's solicitor has advised my ex will be having...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-03-2010
Unless a solicitor has considerable experience it ...
Subject: Divorced? Local High Street Firm v City Firm
Posted By r_elise on 17-03-2010
Hi, I am conducting some research with regards to how people choose their law firm in a divorce. So to those people who have been through a divorce or are going through one, what motivated you to choose the firm you have/did ...
Subject: Financial settlement
Posted By tammy2 on 17-03-2010
Hi
Can anyone help me, me and my ex have agreed a financial settlement without solicitors but used a contract purchased from the internet, the house has been transferred into my name and he has moved out with the lump ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-03-2010
Grr... this highlights problems with both separat...
Added By tammy2 on 18-03-2010
This is worrying my now, my ex did have to go to a...
Added By Simes 2p on 19-03-2010
Tams, If the house is worth £100K and he took £...
Added By tammy2 on 20-03-2010
Simes/sometimesitdoesn't work
My ex...
Added By EnglishRose on 20-03-2010
Divorce on the basis of his unreasonable behaviour...
Added By tammy2 on 20-03-2010
Thanks EnglishRose - How do I now start divorce pr...
Added By EnglishRose on 21-03-2010
It's not hard. You can do it yourself. You can als...
Added By tammy2 on 21-03-2010
Hi All
What are the best divorce pa...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-03-2010
The actual divorce isn't too difficult to do yours...
Added By tammy2 on 23-03-2010
Thanks to everyone for all your help
...
Subject: Settling Finances After Absolute
Posted By Caroline on 17-03-2010
I got a letter this morning informing me that my marriage has been dissolved. I am surprised as we are still mid negotiation as to the wording of the consent order, I was not legally represented and had not signed a piece of...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-03-2010
Was your husband the petitioner? If so the petitio...
Subject: Enforcing a Consent Order Overseas?
Posted By carla99 on 12-03-2010
Hi, just wondered if anyone out there had any experience of enforcing a Consent Order overseas? I have been involved in a legal nightmare for over 3 years (having been divorced/separated since 1999) and now my ex isn't payin...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-03-2010
Is this maintenance or a settlement of capital? T...
Added By carla99 on 12-03-2010
It's maintenance plus a lot of legal costs. The c...
Subject: c/m also other issues
Posted By woodentop on 09-03-2010
i was never awarded or received c/m for 3 children when my A/R proceedings were sorted back in 2000,i it has come to the time now when the home has to be sold due to the trigger events and my ex receives his share %.
H...
Added By why? on 09-03-2010
crikey.
gather all your thoughts. write do...
Added By JohnR on 09-03-2010
Taking the contents of the other post you made: Yo...
Added By woodentop on 09-03-2010
Thanks john u made some good points,i think he is ...
Added By Stuart on 09-03-2010
The way I see it is that on the face of things:-
Added By Simes 2p on 10-03-2010
There is a legal notion of acquiescence. If he kn...
Added By woodentop on 10-03-2010
Simes he normally is a self litigant so i would be...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-03-2010
What are the exact terms of the Mesher order? Oft...
Added By woodentop on 10-03-2010
yes the last one is by futher order (sometime) the...
Added By why? on 10-03-2010
well, you are not remaried or cohabiting so that t...
Added By woodentop on 11-03-2010
Why ) cohabitie stole paperwork when he left and o...
Added By why? on 11-03-2010
all i can say is that anything you can find or cop...
Added By woodentop on 11-03-2010
Thanyyou why for your good advice i am dreading go...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-03-2010
The problem with Mesher orders is often rehousing ...
Added By EnglishRose on 11-03-2010
John is right.
So if by failing formally t...
Added By JohnR on 11-03-2010
If a Mesher triggers but nothing is done about it,...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-03-2010
Who said no one was working, all the OP said was h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-03-2010
"is important" ? grrr.. That should be "are" of c...
Added By woodentop on 14-03-2010
would i be able to s/r ?on the first hearing it is...
Added By JohnR on 14-03-2010
There are two issues.
As regards th...
Added By woodentop on 14-03-2010
court mesher order wasin 2000 he brought another h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-03-2010
Using documents wrongfully taken may lead to findi...
Added By JohnR on 15-03-2010
Reminds me of something Sir Walter Scott said.
Added By woodentop on 15-03-2010
Any thoughts on the aspect of the fact that he is ...
Added By JohnR on 16-03-2010
The situation you describe is not typical. Also, I...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-03-2010
Surely the documents he has are irrelevent. He wi...
Added By woodentop on 16-03-2010
JohnR can you come with me? please
...
Added By Stuart on 17-03-2010
On the face of it the simple way forward has surel...
Added By why? on 18-03-2010
would the fact that the cohabitee has only now dec...
Added By woodentop on 18-03-2010
It is i would think to get back at me because he h...
Added By JohnR on 18-03-2010
I rarely go anywhere these days. In any event. Lei...
Added By EnglishRose on 20-03-2010
Also go on nethouseprices.com and look at real sal...
Added By woodentop on 21-03-2010
englishweed ,i will disregard your useless post.
Subject: questionnaire and statement of issues!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted By easyrider on 08-03-2010
Help.. I need to submitt the above next week and do not know what I am suppose to write. Can anyone give me some pointers please?
Added By easyrider on 09-03-2010
please can any one help
Subject: ancillary relief
Posted By retina on 08-03-2010
BACKGROUND
Marriage duration 7 years
No children
No property
Had a matrimonial account which had £ 9,000 at time of separation.
a divorce petition based on 2 years separatio...
Added By woodentop on 08-03-2010
I am sure u hav to wait 4 decree absolute,i have ...
Added By retina on 08-03-2010
If my wife becomes a petitioner and I become the r...
Added By why? on 08-03-2010
the divorce can be finalised (decree absolute) lon...
Added By JohnR on 09-03-2010
If you want a clean break by consent, then you wil...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-03-2010
As John says the only sure way to finalize a settl...
Subject: how to stop a financial order by respondent on d 8
Posted By retina on 08-03-2010
BACKGROUND
Marriage duration 7 years
No children
No property
Had a matrimonial account which had £ 9,000 at time of separartion.
I am filling a divorce petition based on 2 y...
Subject: Barrister says if won’t get clean break
Posted By mrnoone on 07-03-2010
Hi ,
I was in court on Friday. X2be has applied for Spouse Maintenance, Child Maintenance and a Lump Sum.... not sure how many other check boxes there are for women .... Sorry women!
Anyhow, I’ve ask...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-03-2010
Regardless of gender spouse maintenance is paid by...
Subject: Non-EEA family member retaining residence in the UK?
Posted By MovingForward on 06-03-2010
Hello
I am an EEA national residing in the UK, my Egyptian husband joined me just over one year ago, he was granted 5 year residence here on the basis of being married to me. We have been married for over 3 yea...
Added By Stuart on 08-03-2010
Not really sure what it is you are after to be hon...
Added By MovingForward on 09-03-2010
No, I don't want him to be deported, after all, he...
Added By Stuart on 09-03-2010
Not sure what this really has to do with the mecha...
Subject: enforcement of consent order
Posted By woodentop on 06-03-2010
have received a D11application from ex to force me to sell my home due to a trigger from consent order. trigger he states is cohabitation ,a friend did move into my home and stayed for 3 years,my ex always was completely awar...
Added By Stuart on 08-03-2010
Not sure he will get anymore money but I think he ...
Added By woodentop on 08-03-2010
Stuart the paper work he took was benefit letters ...
Subject: Form D81 and Disclosure
Posted By dubaidivorcee on 27-02-2010
Hi - I recently got divorced from my husband and we amicably agreed to a consent agreement last year which involved me paying him a sum of money for his beneficial interest in the properties we owned (some him, some me, some ...
Added By EnglishRose on 27-02-2010
I don't think so. If you can challenge for materia...
Added By why? on 28-02-2010
my solicitor has been advising me recently about b...
Added By JohnR on 28-02-2010
In certain cirucmstances a bankruptcy trustee migh...
Added By dubaidivorcee on 02-03-2010
Thank you all - its comforting to hear this.
...
Added By JohnR on 03-03-2010
There is an an analysis of the case law at the fol...
Subject: How do I stand
Posted By johnny2 on 25-02-2010
Hi all,
I had a very short marriage - just under 3 years. Been divorced just under 5 years now. I haven't paid spousal maintenance as none was request but I have paid CM based on CSA rules since day 1 and never...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-02-2010
The CSA considers contractual redundancy pay as in...
Added By johnny2 on 25-02-2010
Thanks for this!
So it's best to keep my m...
Added By why? on 25-02-2010
if you have any money at all then surely you shoul...
Added By johnny2 on 26-02-2010
I haven't said I won't pay plus she has remarried,...
Added By why? on 26-02-2010
sorry.i dint mean to be offensive. i thought from ...
Added By EnglishRose on 27-02-2010
If you are in England the final divorce financials...
Added By Fedup2007 on 27-02-2010
Surely since she has remarried she is not entitled...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-02-2010
Who was the petitioner for divorce? With regard to...
Added By johnny2 on 02-03-2010
what is the remarriage trap?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-03-2010
The "remarriage trap" refers to s28(3) Matrimonial...
Added By johnny2 on 04-03-2010
Having contacted a division of CMEC today they hav...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-03-2010
Was your wife the petitioner for divorce?
Added By johnny2 on 04-03-2010
Yes she was
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-03-2010
In that case there is every chance the boxes claim...
Added By johnny2 on 04-03-2010
I'm not sure exactly what all that means??
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-03-2010
In the divorce petition the applicant is asked if ...
Added By johnny2 on 05-03-2010
Thanks for your explanation. I'm not sure if this ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-03-2010
If there is no court order settling the finances t...
Added By johnny2 on 05-03-2010
Blimey that is so unfair. That is literally having...
Subject: Quickie....
Posted By Stuart on 25-02-2010
Just a quick question....
If A & B get a divorce but dont finalise their finances (ie, nothing written giving clean break) and then either A or B comes into money either via inheritance or a lottery win then do...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-02-2010
Potentially, yes.
Added By why? on 25-02-2010
i would assume that it would only apply however if...
Added By Simes 2p on 26-02-2010
Stu, has the one wanting to make a claim remarried...
Added By Stuart on 26-02-2010
Thanks Simes....made me laugh....
B...
Added By Simes 2p on 26-02-2010
Stu,
Its a bit more involved than n...
Added By LazyLizzie on 28-02-2010
Stu, asuming you are not the only beneficiary in t...
Subject: tax implications on remarriage
Posted By Kat007 on 20-02-2010
So for some reason the ex has written to me asking me a question about tax implications and him getting married seriously what planet is he on.
He said that when he gets married he will not be able to pay any ...
Added By Stuart on 20-02-2010
Kat....he is pulling your chain...
...
Added By Owl1 on 20-02-2010
Kat, IGNORE,IGNORE, IGNORE.
Go and...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-02-2010
Kat ignore him. He is liable to pay SM unless he a...
Added By Stuart on 20-02-2010
Id keep the letter actually....
Mig...
Added By EnglishRose on 20-02-2010
I would write a short email back saying he cannot ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 21-02-2010
I would write back explaining that you will charge...
Added By Stuart on 21-02-2010
Why bother wasting time and breath on communicatin...
Added By Kat007 on 24-02-2010
Did not respond to that letter but kept it on file...
Added By Ess on 25-02-2010
Well done Kat. I know how hard it is to ignore th...
Subject: slippery slope in wrong direction
Posted By why? on 18-02-2010
as some of you know, h had initially offered to pay mortgage until redeemed. i was totally against the idea of h paying mortgage initially. given the lack of trust and his fecklessness with money, the very suggestion was ridi...
Added By Fedup2007 on 18-02-2010
why?
Why don't you just sell that damn hous...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-02-2010
There are different options, for example a Mesher ...
Added By why? on 18-02-2010
thanks stidw.
does amesher order however,no...
Added By JohnR on 21-02-2010
You are either going to have to stay with the curr...
Subject: No sharing of tax credits
Posted By EnglishRose on 17-02-2010
I've never earned as little as to get one iota of tax credits and I'd abolish them and replace them with lower taxes but anyway... this might be of interest...
No child tax credit for part-time father
Added By why? on 18-02-2010
i didntrealise that ctc could not be split so that...
Added By EnglishRose on 18-02-2010
I think it's very wrong lazy mothers who choose no...
Added By Owl1 on 18-02-2010
ER has it ever occurred to you that without an au ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-02-2010
Tax credits aren't benefits. They are paid to 90%...
Added By why? on 19-02-2010
hi owl.
thereare 2 areas. working tax credi...
Added By Stuart on 20-02-2010
Is it just me or does anyone else find ER's posts ...
Added By Owl1 on 21-02-2010
I don't find them offensive Stuart.
...
Subject: Form E
Posted By easyrider on 17-02-2010
Form E’s have been submitted to court. Are all settlement calculations based on the figures on Form E or will the based on the figures at the time of calculation? Can Ex get away with spending some buy paying legal bills?
Added By easyrider on 18-02-2010
can anyone help?
Subject: advice
Posted By riquelme on 15-02-2010
Hi all 1st time on this board and bit scared.
Ok things arent working out after quite a few months of trying so we have bith agreed to go our separate ways. We have 2 young children that i love dearly. We own a house ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-02-2010
It's not a bad idea to see a solicitor independent...
Subject: measher order
Posted By radley on 13-02-2010
I canot afford to pay off the x2b, so looking to agree a measher order - so the family home would be sold when the youngest child leaves school, she is 14 at the moment. He is not paying anything towards the mortgage or life...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-02-2010
Usually the person living in the property is resp...
Added By why? on 14-02-2010
if you are definately going to have to sell the ho...
Added By Stuart on 16-02-2010
You will be required to pay for the upkeep of the ...
Added By woodentop on 06-03-2010
i would never ever have agreed to a mesher orde...
Subject: Preparing for FDR
Posted By Big Tony on 13-02-2010
Hi First time on the board . I am representing myself, cant afford a solicitor. My ex has a solicitor and it frightens me how much it will cost. Managed to survive the First appointment, now awaiting date for FDR. I currenty...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-02-2010
Best to stand back and keep emotion out of it. Emo...
Added By Owl1 on 13-02-2010
Tony you are not saving on your ex's legal fees by...
Added By Stuart on 16-02-2010
LOL.....I love it when solicitors make threats and...
Added By EnglishRose on 17-02-2010
If someone says contact me only through my lawyers...
Added By Stuart on 17-02-2010
Aha but thats where solicitors get it wrong....man...
Added By Owl1 on 18-02-2010
Stuart solicitors have no personal interest in whe...
Added By EnglishRose on 18-02-2010
I suppose the legal issue is if someone says do no...
Added By Suvla1915 on 18-02-2010
"All contact to go through solicitors" is just pla...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-02-2010
In our case my ex's straight forward answer was ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 19-02-2010
Ah well, sometimes it's the opposite and the perso...
Added By Big Tony on 19-02-2010
Many thanks for all your comments, i am amazed by ...
Added By Owl1 on 19-02-2010
Suvla, I appreciate your comments but with respect...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-02-2010
There isn't sufficient cause for an injunction but...
Added By Stuart on 20-02-2010
"Stuart solicitors have no personal interest in wh...
Added By Owl1 on 20-02-2010
Stuart all family lawyers I know tell their client...
Added By Suvla1915 on 21-02-2010
Owl, point taken and agreed regarding contact, but...
Added By Owl1 on 21-02-2010
I don't think it cuts down on anything for Tony Su...
Added By Suvla1915 on 21-02-2010
Thta's what I said - it would cut down on cost for...
Subject: marital home/ mortgage
Posted By why? on 13-02-2010
having found a lender who has given me an agreement in principle and will process application prior to consent order but cant consider final application until consent order is approved and then face possible knowck back at la...
Subject: can ex2b legally force a sale
Posted By 1964solo on 12-02-2010
My ex wife 2b moved out 15 months ago "to have a chance of a proper relationship" with her new partner. She is living in rented accommodation with him being round there at least 4 nights a week (is this enough to be classed a...
Added By Stuart on 12-02-2010
The only way she can "force" a sale is by getting ...
Added By 1964solo on 12-02-2010
Thanks for the comment I cant really afford to buy...
Added By Stuart on 12-02-2010
Well, dont worry....she cant pull the carpet from ...
Subject: DIY Court Process for a Consent Order?
Posted By workingitout on 11-02-2010
Hello everyone,
Glad I found this site...I've been following for a while and really hope that someone can help with my question...
I recently seperated from my partner of 20 years (unmarried) and...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-02-2010
There are certain matters that can be done DIY wit...
Added By workingitout on 11-02-2010
Blimey, thanks for that. Because this concerns jus...
Subject: First appointment
Posted By easyrider on 09-02-2010
What happens and how long does it last?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-02-2010
In a nutshell at the FA the judge decides how the ...
Subject: Tertiary Education & Gap Years
Posted By Hal37 on 08-02-2010
Apologies if this is covered elsewhere but I can't locate it. I'll bullet the relevant facts:
- Child in final year of secondary education (A level college)
- Child is now 18
- Court Order (from 2...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-02-2010
I just answered a similar question below;
<...
Added By Hal37 on 09-02-2010
Thanks for the information, but as awlays there is...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-02-2010
Yes, I agree there is always a "however." The prob...
Added By EnglishRose on 13-02-2010
Our court order says I pay school fees and the ter...
Subject: Nightly stays reduction - Maximum?
Posted By jamesbrown on 08-02-2010
Hi All
Our second question.........
My partner and her Ex Husband split / divorced in 2005. (12 years married)
The 3 kids stayed at his house but my partner had the full day to day...
Added By Stuart on 08-02-2010
I would say that the father is the parent with car...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-02-2010
As far as the CSA are concerned the PWC is the par...
Added By jamesbrown on 08-02-2010
Hi Stuart
Sorry if my post ( and t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-02-2010
James, which new rules do you mean? The introducti...
Added By jamesbrown on 09-02-2010
Hi
We had been looking at the new"O...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-02-2010
As far as I'm aware CM Options are trying to move ...
Added By jamesbrown on 09-02-2010
Thank you for that.
I think you hav...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-02-2010
lol - Actually you have hit the nail on the head. ...
Subject: CM for Uni. Does NRP have to pay?
Posted By jamesbrown on 08-02-2010
Hi All
After many years we are back with another question
Brief background
My partner and her Ex Husband split / divorced in 2005. (12 years married)
The 3 kids stay...
Added By Stuart on 08-02-2010
Jeez....you really do seem to have an axe to grind...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-02-2010
Yes, under schedule 1 Children Act 1989 over 18s i...
Added By jamesbrown on 09-02-2010
Thank you STIDW
Long late night cha...
Subject: CSA question
Posted By Kat007 on 07-02-2010
Hi all,
Just need to ask advice as I have tried to phone them.
Ex decided to reduce his payments without a reassement or proving his income had changed this was 12 weeks ago, I checked with the c...
Added By Simes 2p on 07-02-2010
Kat, if he has underpaid, he will have to pay what...
Added By Kat007 on 08-02-2010
Hi Simes,
Thank you for the answer,...
Added By LazyLizzie on 08-02-2010
Kat, I wouldn't give him any money back. In his tw...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-02-2010
CSA payments are calculated on the average number ...
Added By Stuart on 08-02-2010
"He is taking the kids away for a week so was goin...
Added By Kat007 on 11-02-2010
CM is for one child only and I have had to use it ...
Added By why? on 13-02-2010
kat. i am horrified that you even considered givin...
Added By Kat007 on 13-02-2010
Thanks why? for the response, after finally speaki...
Added By why? on 14-02-2010
i really feel for you kat. it just shouldnt be the...
Subject: Effect of new/old partner on Settlement
Posted By soulfollower on 05-02-2010
Hi All
Sorry to post on this subject again, thought it was all sorted until last night.
I wonder what the general opinion is out there for this situation.
Basically had an agreemen...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-02-2010
If your ex wife is cohabiting with her ex husband ...
Added By soulfollower on 05-02-2010
Thanks stidw, but I dont fully understand that the...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-02-2010
I'm not saying you are being unfair. If someone c...
Added By EnglishRose on 06-02-2010
In other words she's not remarried her ex husband ...
Added By soulfollower on 05-03-2010
Final Update
Thanks for the advice ...
Subject: Settling after break up
Posted By Hodditt on 03-02-2010
Hi everyone.
My story is that my wife and I recently split up after 14 years of marriage and we have kids.
I'm keen to make it a 50/50 split and get on with my life as she has made it clear she...
Added By Stuart on 03-02-2010
It all depends on a whole load of factors...
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-02-2010
The actual divorce and finances are treated separa...
Added By EnglishRose on 05-02-2010
Move back in. Don't agree to leave until she buys ...
Subject: Question about division of finances under scots law
Posted By RedE on 01-02-2010
My X2b and I have been married for 8 years and seperated a year ago. We both agree on filing for divorce but trying to reach an agreement on financial matters. Thankfully there are no children involved.
My fina...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-02-2010
The clean break underpins Scots law and spouses ar...
Subject: How do I get free of this?
Posted By Stranded on 26-01-2010
Hello everyone,
I hope you might be able to offer some advice. I am in the beginning stages of divorce, we were married for 5 years. She had the property before I met her and I am happy to have it signed back over to h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-01-2010
Although the family courts can order transfers of ...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-01-2010
Who earns the most - you or her? Next time make su...
Added By Stuart on 29-01-2010
ER, are you fo real??
Added By dave_b on 29-01-2010
ER,you churn out the same reply about hooking up w...
Added By LazyLizzie on 30-01-2010
I am not too clued up on how to go about it but co...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-01-2010
Sorry that was a typo in my last post - I meant "...
Added By EnglishRose on 30-01-2010
(but your other half LL must haev earned enough to...
Added By LazyLizzie on 30-01-2010
ER, my ex was paid more than me - and still is. (N...
Added By EnglishRose on 31-01-2010
You're right and the average wage is only about £...
Added By Stranded on 31-01-2010
Thank you for your replies. We have no children. I...
Added By Paddington on 02-02-2010
Stranded, she cannot continue borrowing and commit...
Added By Stranded on 02-02-2010
Thank you for your reply Paddington, may I ask why...
Added By why? on 13-02-2010
er.
your advice to women about making sure ...
Subject: What if I walk out on my wife
Posted By gavin1962000 on 26-01-2010
Our mortagage and life insurance is in joint names. I pay every payment.
All other household bills are paid by me and are registered in my name.
My wages do not cover the outgoings and slowly the credit card deb...
Added By Stuart on 26-01-2010
"Incidently I am covertly recording these outburst...
Added By LazyLizzie on 27-01-2010
I like the last bit of Stuart's advice. Divorce is...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-01-2010
Why does your wife "go off on one"?
...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-01-2010
Why should you leave rather than her? Do you have ...
Added By Stuart on 01-02-2010
"Why should you leave rather than her?"
Added By EnglishRose on 01-02-2010
Happens a lot though.
Added By why? on 14-02-2010
reality check. his wife only works one hour a day ...
Subject: Bank Statements
Posted By easyrider on 24-01-2010
Ex's sol is requesting 3 years of bank statements. I thought I only need to supply 1 years worth?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-01-2010
It depends on the circumstances. There are occasio...
Added By easyrider on 25-01-2010
so I can offer 12 months and if the court requests...
Added By Big Tony on 13-02-2010
On your Form E you only have to supply 12 months, ...
Added By why? on 14-02-2010
we were going to ask for 2 years statements but fo...
Subject: Assignment of endownment policy
Posted By Paddington on 22-01-2010
I have an endowment policy in joint names. As part of the settlement, I have to pay my ex half the current surrender value at which point she must " assign all her interest in the policy". In other words, I will continue wi...
Added By EnglishRose on 30-01-2010
yes it would be. Get her to sign it and ideally ge...
Added By Paddington on 02-02-2010
Thanks ER. I have written back to the insurance c...
Added By Paddington on 05-02-2010
..and the good news is that they have now decided ...
Subject: Ascertaining precise income for CM
Posted By Caroline on 21-01-2010
STBXH's sol has drawn up a consent order which provides for periodical payments for my sons at "20% net income. Net income defined as gross income less tax, national insurance and any payments made in respect of any pension ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-01-2010
M1 is a simplified financial statement which has t...
Added By Caroline on 21-01-2010
STIDW - Thank you very much for your prompt reply....
Added By EnglishRose on 30-01-2010
Whoever drafted this has made a mess of it. Nothin...
Subject: Cheap divorce
Posted By CelticRose on 19-01-2010
My partner & I have been separated for a couple of years now and I'm now looking to divorce. The main problem is that we don't have much spare cash to spare so we want to keep everything as cheap as possible.
I...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-01-2010
When you live in Scotland, there are no children u...
Subject: Am I divorced or not? ... help!
Posted By whichwaysup on 17-01-2010
I received papers from the county court this week - ive had no previous notice of this.
It states that hereby certified that the said decree was on the ...date... made final and absolute and that the said marr...
Added By LazyLizzie on 17-01-2010
If nobody else comes up with a better reply, I wou...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-01-2010
Answered on the other board.
Subject: Child Maintenance
Posted By Meerkat on 16-01-2010
Hi, am new user to the site although I have referred to it on numerous occasion over the years and am looking for some advice please.
Separated in 05, divorced in Feb 08. Exh suggested and agreed to pay CM £2...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-01-2010
Good you have decided to join us.
...
Added By Meerkat on 17-01-2010
Thank you very much for your reply. I will not ha...
Added By Stuart on 17-01-2010
So STIDW what you are effectively saying is that n...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-01-2010
If only it was that straightforward. Ultimately M...
Added By Stuart on 17-01-2010
Its like an episode of soap.....for those of you o...
Added By Teadrinker on 18-01-2010
Yep, I remember it! lol
Added By JohnR on 19-01-2010
Soap?
Look at:
http:...
Added By Kat007 on 06-02-2010
remember soap lol,
I know the CSA s...
Added By Meerkat on 09-02-2010
Thank you Kat007. I did not attend court but wrote...
Subject: now im curious
Posted By why? on 15-01-2010
as many of you know, h offered to pay mortgage until cleared either sooner or within the agreed term.
after much thought and reading of his offer i realised that he referred to the spousal maintenance and the m...
Added By Owl1 on 15-01-2010
Why, I think one of your main problems is that you...
Added By why? on 15-01-2010
hello owl.
you are absolutely corre...
Added By Owl1 on 16-01-2010
"you are absolutely correct. i dont know what ques...
Added By LazyLizzie on 16-01-2010
Owl, there is some excellent advice there.
...
Added By why? on 16-01-2010
thanks folks.
i do need to discuss things t...
Added By Owl1 on 16-01-2010
Why, you have probably unwittingly spent the last ...
Added By why? on 16-01-2010
hi owl.
thanks and yes i know ive g...
Subject: Inheritance entitlement
Posted By smp999 on 14-01-2010
My wife and I are going through a divorce, petitioned in the new year.
Last year (July) my father in law passed away, he leaves an estate worth a considerable amount of money. The estate is eventually to be split betwe...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Financial settlements depend on all the facts part...
Added By SMP999 on 15-01-2010
And what does that exactly mean in laymans terms?....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-01-2010
In layman's terms it means it isn't clear cut whet...
Subject: Clean Break Order
Posted By Bubbles36 on 14-01-2010
I was not sure which board to put this on so I have covered both. My divorce finally came through today, I was the petitioner and he was ordered to pay costs... the thing is I got a letter form his solicitors asking me to sig...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Basically it is saying there will be no order for ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 15-01-2010
I am not claiming anything .. and I did a bit of r...
Subject: expenditure on third party
Posted By why? on 14-01-2010
one more thing.
is it reasonable for me to say that i want h to pay back my half share of the funds used to finance his gf's holidays, jewellery, clothing and household costs?
she does not work and the financia...
Added By Stuart on 14-01-2010
Naaa....I reckon you have no chance of succeeding ...
Added By JohnR on 14-01-2010
When the court divides assets and resources, it is...
Added By why? on 14-01-2010
the liquid assets are pretty good although they on...
Added By Suvla1915 on 14-01-2010
Well actually, he will have to account for any sig...
Added By JohnR on 14-01-2010
From what has been said, the impression given is t...
Added By why? on 14-01-2010
h has fully furnished a large 4bedroom house. we a...
Added By JohnR on 16-01-2010
You have stated that in the normal course of event...
Added By why? on 16-01-2010
the savings account does not allow either party to...
Added By Owl1 on 16-01-2010
Why, earnings are just that earnings from business...
Added By why? on 16-01-2010
hello. he is meeting this expenditure by credit ca...
Added By JohnR on 16-01-2010
I cannot see how you can have a savings account th...
Added By why? on 16-01-2010
no john, sorry. i should have explained. we have a...
Added By JohnR on 17-01-2010
I think the issue here is that where there is an o...
Added By why? on 17-01-2010
thanks john.
yes, i appreciate its ...
Subject: understanding sm
Posted By why? on 13-01-2010
ok. i understand that sm on a joint lives basis just means until cohabitation/remarriage/death. ie: it could just be paid for a year or it could be paid for life. one extreme or the other by the sounds of it.
w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-01-2010
Any change in circumstances and either party can ...
Added By why? on 14-01-2010
thanks stidw.
so basically, if it isn't sta...
Added By Stuart on 14-01-2010
"IT might be SM is reduced as you start employment...
Added By why? on 14-01-2010
i think stidw means that even if my income does in...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Unless the court varies the amount of SM or the t...
Added By Stuart on 14-01-2010
That just smacks of greed STIDW IMO....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Everyone is entitled to an opinion but the only on...
Added By Stuart on 17-01-2010
I understand this where there has been a long marr...
Added By why? on 17-01-2010
i dont think that just the length of a marriage in...
Subject: what conditions would you recommend?
Posted By why? on 11-01-2010
if h pays the mortgage am i able to state that it must continue as a repayment mortgage and that he can not change it to interest only?
am i able to remove my name from the mortgage in order to prevent being ch...
Added By Owl1 on 12-01-2010
Hi Why
I'll answer your questions i...
Added By LazyLizzie on 12-01-2010
Why, am I correct in thinking that your ex is subs...
Added By why? on 12-01-2010
hi guys.
i have been getting financ...
Added By Owl1 on 13-01-2010
"if h does not agree to an arrangement which allow...
Added By why? on 13-01-2010
thanks for all your input.
although there a...
Subject: Obstructive and defying final Order
Posted By pete100 on 10-01-2010
No children involved. No mortgage or loans. Decree absolute issued. Sealed Consent Order requiring sale of FMH with proceeds shared equally. H sole occupier of FMH and financially well off had agreed (2 years ago) to sell th...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-01-2010
Why not ask for vacant possession and control of t...
Subject: Spousal Maintenance
Posted By popsy on 08-01-2010
Hi, am new to this site.
I have been separated/divorced for 5 years. Met a lovely guy last year and he proposed on New Year's Eve. My ex pays very good child maintenance and spousal maintenance. The Consent Order sa...
Added By evr on 08-01-2010
If the consent order says SM continues until you m...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-01-2010
That's right. I assume you earn less than your ex....
Added By Stuart on 10-01-2010
lol....let them eat cake.......
Subject: Here we go again....
Posted By Suvla1915 on 08-01-2010
Back to court today.
No idea why.
Was it his solicitor who held up the order?
Was it him?
Why would he want a hearing when he agrees the handwritten signed order is binding?
Wha...
Added By evr on 08-01-2010
Keep us posted!
Added By Suvla1915 on 08-01-2010
Well, it didn't happen. Hearing called off two hou...
Added By Jellylegs on 08-01-2010
Suing his barrister - he is mad! Get settled ASAP...
Subject: Women who want it all!
Posted By K@ on 05-01-2010
My partner is just going through a divorce and i am trying not to get involved but his Ex is being completely unrealistic, incredibly selfish and greedy in her demands. It was supposed to be about needs, not wants but she is ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 05-01-2010
See answer below.
It's their busine...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-01-2010
Yes, I think you have to be very careful not to ta...
Added By why? on 06-01-2010
crikey!
at first glance i thought this was ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 06-01-2010
Funny, I thought that too why!!
Added By EnglishRose on 07-01-2010
not a good country to be the higher earner in. I e...
Added By Suvla1915 on 07-01-2010
Yes, but lots of men just want the woman to stay a...
Added By Teadrinker on 08-01-2010
ER, are you saying that all men should marry women...
Added By Stuart on 08-01-2010
Erm......
All I wanted was a partner of equ...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-01-2010
WQell if he has a baby with his new woman and give...
Added By why? on 09-01-2010
hi k.
i think it is important to ke...
Added By Teadrinker on 09-01-2010
I agree with Why. When I read the comment "On top ...
Added By why? on 09-01-2010
when i first met my h, his money didnt impress me,...
Added By K@ on 09-01-2010
Thanks to everyone who added their bit but I'm sur...
Added By Suvla1915 on 09-01-2010
Sorry, didn't think it was about me, thought it wa...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-01-2010
I wish I had £1 for every person who says their p...
Added By Teadrinker on 10-01-2010
I'd also like £1 for every new partner who is con...
Added By Owl1 on 10-01-2010
Wise words and great advice from STIDW. Also Teadr...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-01-2010
K, as you were looking for some practical advice, ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 12-01-2010
The intital question was not about the children at...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-01-2010
Sulva, 99% of people word their frustration in exa...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-01-2010
Actually Sulva, remembering the way it happened, I...
Added By Suvla1915 on 12-01-2010
Paracetamol not recommended. It gives you time to ...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-01-2010
Sulva, I didn't do the Paracetemol because I didn'...
Added By Teadrinker on 12-01-2010
Well as a non money-grabbing and non contact-block...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-01-2010
I think if you hang around FnF it isn't surprisng ...
Added By K@ on 28-01-2010
It's amazing to read the differences of opinion fr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-01-2010
K wrote;
"his Ex IS lazy, manipulat...
Added By Suvla1915 on 30-01-2010
You shouldn't really insult people if you want con...
Added By Owl1 on 07-02-2010
K you ask in your first post for helpful advice.
Subject: How to find out who is registered for council tax?
Posted By whichwaysup on 05-01-2010
Can anyone advise me how to find out who is registered to pay council tax at an address.
My ex partner is now living with someone else and is claiming to have next to no income (hes a company director, within space of ...
Added By Stuart on 06-01-2010
I dont quite understand why you would want such in...
Added By Stuart on 06-01-2010
Hang on...Im a bit confused...
Your...
Added By why? on 06-01-2010
hi. this is precisely the sort of thing i am going...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-01-2010
Were you married to him or just partners?
Added By JohnR on 09-01-2010
From what the OP is saying, it looks like there is...
Added By whichwaysup on 17-01-2010
Thanks for all your posts...
No we ...
Added By JohnR on 27-01-2010
Income can drop like that. I know people where it ...
Subject: Would you like to talk about your divorce experience?
Posted By Laura71 on 05-01-2010
I am looking for women aged 25-40 to talk about their experience of divorce for Fabulous magazine (the glossy lifestyle magazine that comes with NOTW); we can pay a fee for your time.
If you.....
...
Added By Simes 2p on 07-01-2010
I am looking for women aged 25-40.
...
Added By Stuart on 10-01-2010
You live next door to my ex?
Subject: Common Law Partner, Mortgage, House Sale
Posted By Aubs on 03-01-2010
Basically:
House has £50k equity.
Joint tenants (so 50/50).
X pays ~75% of all bills.
Z pays ~25% of all bills.
X wants all bills and mortgage payments to be split 50/50.
X wants Z t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-01-2010
In which part of the UK do you live? The law with ...
Added By Aubs on 03-01-2010
Thanks for your reply STIDW. I'm in England and we...
Added By evr on 05-01-2010
As you are unmarried and have no children, I can u...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-01-2010
If you are unmarried and still both living in the ...
Subject: cm and sm in redundancy
Posted By cutepoolgirl on 01-01-2010
Ex informed me that he is being made redundant. Know he will get at least a years salary in redundancy pay. Know he is starting up new business ventures, probably in his wifes name, so as to avoid it being 'income'. Have a co...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-01-2010
As far as child maintenance are concerned the cour...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-01-2010
And it remains lawful that if a new couple have a ...
Added By cutepoolgirl on 03-01-2010
Many thanks.
He is currently paying...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-01-2010
"So, not a good idea to agree to CSA as it will vo...
Added By cutepoolgirl on 03-01-2010
Think my ex might be surprised if he applies for C...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-01-2010
If there is evidence circumstances have changed th...
Added By Stuart on 06-01-2010
"Think my ex might be surprised if he applies for ...
Subject: mortgages
Posted By why? on 30-12-2009
hello.
i will be phoning my current mortgage provider to get answers to my questions and i have a financial advisor assisting me to. however, in the meantime id like to ask the following.
if i pay my ow...
Added By LazyLizzie on 30-12-2009
I think that the best advice anybody to can give y...
Added By why? on 30-12-2009
hi. yes he is a high earner and has high borrowing...
Added By Stuart on 30-12-2009
Is a lender likely to allow someone to remain on a...
Added By why? on 30-12-2009
hi stuart.
are you saying that if he was pa...
Added By LazyLizzie on 30-12-2009
I may be wrong but as far as I am aware, if he is ...
Added By Stuart on 31-12-2009
Personally why? I would try and rid myself of him ...
Added By why? on 31-12-2009
hi.
i think ive been panicking over...
Added By LazyLizzie on 31-12-2009
Why, you are right to look at budgeting. There are...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-01-2010
Sit down with a calculator at the computer and wri...
Added By why? on 04-01-2010
thanks for the basic facts er. yes, ive obviously ...
Subject: The party is over...
Posted By Alisha on 28-12-2009
My new partner is in the throes of divorce, which is becoming increasingly more complicated for us as a couple. I am divorced, so have a certain understanding but I feel something is not right. Perhaps the advice he is being ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-12-2009
"Question #1: Can she really just stop it? "
...
Added By Kat007 on 28-12-2009
Many issues here really so will see where i can ge...
Added By Suvla1915 on 28-12-2009
Good advice already. but I would like to add that ...
Added By Alisha on 28-12-2009
Thank you both, Kat and Sometimes. Very helpful in...
Added By Kat007 on 29-12-2009
Alisha,
It is good to see that you ...
Added By Alisha on 29-12-2009
Thanks a million Kat. May take you up on the offer...
Added By Stuart on 30-12-2009
Dont worry about being "named".
As ...
Added By Jellylegs on 04-01-2010
Sorry to disagree, but in my case it was relevant,...
Added By why? on 04-01-2010
yes. it could be argued that it is relevant in my ...
Subject: Another year, another hearing...
Posted By Suvla1915 on 27-12-2009
Hope everyone had great Christmases. This one was supposed to have been spent skiing with my daughter but it didn't quite work out that way.
Seven months on from our Final Hearing absolutely nothing has changed...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-12-2009
The other side are playing games and I think you s...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-12-2009
Thanks, it's difficult to know what to do.
...
Added By Owl1 on 28-12-2009
Suvla, take your solicitor to the hearing. Most of...
Added By Suvla1915 on 28-12-2009
Well, to be fair, my solicitor doesn't actually kn...
Added By Kat007 on 29-12-2009
Sulva, Hi obviously you are in a quandry bles you....
Added By Jellylegs on 04-01-2010
So sorry to see this chunders on...
You sou...
Added By Suvla1915 on 06-01-2010
So so stressed...last week he sent amessage, perfe...
Subject: in a pickle - settlement options again
Posted By why? on 26-12-2009
hello.
h has offered to continue to pay mortgage payments and sign house over to me. he promises to clear mortgage in 18 years which is the term, however if he continues to pay at the monthly rate we have been ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-12-2009
Without details of the finances it's impossible to...
Added By why? on 27-12-2009
hi.
the mortgage we have relies on ...
Added By why? on 27-12-2009
h has also sent texts stating that i wont be able ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-12-2009
Good to know you had a good Christmas. Mine didn't...
Added By Kat007 on 28-12-2009
Or you could have one like mine who agrees to an o...
Added By why? on 28-12-2009
thats a relief. just began to wonder if he knew so...
Subject: settlement options
Posted By why? on 24-12-2009
is it fairly common/ reasonable for one party to gain a 60/40 split of the marital assets when the other party has a far greater earning and borrowing capacity? in h's case, there are also assets which arguably may or may not...
Added By EnglishRose on 24-12-2009
I don't believe morally in a spouse in a divorce g...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-12-2009
When there are enough resources to meet the needs ...
Added By why? on 24-12-2009
yes. however, the business was started during our ...
Added By why? on 24-12-2009
in my view. h would be supporting me as i did him ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-12-2009
Your solicitor would not be in a position to advis...
Added By JohnR on 25-12-2009
In a post above, you refer to him buying the share...
Added By why? on 26-12-2009
hi jr.
in our case, only h's salary...
Subject: general enquiries regarding equity
Posted By why? on 24-12-2009
is equity considered a liquid capital?im assuming it isn't.
if h retains his equity in the house, and i am paying the mortgage, i'm assuming he will recieve his equity on triggering event at the current value? ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-12-2009
Your H's interest in the property would increase i...
Added By why? on 27-12-2009
whats a charge back?
Subject: why is cm capped?
Posted By why? on 24-12-2009
does anyone know why child maintenace is capped at £8,000 net per month through the csa?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-12-2009
Because above that amount the courts have jurisdic...
Added By EnglishRose on 24-12-2009
or even because what child needs more than that? W...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-12-2009
ER, it's the assessable income which is capped at ...
Added By why? on 24-12-2009
hi er. every situation is different. but if childr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-12-2009
The bottom line is that both parties to divorce us...
Added By why? on 25-12-2009
thank you.
Added By EnglishRose on 25-12-2009
One way to ensure they keep upj their clubs is get...
Added By why? on 26-12-2009
hi er. if i was out there working the hours you se...
Added By Stuart on 31-12-2009
Ruddy bloody hell Why?.....
How muc...
Added By why? on 31-12-2009
hi stuart.
i guess im thinking abou...
Added By Stuart on 01-01-2010
Aha yes, but Heather Mills Mcartney is just a gras...
Added By why? on 01-01-2010
yes, perhaps. however, but i think you have to agr...
Added By why? on 03-01-2010
sorry, i should say if he was paying only £1,500 ...
Added By Stuart on 06-01-2010
So you reckon you would need £2K per month to fee...
Added By why? on 06-01-2010
the figure includes feeding, clothing, uniforms, s...
Added By Stuart on 06-01-2010
Sorry Why? but what sort of lifestyle are you aimi...
Added By why? on 07-01-2010
i cover my own costs in sm. childrens costs, inclu...
Added By Stuart on 11-01-2010
"regarding lifestyle. i am looking for a comfortab...
Added By why? on 11-01-2010
yip. i get what you are saying. the bit about abou...
Added By Stuart on 11-01-2010
I think perhaps you are missing the point....
Added By why? on 11-01-2010
no. im not asking for luxury and it wouldnt be for...
Added By Stuart on 14-01-2010
LOL.....if you had an ex you could trust then you ...
Subject: motgage advice
Posted By why? on 22-12-2009
hello
ive been getting some basic general information from finance advisors who tell me i can get a mortgage based on maintenance payments. however does anyone know just how realistic this is? i am concerned about the ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-12-2009
Whilst a financial adviser may be the way to get t...
Added By why? on 22-12-2009
yes. apparently there are lenders who specialise i...
Added By EnglishRose on 23-12-2009
Financial advisers might try to sell you policies ...
Added By why? on 24-12-2009
yes, clearly i am well aware that i will have earn...
Added By EnglishRose on 24-12-2009
IN the real world plenty of full time working wome...
Added By why? on 24-12-2009
correct in some ways er. yes ofcourse m,any women ...
Subject: Mortgage after separation
Posted By Ponface on 22-12-2009
Been with my partner for 20+ years & married for the last 7. We are both 41.
We have a 4 year old daughter & are about to separate. At the moment we are both still in the family home.
I earn 25K Gross full time<...
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-12-2009
I think in order to give you an answer we need som...
Added By Ponface on 23-12-2009
No other liabilities/assets, no debts no credit ca...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-12-2009
Be wary of listening to barrack room lawyers. Ever...
Added By EnglishRose on 23-12-2009
I agree. Neither of you earn much and you can't be...
Subject: Solicitors Bill need some advice
Posted By Kat007 on 22-12-2009
Hi all,
Just wondering if some can give me some advice on this.
My ex was order to pay a the costs from financial hearing and he hasn't done so yet. He is taking me to court again next year regar...
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-12-2009
Kat
Are you saying that all of the money th...
Added By Simes 2p on 22-12-2009
Lizzie, if the sort of breathing you do deserves t...
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-12-2009
Sorry Simes - I had forgotten about the way you ea...
Added By Simes 2p on 23-12-2009
Lizzie,
What I meant was, if your b...
Added By Kat007 on 24-12-2009
Ok actually recieved the bill today being xmas eve...
Added By Simes 2p on 24-12-2009
Kat, yes you can, and if it comes to it ask and I ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-12-2009
Kat, I agree with Simes. The way the legal system ...
Added By Kat007 on 25-12-2009
Thanks fot the response will get this C**p sorted ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 07-01-2010
I am in a similar situation, only thing different ...
Subject: whats the chance?
Posted By why? on 17-12-2009
i have noticed in the business valuation that there is a pension fund. i know of no pension that h has but now im wondering whether its likely he has one and has never told me about it?
i understand the fund wi...
Added By Stuart on 18-12-2009
Lol....Do you sit up at night going through everyt...
Added By why? on 18-12-2009
hello you.
seriously though. its on...
Added By Stuart on 19-12-2009
Hi, Im really glad you didnt take offence at that ...
Added By EnglishRose on 19-12-2009
It will be the company's. your ex may be entitle d...
Added By LazyLizzie on 19-12-2009
ER
Due dilligence is something that is carr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-12-2009
Pensions should be disclosed and if there is evide...
Added By JohnR on 20-12-2009
SIPP's can produce problems in divorce, and someti...
Added By EnglishRose on 20-12-2009
(I certainly think people however much they love a...
Added By why? on 21-12-2009
hello. first of all i should point out that he has...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-12-2009
H may not have paid money into a SIPP. Investors m...
Added By JohnR on 21-12-2009
I think this is degenerating into speculation.
Added By LazyLizzie on 21-12-2009
What if....
my ex had a cheque for ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-12-2009
Perhaps I wasn't very clear. I'm not suggesting th...
Subject: straight forward questions for a change.
Posted By why? on 16-12-2009
hi.
can someone please tell me whether maintenance is paid net. ie: what ever figure is agreed does not then have tax deducted?
secondly. what happens about inflation. does the maintenancepayments rise w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-12-2009
There is no tax to pay.
Maintenance...
Added By why? on 17-12-2009
thank you.
Added By EnglishRose on 20-12-2009
We might get huge inflation though like the date o...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-12-2009
With a flat rate if there is huge inflation or any...
Subject: form e
Posted By tiger on 15-12-2009
Form E's should be exchanged over next week. Can someone please advise as to what I should be looking for in EX's form. I am sure knowing EX that the figures ie monthly expenses as going to be distorted?
Subject: Pension Sharing
Posted By Kat007 on 15-12-2009
As you may remember I was awarded 100% of ex's pension in the financial hearing, this was all sorted and the pension according to his solicitor at the time said the paperwork would be heading my way. Well Ex sacked solicitor ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 15-12-2009
Presumably you must have the details of the pensio...
Added By Kat007 on 17-12-2009
No this is where the problem lies, I have neve rec...
Added By EnglishRose on 20-12-2009
His solicitors won't do anything without him payin...
Added By qaz on 29-04-2010
Hi Kat
you may have seen I recently...
Subject: biggest mistake of my life
Posted By hippychick91 on 15-12-2009
I' reposting on this board as I think I might have posted tp wrong one
I recently remarried and very shortly afterwards realised I had made a big mistake. I'm totally at a loss of what to do and where I stand. ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
Answered on the other board. ;)
Subject: spousal maintenance
Posted By tiger on 14-12-2009
Hi
Can anyone help…..
If my monthly outgoings are considerably higher than my monthly income can my EX still claim spousal maintenance?
Is this possible?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
It depends on whether the monthly outgoings are re...
Subject: Clean Break Orders/Maintenance
Posted By Nellie on 14-12-2009
Hi, I have been divorced for a few months now with a clean break order in issue as there were no financial issues between us. My Ex always paid maintenance voluntarily however this has now stopped. Can I still claim for mai...
Added By Stuart on 14-12-2009
I assume you are referring to child maintenance?
Added By Nellie on 14-12-2009
Hi, it is child maintenance. We are both financia...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
There can be no clean break from paying maintenanc...
Added By Nellie on 15-12-2009
Many thanks. I reckon we can probably sort this o...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
Well done. It is so much better if you can agree b...
Added By EnglishRose on 15-12-2009
That is the real issue. If you work full time as I...
Subject: Disabled Persons' Boarding School and CSA
Posted By Brickie on 13-12-2009
HI
Been a while but need some more advice, please
My son is registered disabled and as such there are some extras provided by his school which are very much appreciated. He is in a special needs...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-12-2009
As far as I'm aware grounds for the non resident p...
Subject: general advice please
Posted By duggie on 12-12-2009
My wife and l are seperating after 23yrs of marriage, we are both aged 47yrs, we have one dependant child aged 2yrs, could someone tell me once we sell the house what a fair split would be? once the mortgage is cleared we wi...
Added By evr on 12-12-2009
It would depend on your salary, as spousal mainten...
Added By duggie on 12-12-2009
My take home is 1800pm after tax, when my wife was...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-12-2009
With an income of £1,800 you are extremely unlike...
Added By duggie on 12-12-2009
Many thanks for the replies,
The o...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-12-2009
There is no mathematical split per se. How much de...
Subject: whats considered regarding income?
Posted By why? on 10-12-2009
hi. h has been basing all his proposals on his income from one business.
h takes an annual salary and this varies from year to year but has increased dramatically year on year. almost the entire profit from one year to...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-12-2009
Although director's dividends are not included in ...
Added By why? on 11-12-2009
thanks stidw. yes. i contacted csa and they told m...
Added By EnglishRose on 12-12-2009
Surely the car is a businesss expense so presumabl...
Added By why? on 13-12-2009
er. the bentley is not a business asset. it is pai...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-12-2009
The car is a red herring and is likely to be seen ...
Added By why? on 14-12-2009
hi. i understand the debt side of it, however, is ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-12-2009
It's the overall picture that is important, don't...
Added By why? on 14-12-2009
thanks stidw. yes, this is the problem. its the sc...
Subject: child maintenance
Posted By why? on 10-12-2009
hi. ok. i understand that if applying for child maintenance through csa then they will give 25% if its for three children. i also believe that they will give h a further reduction for having another child which is due in marc...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-12-2009
It's not so much a question of hiding earnings, ra...
Added By why? on 10-12-2009
thank you.
Subject: interest in pension
Posted By foggy on 10-12-2009
Hi Folks,
Could somebody please advise me how to register my interest in my ex' s pension.
I was given a % of his pension when we went to court and it is in a consent order.
Do I need to c...
Added By JohnR on 11-12-2009
Are you saying that there is a consent order which...
Added By foggy on 11-12-2009
Thanks for responding to my post John R- i know th...
Added By JohnR on 11-12-2009
If the pension was shared, then a pension sharing ...
Added By foggy on 13-12-2009
Thanks JohnR
Subject: Mortgage Forms LOL
Posted By Kat007 on 09-12-2009
I know this isn't funny really but this is what has happened.
Got back found a letter from mortgage company, it says thank you for your application to change your mortgage from repayment to interest only we are...
Added By Owl1 on 09-12-2009
Kat run this past your sol.
Added By LazyLizzie on 09-12-2009
I agree with Owl - this is not funny. I would also...
Added By Kat007 on 09-12-2009
LL,
Yes he does think I am stupid w...
Added By why? on 10-12-2009
kat. keep going.this is precisely the type of thin...
Subject: Form A
Posted By tiger on 02-12-2009
Any tips on completing form A? I am going to submit this in the new year as ex is not showing any sign of wanting to exchange form E's. I assume that delay tactics are being used so that accounts can be cleared and credit car...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-12-2009
Without facts it's important not to jump to conclu...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-12-2009
PS You tick the boxes for all the orders you wish ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 03-12-2009
Not sure what the Form A is - but the form E has t...
Added By tiger on 04-12-2009
Can anyone please suggest to me why EX is delaying...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-12-2009
There could be all sorts of reasons. Some people d...
Added By tiger on 05-12-2009
ok so its not the fact that ex is running up perso...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-12-2009
There are all sorts of reasons. However, if the d...
Added By why? on 06-12-2009
all i can say is that h delayed for 5 months, then...
Added By tiger on 08-12-2009
WHY - will your H's spending stand up in court. Su...
Added By tiger on 08-12-2009
can one get away with spending thousands and getti...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-12-2009
It really does depend on the circumstances. As I s...
Added By why? on 10-12-2009
hi. so far court seems to have been a waste of tim...
Subject: Occupation order & Non-Molestation Order
Posted By I-Hate-All-This on 01-12-2009
Hi All,
Well thing have now taken a turn for the worse. The XTB (hopefully) has now applied to get me removed from the FMH via an Occupation order and has also applied for a Non-Molestation order as well. Oh ye...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Have you been served with papers to attend court?<...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 02-12-2009
Stuart, Yep two boys still at home, daughter who i...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-12-2009
The important thing is not to let this go to a ful...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
£15000 for bringing a non mol and occupation acti...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-12-2009
Yes I'm sure, Stuart. Costs can run at about £12...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 03-12-2009
OK people. I understand the cost issues. So are yo...
Added By Owl1 on 03-12-2009
I Hate all this, why do you think you will have to...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-12-2009
No, not saying that at all. Your wife might not g...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 03-12-2009
Hello All,
Just a couple of facts t...
Added By Stuart on 04-12-2009
As pointed out, what the ex wants and what she get...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-12-2009
An occupational order can restrict the parties to ...
Added By EnglishRose on 05-12-2009
I find the law offensive. I could have got one of ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-12-2009
You may have a point about the law being offensive...
Added By why? on 06-12-2009
i can understand that for financial reasons many d...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-12-2009
why, it depends on the individual circumstances bu...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 07-12-2009
If I move out or am forced out. She will not make ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-12-2009
I wouldn't jump the gun. Wait until the hearing to...
Added By Stuart on 08-12-2009
How did it go today?
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 09-12-2009
Hi All,
Just a quick update on yest...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-12-2009
That's good news. Onwards and upwards.
Added By Stuart on 10-12-2009
So you havent be forced out then?
Subject: sale of MFH
Posted By sally12345 on 27-11-2009
Sorry new to this so don't know all the acronyms. In a very condensed way the situation is I live with my partner and his two kids (teenagers) and we rent a house. His stbx is still in family home (mortgaged 3 bed house). F...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-11-2009
When there is a final order settling the finances...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-11-2009
It sounds like he is married to her. Is he divorci...
Subject: House Price Crash - Ex's Charge will Bankrupt Me
Posted By JennyK on 26-11-2009
I divorced in 2006, sold FMH, bought new house, with charge to ex for 20% of value of new house. At the time, we all expected house prices to keep rising.
My problem is that I bought the house for £300k with a...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-11-2009
I think you are on thin ice. There have been sever...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-11-2009
As well as taking legal advice speak to your ex. Y...
Subject: Tax Credits
Posted By I-Hate-All-This on 23-11-2009
Hi All,
Caught wife with another bloke last Xmas and have been living in the house together while the divorce is sorted. I still pay the same ammount of money into the joint account for running the house and ha...
Added By Stuart on 23-11-2009
Id be careful that my name couldnt be dragged into...
Added By evr on 23-11-2009
If you are claiming that you are living separately...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 24-11-2009
evr,
We are still living in the same house,...
Added By Owl1 on 24-11-2009
What I think you need to do is stop paying any mon...
Added By Stuart on 24-11-2009
She still has access to your salary? Thats madness...
Added By Stuart on 24-11-2009
Oh, meant to say, "both to sign" doesnt affect dir...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-11-2009
I agree with Owl.. It's a pity she can't get a ful...
Added By Stuart on 30-11-2009
That was a bit dis-jointed ER...you been on the co...
Added By why? on 06-12-2009
i dont know. it depends very much on the individua...
Subject: court costs
Posted By tiger on 20-11-2009
I have just filed my for A for ancillary relief.
Can any one give any idea of the approximate legal costs that will be associated with the court process. I know that my ex will be after every penny so I don’t assume...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-11-2009
It's rather like asking how long is a piece of str...
Subject: What is a clean break order …..
Posted By sj1974 on 18-11-2009
I owe my ex husband £400 for our divorce (costs)
If I go for this order will I still have to pay the £400 costs thanks
Added By Stuart on 18-11-2009
Not sure what you mean....
Clean br...
Subject: Trying to sort out financial settlement…i need help?
Posted By sj1974 on 18-11-2009
Hi guys I need some advice
I'm divorced have been for 7 months now (been split up for 2 years he would not divorce me)
I moved out of family home due to domestic violence
We are tr...
Added By Stuart on 18-11-2009
I think you need to apply for ancilliary relief......
Added By Stuart on 19-11-2009
Sorry, just read your post again...
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-11-2009
In the grand scale of things rarely is arguing abo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-11-2009
In the grand scale of things rarely is arguing abo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-11-2009
Sorry, the first posting was a mistake and I meant...
Added By EnglishRose on 21-11-2009
Is there any reason you can't work full time ilke ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 21-11-2009
ER - did you really write that???
F...
Added By sj1974 on 22-11-2009
ENGLISH ROSE how can i put this you nasty COW
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-11-2009
SJ - you said "At least you understand"..............
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-11-2009
It appears your solicitor is recommending you appl...
Added By Stuart on 25-11-2009
"it might be worth checking out where you stand if...
Added By LazyLizzie on 25-11-2009
Have you considered the effect of a stroke on some...
Added By Stuart on 27-11-2009
LOL.....
Yes ok if you like LL but ...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-11-2009
I asked what effect the stroke had had and was sim...
Subject: Seeking vacant possession of FMH
Posted By pete100 on 16-11-2009
Decree absolute. No children involved. H occupies FMH alone. H agreed in December 2008 to sell FMH and proceeds divided 50:50 - agreement recorded in Order. Final Order September 2009 specifying name of agent to sell on the ...
Added By Paddington on 16-11-2009
This is not so different from my current situation...
Added By pete100 on 16-11-2009
Thanks Paddington. You may well be right but what...
Added By Paddington on 17-11-2009
Oh, how I see what you mean - you actually want to...
Added By Stuart on 17-11-2009
Can you conclusively prove that H is being obstruc...
Added By pete100 on 17-11-2009
Hi Stuart. Letter from estate agents confirming no...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-11-2009
I think 2 weeks is rather on the short side. A mon...
Added By Paddington on 20-11-2009
In a normal sale, 4 weeks from exchange of contrac...
Subject: Will a judge force ex and children out?
Posted By Paddington on 13-11-2009
I posted earlier on the problem of my ex not finding a suitable property to move to.
The buyers of the FMH have been very patient, since July, but now need exchange and completion before the end of the year as ...
Added By Stuart on 14-11-2009
Yes, I believe so.
Owning a propert...
Added By Paddington on 14-11-2009
OK thanks Stuart. You are right that this situatio...
Added By LazyLizzie on 14-11-2009
I am not sure (going by my own experience) that a ...
Added By Paddington on 14-11-2009
Hi LL, my daughter at Uni is 18 (just started), an...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-11-2009
I think you have to be very careful about telling ...
Added By EnglishRose on 14-11-2009
Always tell the children 100% the truth. I've neve...
Added By Stuart on 15-11-2009
I can see your problem though...your ex is using t...
Added By Owl1 on 15-11-2009
I agree with STIDW both about the danger of tellin...
Added By Paddington on 16-11-2009
Owl1, I understand the point you are making in you...
Added By EnglishRose on 16-11-2009
In fact you can blame the mother too. If women pur...
Added By Paddington on 16-11-2009
Well I have set the whole thing in motion.
...
Added By Suvla1915 on 16-11-2009
The children will not be homeless on £360k - that...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-11-2009
Being complicit with the arrangements for childca...
Added By Owl1 on 17-11-2009
So true STIDW.
"Owl1, I understand ...
Added By Owl1 on 17-11-2009
"In fact you can blame the mother too. If women pu...
Added By Paddington on 17-11-2009
Owl1 - agree with your comments and I see what you...
Added By Teadrinker on 18-11-2009
"In fact you can blame the mother too. If women pu...
Added By Stuart on 18-11-2009
ER, Im sure you dont mean to do so but you do come...
Added By Paddington on 22-01-2010
Well I am glad to say that a single letter stating...
Subject: COURT............???
Posted By tiger on 12-11-2009
Should I go to court to resolve £££ matters between me and EX. We are fully divorced BUT £££ matters are yet to be sorted. I have tried to get matters resolved amicably but no responce. I want a clean break but I have ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-11-2009
If it as at all possible avoid the courts. It can ...
Added By tiger on 13-11-2009
Thanks thats great. However ex is not replying to ...
Added By Paddington on 13-11-2009
If you have not already done so, I would give him ...
Subject: Agreements recorded in Consent Order
Posted By pete100 on 10-11-2009
Agreements recorded within the preamble to the Consent Order not complied with. Furthermore there is no chance of compliance unless those agreements are "converted" into Orders. What procedure does this involve? Or does th...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
Is this a draft order or one that has already been...
Added By pete100 on 10-11-2009
Thanks Sometimes. Yes it is a final Ancillary Rel...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
Very little I'm afraid, apart from shoot the solic...
Subject: My Ex Wife demands payment until son reaches 21 (Scotland)
Posted By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
I have been apart from my ex for 7 years now and have paid maintenance religiously since the split. The separation and subsequent divorce has been pretty straitforward. A separation agreement exists & is registered with the r...
Added By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
The exact wording in the agreement is: "The alimen...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
Actually it isn't that ridiculous and there is som...
Added By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
I think the 19 rule probably applies in this case ...
Added By why? on 10-11-2009
i never quite understand why if a parent feels tha...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
I think you might need to phone the CSA and ask gi...
Added By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
To: Why? Actually my son is very astute when it ...
Added By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
I've found the clause in the CS act sometimesitdoe...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
The thing is there are reams of child support laws...
Added By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
Yeah sometimesitdoesn'twork I've looked into some ...
Added By Stuart on 11-11-2009
I dont think you are being unreasonable at all.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-11-2009
Good job you don't live in Benelux, Stuart. Mainte...
Added By lessmrn on 11-11-2009
I'm concentrating on enforcement and the CSA/CMEC ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-11-2009
OK. But my understanding is the emphasis taken awa...
Added By lessmrn on 11-11-2009
http://www.csa.gov.uk/en/setup/who-can-use-csa.asp...
Subject: Husband wants to leave marital home
Posted By gavin1962000 on 10-11-2009
My wife is making my life hell. I sleep on the sofa downstairs once she goes to bed, invariably after midnight. I do a 37 hour working week and I consider this to be my safe haven. When I get home I am constantly shouted at. ...
Added By Stuart on 10-11-2009
Does your wife earn?
Do you earn much above...
Added By lessmrn on 10-11-2009
Sounds like a familiar situation, my situation was...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
In England & Wales the usual legal advice is to re...
Added By Stuart on 11-11-2009
Did I really write to when I meant two?????
...
Subject: ENFORCEMENT OF LUMP SUM ORDER
Posted By pete100 on 07-11-2009
How can I enforce a lump sum order (overdue for 2 months) following on from a Consent Order? The Respondent has ample funds but is bitter and hopes that I will go away.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-11-2009
Lump sums can be enforced like any other debt -
Added By EnglishRose on 08-11-2009
Sending in the bailiffs often works to get someone...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-11-2009
Apparently in family cases sending in the bailiffs...
Added By why? on 14-11-2009
unless of course you are married to my h?!
Subject: Let us move
Posted By confusedmum on 05-11-2009
Hi, i am hoping you can give me some practical money saving advice here please.After being together 16 years and 3 children later my partner had affairs and left 5 years ago. The children and i stayed in the house and i pay ...
Added By SethWC on 08-11-2009
Try the CAB - they may even provide solicitor
Added By EnglishRose on 08-11-2009
You can always act for yourself without a solicito...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-11-2009
ah ijust saw the other thread and that you weren't...
Added By confusedmum on 09-11-2009
ok thanks - it is so unfair when you have the chil...
Subject: Let us move
Posted By confusedmum on 05-11-2009
Hi, i am hoping you can give me some practical money saving advice here please.After being together 16 years and 3 children later my partner had affairs and left 5 years ago. The children and i stayed in the house and i pay ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-11-2009
If you were married and are prepared to do some ho...
Added By confusedmum on 05-11-2009
Hi thanks for your reply.
No unfortunatley ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-11-2009
Yes, sadly if you were not married divorce legisla...
Added By confusedmum on 06-11-2009
Hi
Thanks for the information - so basicall...
Added By JohnR on 07-11-2009
A McKenzie friend is a person who is not qualified...
Added By confusedmum on 07-11-2009
This sounds confusing ...so even if the judge stat...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-11-2009
I think before worrying about setting up a trust/m...
Added By confusedmum on 08-11-2009
Oh thank you...i did not realise that the barriste...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-11-2009
You could sell the house surely (and get a court o...
Added By Stuart on 08-11-2009
ER, I guess we arent talking about an Oxfordshire ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-11-2009
With family law you can only access a barrister di...
Added By confusedmum on 09-11-2009
no we are not talking about a mansion just a modes...
Added By confusedmum on 09-11-2009
Yes he has and he thinks it is worth taking to cou...
Subject: Financial blackmail
Posted By pixiehelper on 05-11-2009
My partners is in the middle of a divorce from his ex he has sent is petition to the courts for unreasonable behaviour as he was physically and mentally bullied she has tried to bypass the ethical system and tried to get her ...
Added By Owl1 on 05-11-2009
Well if he is still married to her and having sex ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-11-2009
In the grand scale of things it doesn't matter wh...
Added By Stuart on 06-11-2009
I have to say that if your partner goes to court t...
Subject: House sale
Posted By Kat007 on 05-11-2009
Hi all you know the story so won't repeat myself.
Seen solicitor about the house and she was going to contact the ex about the neg equity. They want this money paid into her companies account by the ex as witho...
Added By Owl1 on 05-11-2009
Kat, forward the draft contracts your ex has dropp...
Added By Kat007 on 05-11-2009
Thanks Owl wise words again.
Anyway...
Added By LazyLizzie on 05-11-2009
Kat,
Owl's advice is really good - I like ...
Added By Kat007 on 06-11-2009
LL thanks for the reply,
I have cop...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-11-2009
And for all women on here do note that if you give...
Added By Kat007 on 08-11-2009
Thanks ER,
I knew that was coming l...
Subject: AFTER CONSENT ORDER
Posted By pete100 on 02-11-2009
Do I still need to retain my solicitor after the Consent Order? The only work remaining is the potential need to apply to Court for penal notice or enforcement which presumably can be done in writing to Court without a solici...
Subject: Disastrous :-(
Posted By Suvla1915 on 01-11-2009
It all continues to go very badly.
We have no court order. The handwritten version was signed by both of us and is apparently binding. But a typing errror meant it was sent backwards and forwards to the court a...
Added By Owl1 on 02-11-2009
Suvla, sorry this is still dragging on.
Added By Suvla1915 on 02-11-2009
Think I need to get a hobby too!
Added By Owl1 on 02-11-2009
Lol, maybe you do!
Seriously thoug...
Subject: What would I be entitled to if I divorced?
Posted By moola on 01-11-2009
Hello
I wonder if anyone had any opinions on what sort of settlement I might expect if/when my husband and I divorce - I have not started proceedings yet but he has committed adultery and it seems very bleak ri...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-11-2009
Umm... the problem with the calculator is that whi...
Subject: if he remarries prior to finances sorted - concern?
Posted By why? on 31-10-2009
hi.
as many of you know i am going through divorce right now. h has not answered the most important questions and either not answered, told untruths or completely changed his answers. we are getting nowehere despite it...
Added By Stuart on 31-10-2009
blow me.....you need to get a hobby!
...
Added By why? on 31-10-2009
hi stuart.
sorry. just to clarify matters. ...
Added By Stuart on 01-11-2009
Why?, you have had your directions hearing havent ...
Added By why? on 01-11-2009
hi stuart.
thanks for that. yes i have been...
Added By Kat007 on 01-11-2009
DJ is a district judge, and stuart was saying your...
Added By LazyLizzie on 01-11-2009
In your shoes I would only deal with your ex by e ...
Added By why? on 01-11-2009
hello folks. thanks for all the above. kats point ...
Subject: sale of FMH
Posted By pete100 on 29-10-2009
Consent Order says sale of FMH forthwith and provides for joint conduct. No co-operation from Respondent. "Forthwith" was one month ago! Presumably I should now apply for sole conduct and vacant possession on the grounds th...
Added By Stuart on 31-10-2009
I think 1 month is too soon....your ex will easily...
Added By pete100 on 31-10-2009
Thanks Stewart. The current order was previously ...
Added By Stuart on 01-11-2009
The problem I see is that if you apply for enforce...
Added By pete100 on 01-11-2009
Thanks again Stuart. I believe the application fe...
Subject: Continuing Consent Order payments
Posted By Nemo on 28-10-2009
I obtained a DA in August 2007. There are no dependent children. Under the Consent Order (agreed after DA), I agreed to pay my ex-wife a sum equating to her 50/50 share of the (then) equity in the MH in order to retain occupa...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-10-2009
Whattype of order do you have? If the monthly paym...
Added By Nemo on 30-10-2009
I'm not sure. The figure to be paid was agreed bet...
Added By Nemo on 03-11-2009
One for my solicitor I think.
Subject: Getting Duplicate Bank Statements
Posted By kehollis on 28-10-2009
My ex-wife has managed to get a list of all my bank accounts in the UK through a court order - does anyone know what she can do from here on in? Can she get duplicate bank statements or have the accounts frozen?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-10-2009
Why was the information about the bank accounts no...
Added By kehollis on 28-10-2009
Thanks for the answer, this has happened after the...
Added By Stuart on 28-10-2009
No I would have thought that unlikely.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-10-2009
I'm now rather confused. In the first post you sai...
Subject: Help need for friend
Posted By golddig2 on 26-10-2009
27 years married, no children. Husband has left and filed for divorce. He has applied for anciliary reflief and my friend has received a Form E to complete. The assets are: house worth possibly 600k with 150k mortgage, hi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-10-2009
Spouse maintenance depends upon there being a disc...
Added By Stuart on 27-10-2009
sold a £20K marital asset for £100?? lol...
Added By GOLDDIG2 on 27-10-2009
Thanks for both your responses. My friend and hus...
Added By Stuart on 27-10-2009
Gotta be careful self repping...
Why not lo...
Added By why? on 28-10-2009
she should list absolutely everything that she kno...
Added By Stuart on 28-10-2009
Thats a bit of a tall order after 27yrs!!!
Subject: Ex in no hurry to find alternative property
Posted By Paddington on 26-10-2009
My ex and I accepted an offer on the FMH in July. This was a lot lower than I wanted, and will give me no equity in the proceeds at all, but I wanted to cut my losses as I am having to pay for all the running expenses plus m...
Added By Stuart on 27-10-2009
why are you paying all of her expenses?
Added By Paddington on 27-10-2009
You are correct regarding lack of incentive, howev...
Added By Stuart on 27-10-2009
I dont think you would have to declare anything ac...
Subject: FORM E
Posted By tiger on 23-10-2009
Hi on the income needs for myself section do I list each and every item in this box or do i just a overall figure.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-10-2009
You itemise everything although you can globalise ...
Added By tiger on 25-10-2009
So once completed this form is supposed to be exch...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-10-2009
If no one has applied yet for ancillary relief com...
Added By tiger on 27-10-2009
so if there is not reply to exchanging of informat...
Added By why? on 28-10-2009
unless you want to wait forever for a response. i ...
Added By tiger on 06-11-2009
why? - was your H penalised by the Jugde for redu...
Added By why? on 08-11-2009
i am only just going through divorce. no settlemen...
Subject: how is maintenance paid?
Posted By why? on 21-10-2009
hello. just looking for some general advice hear.
if maintenance is the route then how is it paid?
does the ex pay it by direct debit from his bank to mine on an agreed date? or does he pay it to the court on ag...
Added By Kat007 on 22-10-2009
Have you set out a maintenance agreement already w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-10-2009
A court order is an order of the court and *has* t...
Added By why? on 22-10-2009
hi.
regarding the 'debt' to my relative. th...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-10-2009
There are genuine reasons why someone might not be...
Added By why? on 22-10-2009
thanks again
Subject: Executing Document
Posted By BA 1883 on 20-10-2009
Had First Hearing back in September. Order drawn up in Court, all agreed and put before the Judge.
Order was made to surrender the Endowment Policy, have obtained the Payment Release Form and this is now await...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-10-2009
I would leave it for another month or so to see if...
Subject: Wife not applying for financial provision
Posted By hbosh on 16-10-2009
Hello
I'm in the process of getting divorced to my wife. We are not in good terms at all as she didn't want the divorce, so she's been refusing to talk to me for the past 3 months. She hasn't got a solicitor or...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-10-2009
Umm... I'm not sure I wold entirely agree with you...
Added By hbosh on 21-10-2009
Thanks for your reply. The marriage was about 3 ye...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-10-2009
The relationship is short if it was just 3 years a...
Subject: Is there a penalty for not following a Consent Order
Posted By Pearlrabbit on 16-10-2009
Who would have thought that I would be asking for advice from here nearly 4 years after my absolute, and just a month
short of 3 years from my consent order.
Absolute Jan 2006, CO Dec 2006
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-10-2009
The penalty is in costs. If you apply to court to ...
Subject: Final Hearing
Posted By pete100 on 12-10-2009
Is it okay to issue a written open note to the Court and the other side before the Final Hearing? There are three reasons for this: (i) it gives the Court and the other party time to read the concerns of the Applicant, (ii) A...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-10-2009
Not really. You would usually need to deal with co...
Subject: Finances
Posted By tiger on 06-10-2009
I have my absolute.
I want to pay off ex and resolve finances so that there is some closure. However attempts from sol are being ignored by ex and ex sol.
I have more to loose and ex will be gaining finacially...
Added By Owl1 on 06-10-2009
Hi tiger
The only way to progress i...
Added By tiger on 06-10-2009
Can I complete the form E myself or do you think t...
Added By Kat007 on 06-10-2009
Firstly why was the absolute granted before the f...
Added By Stuart on 07-10-2009
Not really Kat. I know several people who have obt...
Added By tiger on 07-10-2009
I would like finances finished and done so that i ...
Added By Kat007 on 08-10-2009
I know this does happen just didn't realise it hap...
Added By tiger on 09-10-2009
Quick question..... now that we are completing fo...
Added By Kat007 on 10-10-2009
Form E shows income expediture, assets and liabilt...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-10-2009
Form E can be completed voluntarily as part of the...
Added By tiger on 12-10-2009
Right I have made a start on the form. Question 2....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-10-2009
No, he can't make a claim against someone else's p...
Added By tiger on 14-10-2009
Does any one know how to work out capital gains ta...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-10-2009
For any asset CGT is calculated starting with the...
Added By tiger on 16-10-2009
Thanks for info so far. I am getting stuck into th...
Added By tiger on 19-10-2009
any help would be appreciated
Subject: Help with finances, pension etc
Posted By Fairysparkle on 05-10-2009
Hello everybody
I have been separated for 3 years, and currently have a decree nisi. When my husband left he agreed to pay the mortgage and I paid a large loan we had secured on the house. This arrangements wor...
Added By Stuart on 06-10-2009
Hi,
Firstly, he is wrong when he sa...
Subject: Any Judges on board here lol
Posted By Kat007 on 04-10-2009
I am sure Judges get divorced to so thought I would check.
What is the likely hood of having all the money the ex owes me due to non payment of bills and SM backdated to the time he actually stopped paying (mar...
Subject: Consent Order Pending
Posted By soulfollower on 03-10-2009
One for all you financial legal eagles
My wife and I have agreed the terms of our financial separation after a three year marriage, but I am a little worried that a judge may bounce the consent order that has b...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-10-2009
In most cases like this the judge holds a short h...
Added By london on 03-10-2009
I had similar situation re Consent Order (CO) ie o...
Added By soulfollower on 04-10-2009
Thanks STIDW
"To answer your questi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-10-2009
Leaving the pensions aside, there is a 'pot' of £...
Added By Stuart on 06-10-2009
What happened to the idea of a short marriage?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-10-2009
The leading authority on short marriages is Foster...
Added By soulfollower on 21-01-2010
Well, update on all of this.
I have...
Subject: index link
Posted By foggy on 30-09-2009
Hello All
Could somebody please help me with how to calculate index link for my sp which was due to be increased in July.
Thanks
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-09-2009
You will need to check your Court Order to find ou...
Added By Simes 2p on 01-10-2009
Blimey Stids, not only do you know law, and can da...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-10-2009
lol - I bet the OP wished they hadn't asked - ;)
Added By foggy on 01-10-2009
thanks so much for your help. Have a good weekend...
Added By Caradais on 03-10-2009
The figures are quoted from the CHAW index. There...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-10-2009
As far as I'm aware CHAW is used because it includ...
Subject: new relationship/claim on house
Posted By tantrums on 29-09-2009
After many years of being on my own, divorce and financial settlement all done and dusted, I have found a new and very nice, man. We are now discussing him moving into my family home with my two sons. At the moment he live...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-09-2009
If the house is in your name a cohabitant would ha...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-10-2009
What are you doing with someone who lives in a cam...
Subject: I'm at a crossroads
Posted By gavin1962000 on 29-09-2009
Hi all,
I am at the end of a stormy 12 year marriage with one 10 year old child. My wife is relatively work shy and will not get work that really contributes to the household bills. On a daily basis my wife creates a r...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-09-2009
The usual legal advice is do not move out of the h...
Added By Stuart on 29-09-2009
If she assaults you again then I would suggest cal...
Subject: Mediation
Posted By snowbars on 27-09-2009
Has anybody tried mediation service? My ex husband has initiated this to share our marital home. But I have no idea about this service and how it works.
Added By Stuart on 27-09-2009
Hi, firstly, mediation relies on both parties goin...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-09-2009
There is an article about mediation on the home pa...
Subject: I think it's all over...
Posted By Suvla1915 on 27-09-2009
He has backed down. He has promised no more court, and will to co-operate.
So things will finally get moving. Happy, but also a bit cross as the delays as usual were absolutely pointless and achieved absolutely...
Added By Stuart on 27-09-2009
Im rooting for you Suvla. Really hope things are g...
Added By Kat007 on 28-09-2009
nothing worse than a man having a bad hair day to ...
Added By Owl1 on 29-09-2009
Hi Suvla
I am pleased to hear its d...
Added By Suvla1915 on 29-09-2009
Yes you are right Owl, that side was always there,...
Added By Joyce. on 29-09-2009
Lovelorn ex's, harbouring secret notions to win yo...
Added By Owl1 on 30-09-2009
Suvla, I think you need to follow proper processes...
Added By Simes 2p on 30-09-2009
Sulva,
Just so you know, accepting ...
Added By Stuart on 01-10-2009
Uh oh...Joyce has climbed out of her coffin again....
Added By Kat007 on 01-10-2009
Stuart stop it :)
Added By Stuart on 02-10-2009
Sorry...cant help it when she starts on Suvla or o...
Added By Suvla1915 on 02-10-2009
You are a gentleman Stuart :-)
Added By Joyce. on 02-10-2009
I think you two would be great together. J. x
Added By Suvla1915 on 03-10-2009
Haven't decided what to do with the cheque yet. I ...
Added By evr on 03-10-2009
I would do as Simes suggests - stick it together a...
Added By Suvla1915 on 03-10-2009
Well I saved the message and didn't respond.
...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-10-2009
Take legal advice before you pay the cheque in. So...
Added By Owl1 on 04-10-2009
Suvla, I'd do as ER says and take advice just to b...
Added By Suvla1915 on 04-10-2009
Thanks for all the useful advice everyone.
...
Added By Kat007 on 04-10-2009
I have sellotape sulva,
ER is right...
Added By evr on 04-10-2009
I just thought that if you didn't pay it in, he is...
Added By Suvla1915 on 05-10-2009
Jigsaw puzzle was pieced together, phoned solicito...
Subject: SM for me?
Posted By 2010divorce on 24-09-2009
This is my 1st time on here so here goes.....
My wife of 4yrs (together for 12) and i split in Feb 09. Since July i've rented a house and left her in the FMH but i'm struggling to find work (like lots of people know) ...
Added By Kat007 on 24-09-2009
Check on the Legal service commission website and ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-09-2009
SM depends on the need of one party and the abilit...
Added By Stuart on 25-09-2009
Id be looking at applying for some interim support...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
Ok. Had another think about this. If the take home...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
SM !!
Added By Teadrinker on 26-09-2009
If tax credits are £500k then I'm going to get my...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
Oops, another typo. Must go to bed.
Added By 2010divorce on 29-09-2009
Just to clarify something in case you think you're...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-09-2009
Good luck.
Added By why? on 29-09-2009
wont be fun.
Subject: help please re financial order
Posted By Kat007 on 23-09-2009
Hi all,
Had the heads of agreement in nov 2008, this turned into a court order in July 2009.
Until the sale of the house ex is supposed to pay the mortgage, bills etc plus £400 sm.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-09-2009
When someone is self employed a deduction of earni...
Added By Kat007 on 24-09-2009
Thanks stids for the reply,
I hope ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-09-2009
Thanks Kat. In your shoes I wouldn't chalk it down...
Added By Kat007 on 25-09-2009
Cheers again for the reply stids,
S...
Added By why? on 29-09-2009
hi kat. your joke is not so silly at all. he has i...
Subject: Selling the FMH
Posted By markys on 18-09-2009
I have been living in the FMH, but separately from my wife, for the last 5 years to support the kids as they grew up. Now 18 and 16 and its time to finally move on. We have agreed a financial settlement verbally, which invo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-09-2009
You could have a clause that she will indemnify an...
Added By Markys on 19-09-2009
The tax implications?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-09-2009
There is relief from capital gains tax on your mai...
Added By Owl1 on 20-09-2009
Markys you can get anything you like drafted into ...
Added By Markys on 20-09-2009
Many thanks for your response. I don't think my w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-09-2009
If there is no court order settling finances you h...
Added By Owl1 on 20-09-2009
I wouldn't suggest or recommend your last idea Ma...
Added By Owl1 on 20-09-2009
Markys STIDW makes an important point above re nee...
Added By Kat007 on 20-09-2009
yeah watch out for NP they are a pain in the arse,...
Added By Markys on 20-09-2009
Thanks again for your help ... we have been discus...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-09-2009
If you don't instruct a solicitor to draft a final...
Added By Markys on 20-09-2009
We have separated our finances pretty well over th...
Added By Owl1 on 20-09-2009
Markys the fact that you have transferred most thi...
Added By Markys on 21-09-2009
Think you've missed the point a little, but thanks...
Added By Owl1 on 21-09-2009
The main point you need to take away and bear in m...
Subject: Costs award
Posted By Stuart on 17-09-2009
Hi all.
Absolute decreed and my costs to be paid by my ex wifes bloke, or rather her ex bloke as she chucked him out 7 weeks ago coz of his temper...
Anyway, I have communicated to him that I wan...
Added By Owl1 on 20-09-2009
Stuart, Stuart, do you really want to continuing e...
Added By Stuart on 20-09-2009
Thanks...
Subject: Endowment Policy
Posted By BA 1883 on 17-09-2009
Had my day in Court yesterday
Part of the Order is for the endowment policy to be surrendered or sold. I have a figure from the company concerned for the surrender value but lost as to how to go about making e...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-09-2009
You need to find a reputable company which deals w...
Subject: Divorce question
Posted By Brian Hair on 16-09-2009
Have been married to an alcoholic for 20 years, finally had enough & thrown her out. Have almost completed residency for my 8 Yo who loives with me full time. Am about to start divorce, have a house in joint names, prob 30...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-09-2009
Without details of the values of the assets (inclu...
Added By Brian Hair on 16-09-2009
Thank you for replying, have no idea on pensions &...
Subject: More silly questions..
Posted By Suvla1915 on 15-09-2009
When is a court order binding and when is it not??
Four months ticking by and I'm going demented waiting to see what on earth is going on. We signed a hand-written consent order at the Final Hearing and surely...
Added By why? on 15-09-2009
goodness knows. somuch for my solicitor trying to ...
Added By Stuart on 16-09-2009
The order was signed by the judge at the final hea...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-09-2009
Same advice as a month ago. If the order is not s...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-09-2009
To answer your question simply, until the order is...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-09-2009
A signed agreement doesn't have the same status as...
Added By Suvla1915 on 19-09-2009
Thanks, I hadn't forgotten the advice.
Added By Kat007 on 20-09-2009
Good for you sulva for taking the higher groung in...
Subject: Silly question time
Posted By Stuart on 13-09-2009
Decree absolute sorted now.
What do I need to do now insofar as getting finances sorted? I mean it was a short term marriage but I want to make sure that she cant come after me in th future should I win the lot...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-09-2009
If you can agree between yourselves it's just a qu...
Added By skovby1 on 13-09-2009
We used an online service for our consent order - ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 13-09-2009
I am just starting divorce proceedings against my ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-09-2009
Not having a court order is frequently a false eco...
Added By skovby1 on 14-09-2009
There is a post on here (a couple of days ago) whe...
Added By Stuart on 15-09-2009
Thanks for your responses.
Added By Simes 2p on 15-09-2009
As you were in a very short marriage, and that mar...
Added By Stuart on 16-09-2009
lol....thanks simes...
oh must say ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-09-2009
Watch she doesn't come after SM the ;)
Added By Stuart on 21-09-2009
I doubt she could....she earns more than me.....pe...
Subject: Does my ex have a valid claim on the equity in my home?
Posted By butterfly52 on 13-09-2009
Hi,
I divorced my wife 3.5 years ago because of her adulterous nature. We sold the family home and because she wanted to move somewhere to to obviously carry on with her 'boyfriend', and no doubt feeling guilty...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-09-2009
Unfortunately without a legally binding court orde...
Added By butterfly52 on 13-09-2009
Eeek! Let me get this right. Because I took a few ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-09-2009
I didn't say she is entitled to have the disparity...
Subject: TWO HOUSES, NO CHILDREN!
Posted By Stillcomingtoterms on 11-09-2009
My husband left me 6 weeks ago. He is now renting a room and I told him that I would try and get a lodger so that he is not out of pocket. (I am trying to keep this amicable). He said that was all very well, but he didn't re...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-09-2009
The first thing is whose name are the deeds for th...
Added By Stillcomingtoterms on 11-09-2009
Thanks, for that. Both houses are in equal ownersh...
Subject: Consent Order confused??
Posted By Bubbles36 on 10-09-2009
I have been reading posts on here and now even more confused, I am in the process of filling out the divorce petition, which I am a bit stuck with a few parts but left a posting on the general discussion part to hopefully get...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-09-2009
As far as the divorce petition is concerned it is ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 11-09-2009
umm that bit sounds more tricky, can't afford a so...
Subject: child maintenance - or lack of....
Posted By boggle on 10-09-2009
My exh hasnt paid any cm to our children since october 2008. Children ages 13 & 8. We both have moved on and have new partners - his has 2 boys (he lives with her) mine has no children (he lives with me). Exh was diagnosed ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-09-2009
Sorry if this doesn't help but under CSA rules NRP...
Added By Stuart on 10-09-2009
How much do you think you should be getting Boggle...
Added By skovby1 on 10-09-2009
Could he perhaps help out by having the children m...
Added By boggle on 11-09-2009
thank you all. I did look into the csa thing but ...
Added By evr on 12-09-2009
Its a tough one but you may have to accept that, i...
Added By Kat007 on 02-10-2009
boggle,
I am not sure that is corre...
Subject: Advice required on my rights
Posted By cocopop on 08-09-2009
My husband and I agreed to seperate in April, we'd been married 6 years and have 2 children. I stayed in the house and have not received any contribution from him since March. I want a divorce and agreed to sell the house, ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-09-2009
He can threaten to take you for everything you hav...
Subject: Breaking consent order for CM
Posted By goldengirl on 07-09-2009
Hi All
Will try not to waffle and make this complicated :)
Ex h is under consent order for £300 per month for Cm for our 2 boys.
When it came to August's payment he gave me half cash ( as i need...
Added By skovby1 on 08-09-2009
I would just pay the cheque in now and put this do...
Added By Stuart on 08-09-2009
What purpose would getting a solicitor involved se...
Added By goldengirl on 08-09-2009
You're both right...opening the wine now :)
Subject: increase in child maintenance
Posted By Jane on 05-09-2009
A county court order made 4 years ago was for £200 a month (one child). I have recently had a significant reduction in salary and I am considering applying for an increase. As it is, I pay £400 a month for creche fees (befo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-09-2009
Since 2003 the courts normally have no jurisdictio...
Subject: Financial Implications / Clean Break Possible?
Posted By Mark1974 on 02-09-2009
Hi, I was wondering if anyone can help me, my situation is as follows;
We're getting divorced after 5 years with 2 children (4yrs and 2yrs), although haven't started process yet. My wife wants to get everything...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-09-2009
Generally speaking if both parties understand the ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-09-2009
PS One thing you should be aware of is that some j...
Subject: Advice please
Posted By golddig on 01-09-2009
Hello haven't been on here for a long while but to cut a long story short this is the situation. I have two children with ex partner (we were never married) she still lives in the family home which is jointly owned by us bot...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-09-2009
Without knowing the details of your case and exact...
Subject: further advance by h on family
Posted By why? on 01-09-2009
as many of you know h sent bailiffs/debt collectors letter to sister in law threatening statutory demand, court proceedings towards banckruptcy.
my solicitor wrote to these people explaining circumstances and w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-09-2009
If the bailiffs/debt collectors are handling the p...
Added By why? on 03-09-2009
thank you.
Added By JohnR on 03-09-2009
AFAIAA
They need to apply to have t...
Added By why? on 03-09-2009
thanks john. yes my sister in law is responding as...
Added By Simes 2p on 09-09-2009
He makes an application, she has 14 days to file a...
Added By why? on 09-09-2009
thanks simes.
if he was to drop it. ie: not...
Added By Simes 2p on 10-09-2009
Why, if he doesn't go to Court to argue his case, ...
Added By why? on 10-09-2009
ok thank you. one final question then. clearly, ea...
Added By Simes 2p on 10-09-2009
I can't see that you have a claim against him for ...
Added By why? on 10-09-2009
thank you once again.
Subject: Child maintenance issues
Posted By SlartyBartFast on 01-09-2009
Hello.
My wife and I split in 2003 (with 2 young children) and, as part of that, I gave her £45k as a deposit for her and the kids to have a nice house and a fresh start - she could afford to stay/live there ...
Added By why? on 01-09-2009
Must be frustrating to say the least. however, if ...
Added By simonpenson on 01-09-2009
Frustrating indeed and all I can suggest really is...
Added By simonpenson on 01-09-2009
sorry the link is: [url=http://divorceanswers.co.u...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-09-2009
Were the arrangements for CM included in court or...
Subject: accountants brief for valuation of business
Posted By why? on 31-08-2009
am i correct in saying that the maintainable income likely to be supported by the business may be a very important or perhaps THE most important element in the forensic accountants brief in my case - both in determining maint...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-09-2009
I doubt anyone on an internet board can answer w...
Subject: Going back to court
Posted By exhausted on 30-08-2009
Hello Folks,
I have been reading posting here for over a year but been able to post mine. I would be grateful for any contribution to this post.
1. Consent order signed in 2006 for ex H to pay ...
Added By exhausted on 30-08-2009
Sorry, I meant to write I was unable to post mine ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-08-2009
I think you should just say circumstances have ch...
Added By exhausted on 31-08-2009
Thanks a lot sometimesitdoesn'twork.
Subject: unexpected demand for cash from partner's ex-husband
Posted By sprout on 27-08-2009
My partner's ex-H is sometimes a wind-up merchant, but his latest has worried/upset me. I know it's not really my business, but.... when the person you love is on the end of this sort of thing, it's hard to be cool, calm and...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
hi. dont know if you have been reading my posts re...
Added By sprout on 28-08-2009
Hi Why? - I've not read all of your posts, but hav...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
i know. my first concern with h was that he would ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-08-2009
A consent order dismisses all future claims agains...
Added By sprout on 28-08-2009
Thanks sometimesitdoesn'twork!
Th...
Subject: Advice Please
Posted By BA 1883 on 27-08-2009
Married 1992
Separated 1999
Decree Absolute 2009
No Children
So lived as man and wife for just under 7 years. Seperated for 10 before Absolute was made
First Hearing due to take pla...
Added By Stuart on 27-08-2009
I feel sure your payments on the mortgage will be ...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
yes. cant see how she can have much if any claimon...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-08-2009
"Is it correct that mortgage company costs can be ...
Added By BA 1883 on 28-08-2009
If each party takes what they contributed - then s...
Subject: 'as yet date'? 'date as'?
Posted By why? on 27-08-2009
im confused. someone told me today that the business and house should have a date appointed to the valuation with the words above applied. actually i could have that wrongly worded.
im not sure what they mean....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-08-2009
In family law assets are valued during ancillary r...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
thanks again!
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
thanks again!
Subject: Enforcing an order
Posted By Suvla1915 on 27-08-2009
3 months on from Final Hearing and I feel like nothing has been achieved.
We still haven't received the sealed court copy of the order as there was a paragraph omitted and his solicitor still hasn't amended it....
Added By Simes 2p on 27-08-2009
Sulva,
I doubt that you can enforce...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-08-2009
Oh blimey, I shall have to sit it out then, I will...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
i am constantly amazed at how slack the whole proc...
Subject: what happens with cm after1 year?
Posted By why? on 27-08-2009
i am aware that the court have no jurisdiction over child maintenance and that either party can apply after 1 year.
does this mean that we agree a figure for cm then after 1 year h could apply and end up paying...
Added By Stuart on 27-08-2009
yep..... he can apply for the CSA to work out his ...
Added By sprout on 27-08-2009
The CSA is a double-edged thing.
Af...
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
thanks folks.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-08-2009
Just to clarify the CSA normally have jurisdiction...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
thank you for that information stidw.
Subject: Another friends question
Posted By Stuart on 26-08-2009
Hi,
I have asked a question before for a friend and heres another.
My friend has a court order dating back to the end of 2003 which stipulated the level of CM (never indexed linked so is still getting CM...
Added By Stuart on 26-08-2009
Oh, should add...
I dont normally a...
Added By scots caz on 26-08-2009
I think if she went to the CSA they would calculat...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
Courts retain jurisdiction for over 18s in educati...
Added By Stuart on 26-08-2009
Thanks for the responses.
Very posi...
Subject: i find all this financial stuff a bit boggling
Posted By why? on 23-08-2009
ok. i have been told in past on this board that i would only be entitled to either spousal maintenance or my shares. i have since read that i would be entitled to my shares anyway and spousal maintenance would still apply. ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-08-2009
It boils down to the same issues we've been throug...
Added By why? on 23-08-2009
ok. i will ask the value of my shares in the busin...
Added By sprout on 28-08-2009
If your ex2b was in a one or two person business t...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
thanks. working on brief. cant wait to get through...
Subject: nominal Spousal maintenance order
Posted By penny on 23-08-2009
Hi
I have been divorced for nearly 3 years. My problem is that because I have our 3 children most of the time (he has them for roughly 30 nights per year of his own choosing only on weekend days ) I am slowly sinking f...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-08-2009
You need to careful not to confuse child support a...
Added By penny on 23-08-2009
Thank you for your reply. So what exactly is spous...
Added By Nicola on 23-08-2009
Penny, you have to push the CSA really hard to get...
Added By Stuart on 24-08-2009
CSA are the most useless, inept bunch of idiots ev...
Added By penny on 24-08-2009
I can't beleive them either. My case has been pass...
Added By Stuart on 25-08-2009
The CSA bloke has left?
Yes, that w...
Added By Nicola on 25-08-2009
Inept, how true. They are the most incompetant gro...
Added By Stuart on 26-08-2009
No, not shame on pride.
Think of al...
Added By sprout on 27-08-2009
Can I suggest writing a letter to your MP, giving ...
Subject: h took action
Posted By why? on 22-08-2009
hi.
if you remember h was jumping the gun threatening baillifs to family members for separate 'loans' as he describes. he has never in the 3/ 4 year peroid since this money was given to my sister in law so much as aske...
Added By scots caz on 22-08-2009
Is there any paperwork that shows this was a loan ...
Added By Stuart on 22-08-2009
I wouldnt even have thought you needed any such pa...
Added By why? on 22-08-2009
hi thanks. the only paper work we would have is a ...
Added By Nicola on 22-08-2009
Completley ignore the whole thing. Its not an issu...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-08-2009
This doesn't involve debt collectors from the Lewi...
Added By why? on 22-08-2009
hi stidw.
no i looked at your link ...
Added By why? on 22-08-2009
IVE CHECKED DETAILS ON COMPOANIES HOUSE AND IT APP...
Added By Nicola on 22-08-2009
Why - Balliffs operating on a behalf of a court sh...
Added By why? on 22-08-2009
I really hope you are correct. however, i have bee...
Added By Nicola on 22-08-2009
Anyone with a first class stamp can send a stautor...
Added By why? on 22-08-2009
really? so if she ignores the statutory demand and...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-08-2009
It's scare tactics that some debt agencies use. In...
Added By why? on 22-08-2009
thanks stidw.
another question. is ...
Added By Stuart on 25-08-2009
Hang on.....why are you offering to settle a debt ...
Added By why? on 25-08-2009
hi stuart.
sorry, i wasn't referrin...
Added By Stuart on 26-08-2009
He sounds an idiot.
He has to prove...
Added By why? on 26-08-2009
i know. however, he can still cause a lot of upset...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
Sadly threats and unreasonable behaviour are all t...
Added By why? on 26-08-2009
yes. this may well be the case stidw. its difficul...
Added By Capt Chaos on 26-08-2009
I think there are different issues getting mixed u...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
"I am not sure I totally agree with the comment fr...
Added By why? on 26-08-2009
hi captain.
h has always been aggressive wh...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
Sorry, just picking up on one other point. Althoug...
Added By Capt Chaos on 26-08-2009
STIDW,
I guess the only point I was trying...
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
yes captain. you are correct in your comment that ...
Added By Capt Chaos on 27-08-2009
Sorry Why? you have stated before that you had acc...
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
hi captain. yes. i did suggest to my solicitor tha...
Subject: Wife will not sell our home
Posted By RichardStorie on 19-08-2009
Hi
Could anyone help me with a divorce problem I have. My wife kicked me out of our home 2 months ago, now she and my 2 girls live in the house. I want to sell the house but my wife will not put it on the marke...
Added By why? on 19-08-2009
how could she pay half of the mortgage and bills o...
Added By RichardStorie on 20-08-2009
Hi
I have not seen a solicitor yet ...
Added By scots caz on 20-08-2009
you should see a solicitor. You are perfectly with...
Subject: general advice
Posted By why? on 18-08-2009
hello. cant get other board to open up so have to post on the financial board.
we were married 9 years but cohabited for 2 years prior to this making it a total of 11 years. the judge only ever refers to it as ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 19-08-2009
In your ex's shoes i would disclose the pension. I...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-08-2009
Committed, settled cohabiting relationships before...
Added By why? on 19-08-2009
thanks again.
yes. i didn't expect ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-08-2009
If you've been in a relationship for 11 years the ...
Subject: Help with wording for a letter please?
Posted By Mendi on 09-10-2009
When I had my free half hour legal advice last week, the solicitor told me that before I agreed to sign my husband's petition for divorce and send it back to the court, I should get him to sign a letter to say that he would a...
Added By why? on 18-08-2009
the divorce, ie: the piece of paper saying we were...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-08-2009
It is considered good practice (Family Law Protoco...
Added By Mendi on 09-10-2009
Thankyou. At the moment neither of us has instruc...
Subject: WHERE DO I STAND?
Posted By caring me on 18-08-2009
when me and my husband split we sold our home for £315,000, i had the 3 children with me so i had £200,000 to by a flat and furnish it. 2 years on we are just going through a divorce and my ex has said hes solicitor has sai...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-08-2009
When there is a formal separation agreement it m...
Added By butterfly52 on 13-09-2009
Hello Caring Me,
Have you resolved ...
Subject: RAF Pension and House, only assets
Posted By Mendi on 17-08-2009
Hello. I've just received my husband's petition for divorce. We've been separated for 3 years and have 2 children age 16 and nearly 18, both in full-time education. He now wishes to remarry.
Our only assets ...
Added By Mendi on 17-08-2009
Oh and I forgot to say, I'm still in the marital h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-08-2009
The usual method of pension valuation, the Cash E...
Added By Mendi on 18-08-2009
Thanks for that
Subject: matrimonial house sold
Posted By cha cha cha on 17-08-2009
Hi....I was taken to court by my ex husband. I had no solicitor and lost my case. The court set out estate agents who had sole conduct of the sale. The judge put in the general order that the solicitors bill was to be asse...
Subject: CHILD TAX CREDITS
Posted By why? on 14-08-2009
HERE WE GO.....
OK..., IF I HAVE EARNED TOO MUCH INCOME IN THE PREVIOUS YEAR TO QUALIFY FOR TAX CREDITS BUT THEN IN A POSITION EARNING NO INCOME, DO I RECEIVE THE TAX CREDITS IN ADVANCE, OR DO I NEED TO WAIT UN...
Added By JohnR on 14-08-2009
AFAIAA:-
Tax credits are calculated...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-08-2009
If you inform HMRC that your income is expected ...
Added By why? on 15-08-2009
thank you folks.
Added By skovby1 on 17-08-2009
Just to confirm that tax credit office always ask ...
Subject: Were do i start!!!
Posted By dunover on 13-08-2009
I have now been married for 8 weeks!!! we split 12 days!! after our £20,000 wedding when I found out that she had been cheating on me for the last 3 months with a man from work that she meet on her hen do!!
She has be...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-08-2009
The first thing is that in England & Wales unless ...
Added By Stuart on 13-08-2009
She sounds very much like my ex wife....
Subject: one more question
Posted By why? on 11-08-2009
h has been sending messages to me threatening that he has started court proceedings and is sending bailifs to my sister in laws house in scotland for money we offered them to help with urgent medical costs for her mum quite s...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-08-2009
Like E&W the courts in Scotland have to establis...
Added By why? on 11-08-2009
hi stidw. does this mean that she will be contacte...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-08-2009
The court rules and procedures in Scotland are com...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-08-2009
Presumably like the good old broken England, Scotl...
Added By why? on 12-08-2009
thank you simes. given the circumstances, what you...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-08-2009
Presumably like the good old broken England, Scotl...
Subject: question from h
Posted By why? on 11-08-2009
i have been asked to tell h how much child taxcredits i would be entitled to if i was to stop being paid by the company.
i do not believe this is relevant for the following reasons and would like to know from t...
Added By JohnR on 11-08-2009
1 Tax credit entitlement is a relevant factor whi...
Added By why? on 11-08-2009
hi j r. thanks for all of the above. h actually ow...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-08-2009
You can think what you want but answering the ques...
Added By why? on 11-08-2009
cheers. i woyuldn't have an issue if all the quest...
Subject: legal seperation
Posted By knotgrrl on 10-08-2009
My husband and I have been seperated for 3 months now, as I was keen to leave him I did not fight over anything we had in our property, hence he cleared out the flat taking all our furniture and leaving me with nothing but my...
Added By Joyce. on 10-08-2009
Where do you live?
If you're in Eng...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
Is the reason why you can't divorce because you we...
Added By knotgrrl on 10-08-2009
thanks for the advice, a divorce sooner rather tha...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
I can understand why you feel you wouldn't like to...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
PS There is a list of court fees, EX150, and a she...
Added By knotgrrl on 10-08-2009
thank you for the advice, the UB list has really h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
There is a general court principle that if a case ...
Added By knotgrrl on 11-08-2009
thanks for that info, will try and get him to comm...
Added By why? on 14-08-2009
HI. I PUT DOWN UNREASONABLE BEHAVIOUR BUT DID NOT ...
Added By knotgrrl on 17-08-2009
have recieved the petition for divorce that i need...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-08-2009
When filing of the petition it is possible with go...
Added By knotgrrl on 19-08-2009
agggghhhhhh this is so frustrating, why does he ha...
Subject: child maintenance
Posted By julie21 on 09-08-2009
If the father who pays child maintenance has no income through redundancy or job loss, is it correct to assume that if he is married to somebody that they have to pay the maintenance instead. If in the long term there is no m...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-08-2009
CM is assessed against the income of the non resid...
Added By julie21 on 09-08-2009
The court order definately states that the order o...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-08-2009
The exact wording is important and whether the cla...
Added By EnglishRose on 10-08-2009
We need to know exactly what the order says - past...
Added By julie21 on 10-08-2009
will go and look for the order, pretty sure him pa...
Subject: will i get more than half?
Posted By xtrail05 on 12-08-2009
Can anyone help???? ...I have paid my mortgage completely off and also i paid for all the contents of the house with my inheritance from my grandfather & uncle.(long before seperating from my husband) I left my husband to fi...
Added By evr on 09-08-2009
Not enough detail I'm afraid. How long was the ma...
Added By xtrail05 on 12-08-2009
Hello
Thanks we have been married ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-08-2009
Each case depends on the particular facts and with...
Added By xtrail05 on 12-08-2009
So does this mean that i will not get anything ? T...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-08-2009
No, I didn't say that. It means without the detail...
Added By Stuart on 10-08-2009
Would we be wrong in assuming that the children li...
Added By xtrail05 on 12-08-2009
Yes they do only because my eldest daugther wants ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
If you haven't already done so it might be an ide...
Added By Stuart on 10-08-2009
Err....your children are going to have to be house...
Added By Stuart on 11-08-2009
What you are experiencing is something that many m...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-08-2009
The problem is regardless of OP's gender without ...
Added By Stuart on 12-08-2009
xtrail05 appears to have trailed off....
Added By Stuart on 19-08-2009
I guess we didnt tell Xtrail05 what she wanted to ...
Subject: Do I have to pay this bill?
Posted By whichwaysup on 06-08-2009
My partner left us (me and 3 kids) in Feb. The utilities were in his name. After he left, I had to take on all the bills etc and I switched supplier.
He has paid the gas bill up to the date he left. Now letters...
Added By Stuart on 07-08-2009
No one can be prosecuted but as the occupier you a...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
i didn't understand your post i think? you said th...
Added By JohnR on 08-08-2009
OP is saying that her partner, who was the person ...
Added By whichwaysup on 08-08-2009
Thanks for the explanation JohnR, and thanks for y...
Added By Suvla1915 on 08-08-2009
Err, I was informed differently in exactly the sam...
Added By JohnR on 08-08-2009
Just to clarify:
Gas Act 1986, as a...
Added By Suvla1915 on 08-08-2009
Ah well, then I was misinformed (by a financial ad...
Subject: Child tax credits again part two
Posted By Kat007 on 06-08-2009
Hi all,
So did as Evr suggested and went to CAB they were really helpful and gave me info about my MP and told me haw to handle things. So came home rang Inland rev and spoke to a lovely lady she put me through...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
well done kat.
Subject: had my directions meeting today
Posted By why? on 05-08-2009
hello. meeting went ok/ish. eventually got result in that judge agreed the businesses had to be valued.all a bit 'fluffy' i thought, including the judge herself. it was as if everyone in the room was just learning as they wen...
Added By Stuart on 05-08-2009
Im assuming today was the first appointment?
...
Added By why? on 05-08-2009
i know stuart. it was because my case does depend ...
Added By Kat007 on 05-08-2009
Why a judge will only look at the facts infront of...
Added By why? on 06-08-2009
im afraid its not all fluff folks.i know you do no...
Added By Kat007 on 06-08-2009
Why,
A judge will really not be bot...
Added By why? on 06-08-2009
hi kat. thanks. i understand all that you say. not...
Added By Kat007 on 06-08-2009
Yeah everything going ok.
I just wo...
Added By why? on 06-08-2009
true and a veryt good point about the ex. but then...
Added By Kat007 on 06-08-2009
Good good,
Why? I didn't have a clu...
Added By EnglishRose on 06-08-2009
It's compltely irrelevant if he's lying about wher...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-08-2009
In family cases it's usual to instruct a joint exp...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
we are having a joint valuation taking into accoun...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-08-2009
As I said about 8 or 9 months ago there needs to b...
Added By why? on 09-08-2009
hi stidw.
i understand what you say. his ot...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-08-2009
Court does tend to focus the mind but it can stil...
Added By Suvla1915 on 09-08-2009
My case was much simpler than yours but took two y...
Added By why? on 09-08-2009
thank you for your replies. had emotionally unprov...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
I wouldn't assume anything. There is a difference ...
Added By why? on 10-08-2009
totally agree with you on all the above. remember ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
Covert surveillance can be illegal, it depends how...
Subject: Implementation of consent order
Posted By Suvla1915 on 05-08-2009
Sorry, me again. I have spoken to the court who say the order has not yet been sealed by the judge because there was a problem with the wording in one paragraph. They have sent it to his solicitor for amendment.
...
Added By Suvla1915 on 05-08-2009
Should add that we both signed a handwritten copy ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-08-2009
The idea of a final order is that it is legally bi...
Added By Suvla1915 on 05-08-2009
Phew, that's a relief then.
Subject: Consent Orders and Cohabiting
Posted By Scrumpy132 on 02-08-2009
My partner's ex left him three years ago for another man, she left the marital home and moved in with the children to her boyfriend's house. She then proceeded to draw out the financial agreement, which was finalised 18 month...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-08-2009
Cohabitation actually doesn't make much difference...
Added By Scrumpy132 on 03-08-2009
There is a clause regarding the sale of the proper...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
Sorry to be pedantic but the devil is in the detai...
Subject: settlement options?
Posted By why? on 02-08-2009
hi. sorry about all these questions but my solicitor isn't good at identifying my confusions and misunderstandings with regards to settlements.
as many of you know i am not keen on receiving 'maintenance', whic...
Added By LazyLizzie on 02-08-2009
I am somewhat confused by your comments about the ...
Added By why? on 02-08-2009
hi. no by fall out, i mean that a third trial woul...
Added By LazyLizzie on 03-08-2009
Generally the simpler the agreement the more likel...
Added By why? on 03-08-2009
id prefer if he dissapeared out of our lives if im...
Added By why? on 03-08-2009
id prefer if he dissapeared out of our lives if im...
Added By Kat007 on 05-08-2009
Why,
I really think you need to ste...
Added By Stuart on 05-08-2009
"i did not mean to keep my shares but rather that ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-08-2009
It depends on the circumstance. V v V was not a b...
Subject: tax credits another silly question perhaps
Posted By why? on 01-08-2009
ok. maintenance is not classed as income.
what about lump sum payments as part of a divorce settlement? would this be classed as income? if not, would the interest on this money be classed as income? is there any type ...
Added By scots caz on 01-08-2009
this is the info from the tax credits site:
...
Added By why? on 01-08-2009
thanks for that. very helpful.
Subject: talking of tax credits lol
Posted By Kat007 on 31-07-2009
Is there any point in me try to overturn the Inland revenues decision saying that I still owe them over £k in overpaid credits or is it wrth me going to CAB so they can help me fight it.
I have spoken to the C...
Added By why? on 01-08-2009
hi kat.
i was just about to do another shor...
Added By evr on 01-08-2009
Definitely go to the CAB Kat. You can also involv...
Added By evr on 01-08-2009
Oops, forgot to say mention your illness and your ...
Added By Kat007 on 04-08-2009
Thanks evr for the advice.
I did wr...
Subject: tax credits again
Posted By why? on 30-07-2009
h's solicitor asking how much i would rceieve in child tax credits if h's business stopped paying me a salary.
i dont see how this question is relevant. surely benefits are not intended to be used as a means to...
Added By JohnR on 30-07-2009
Tax credits are an income issue and relevant to ma...
Added By scots caz on 30-07-2009
I assume this is relating to the calculation for s...
Added By why? on 31-07-2009
thank you for clarifying that john r.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-07-2009
The overall circumstances are relevant and you can...
Added By why? on 31-07-2009
john. one more question. i understand the informat...
Added By why? on 31-07-2009
thanks stidw.
Subject: Part Time Work
Posted By I-Hate-All-This on 30-07-2009
Hi All,
Just got the date of our Nici through yesterday, so it shouldn't be too long before we get divorced. Still sorting out the finances at the moment.
To sum up, I caught her at a B&B with an...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-07-2009
In determining spouse maintenance all the circums...
Added By scots caz on 30-07-2009
depending on the ages of the children she may not ...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 31-07-2009
Hi, Sorry, kids are now 17 and 14, bot are at scho...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-07-2009
It's really a number crunching exercise. Your wife...
Added By I-Hate-All-This on 31-07-2009
Thanks for all the replies. I understand that thes...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-07-2009
Just because your wife wants certain things doesn'...
Added By EnglishRose on 01-08-2009
Difficult. The mora is never marry a lower earner ...
Added By Stuart on 04-08-2009
Its a bloody good job we dont live on one of those...
Subject: settlement
Posted By why? on 26-07-2009
quick question.
lets say my form e shows my estimated income needs for the children and myself, which it does of course. lets say its obvious that h's income needs are hugely excessive and uneccessary. lets say that af...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-07-2009
Before 2001 it was a case of just meeting require...
Added By why? on 27-07-2009
thank you. do all judges work with this in mind or...
Added By Kat007 on 27-07-2009
Why he will ask questions of your spending no matt...
Added By Bon431 on 27-07-2009
Hi why - In my case, I did what you did. I was hon...
Added By why? on 27-07-2009
thanks folks. i will try to find info on rose v ro...
Added By Bon431 on 27-07-2009
Hi why - It sounds like you are thinking it all th...
Added By why? on 27-07-2009
yes. good point bon but equally,so long as they do...
Added By Bon431 on 28-07-2009
Hi why - Please please please keep reminding yours...
Added By why? on 28-07-2009
thanks bon. well, well, well. just as expected. he...
Subject: Impossible!
Posted By Suvla1915 on 25-07-2009
Have heard from him. He is refusing to pay my money despite the fact it is a month late until he receives the court order yet he is expecting me to get the decorating done and put the house on the market. Oh, and increase pay...
Added By Suvla1915 on 25-07-2009
Extract from his email!
"Can't bel...
Added By Suvla1915 on 26-07-2009
Doesn't matter. no need to answer, I was just voic...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-07-2009
You could stoop to his level and tell him you refu...
Added By Bon431 on 27-07-2009
Hey sulva - Please don't let others nastiness scar...
Added By Stuart on 28-07-2009
Sulva....
I know exactly what you m...
Added By Kat007 on 29-07-2009
Hi sulva,
We write here about thing...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
hi suvla.
i am sorry to hear what you are g...
Added By Suvla1915 on 30-07-2009
Just saying this very quietly in the hope she does...
Added By why? on 03-08-2009
hi suvla
one thing i know for sure....
Added By Kat007 on 05-08-2009
Sulva,
Happy that I made you smile ...
Subject: Please help re non disclosure of account detail.
Posted By OnMyOwn on 24-07-2009
My ex husband did not declare his savings account during our FDR. I have now found a copy of his old saving book under a carpet in one of our rooms. It had about 40K in it.
We signed the consent order in 2007...
Added By Bon431 on 24-07-2009
Hi there - If you check the wikivorce site, you'll...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-07-2009
Court officials cannot give you any legal advice a...
Added By OnMyOwn on 24-07-2009
Thanks a lot, I saw a sols who told me to let me g...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-07-2009
Solicitor has a point There must be concrete evide...
Added By OnMyOwn on 28-07-2009
Thanks stdw, I have traced the account back to jis...
Added By JohnR on 28-07-2009
Do you have any evidence that there was any money ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
"I have traced the account back to jis other bank ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
PS For terminology you might find the judgment Ju...
Added By OnMyOwn on 29-07-2009
Thanks so much for your words of wisdom. I have h...
Subject: Back again! advice please form E
Posted By redchad on 22-07-2009
Going back to court to amend consent order and have to complete another Form E, This time Im self representing so could do with some help re the form.
Can anyone explain what my Income Needs inlude and then my...
Added By Kat007 on 22-07-2009
Your income includes the following:
...
Added By redchad on 23-07-2009
Cheers Kat007
I understand my incom...
Added By Bon431 on 23-07-2009
Hi there - Have you looked at the Form E guidance ...
Added By Kat007 on 23-07-2009
yes income needs are how much you feel you will ne...
Added By redchad on 23-07-2009
Great so whats my capital needs involve?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-07-2009
Somewhere to live?
Subject: Bankruptcy
Posted By Nic75 on 21-07-2009
I have posted before. I did leave my MH due to intolerable emotional pressure on myself and my daughter.
We had an agreement that he would stay in the MH for up to a year paying the mortgage, and he assured me he could...
Added By Kat007 on 23-07-2009
Do you actually believe he will go bankrupt?
...
Subject: Consent Order
Posted By HangingInThere on 21-07-2009
I have a consent order dated April 2006. It states that, on sale of the FMH, the proceeds of sale are as follows:-
1. discharge the mortgage
2. solicitors conveyancing costs
3. estate agents char...
Added By Kat007 on 21-07-2009
OOH
Can you afford to buy him out i...
Added By HangingInThere on 21-07-2009
Thanks for your reply
The consent o...
Added By Kat007 on 21-07-2009
The balance of the credit card will be paid at the...
Subject: Update on hearing
Posted By Kat007 on 20-07-2009
Well well, who would have thought it hmm.
I was away as you know, ex went to court with counsel, my sol and counsel went, both counsels got together and agreed heads of agreement was a good judgement last year....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-07-2009
That's great news, although not at all unexpected....
Added By Bon431 on 21-07-2009
Hi kat - lmao at your x! He is such an idiot! I ca...
Added By Kat007 on 21-07-2009
Yeah I did say to my sol shall we give another gun...
Added By Kat007 on 22-07-2009
Finally got the paperwork for the consent order ho...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-07-2009
If he refuses to abide by a court order then you w...
Added By Kat007 on 23-07-2009
OOh that sounds quite scary stids prison is that r...
Added By Kat007 on 25-07-2009
Hi all,
Had a letter ex is now self...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-07-2009
Being sent to prison can ultimately happen. A few ...
Added By Kat007 on 25-07-2009
thing is it's not pending he hasn't even filed yet...
Subject: Help Will he get my house
Posted By Lakisha354 on 18-07-2009
Hi I am just after a little advice.
MY first husband who I was married to for 30 years past away 5 years ago.
I re married against the advice of my family and have been married now for 2 years.<...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-07-2009
Please do not dispose of assets to avoid H's finan...
Subject: mortgage payments
Posted By RADLEY on 14-07-2009
The xtb has not made any contribution to the mortgage payments since we split - although he does pay cm for the children still at school, 13 and 17 yrs. I have all the maintanance of the house - ie new boiler at a cost of £...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-07-2009
If the mortgage is in joint names as far as the le...
Added By RADLEY on 21-07-2009
I can't afford the mortgage on my own. Do not hav...
Added By Kat007 on 22-07-2009
Radley,
Do not just stop payingthe ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-07-2009
Each case depends on the particular facts and befo...
Subject: Back again....
Posted By Stuart on 14-07-2009
Hi,
Just looking for some advice.
My son will be 12 in October and over the past few months has increasingly expressed a desire to live with me. He is very unhappy with his mum who is pregnant an...
Added By Stuart on 14-07-2009
Bugger....wrong board....sorry...reposted on the g...
Subject: WHAT DO I DO NEXT?
Posted By peaches on 12-07-2009
Husband left home in Feb 2005. Joint mortgage which he has not contributed to since then. Maintenance payment for 1 child aged 11 through CSA. Older child now 18 and in full time work. Husband asked for divorce in Nov 2007 an...
Added By why? on 12-07-2009
have you been sending solicitors letters to his ad...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
Here in Scotland we have our own legal system and ...
Added By peaches on 16-07-2009
Thank you for your comments and as suggested I've ...
Subject: divorce papers
Posted By Antonia on 06-07-2009
my husband and got married abroad where we live now. we are in a divorce process at the moment. i have uk and bosnian passport and he only got bosnian. after our divorce i am planning to go back to uk. he is hinting it's his ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-07-2009
As I understand it he could apply for a visa in hi...
Added By Antonia on 06-07-2009
so border agency wont know we are divorced unless ...
Subject: Ex won't accept reasonable offer
Posted By Paddington on 05-07-2009
Further to my post of 7th June about the sale of the FMH, we have received an offer for the house from someone with no property to sell, but my ex will not accept it. Although significantly below the asking price, it is the ...
Subject: When does a court order take effect?
Posted By Suvla1915 on 05-07-2009
Does the consent order take effect from the date of the order, or the date of the decree absolute?
Our consent order says he will pay me £x within 28 days. Interest to be charged if he is late. It is now late!...
Added By Kat007 on 05-07-2009
Court order takes effect from the date the order w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-07-2009
It depends on the terms of the order. Sometimes, f...
Added By Suvla1915 on 05-07-2009
Well I was okay earlier! Then I heard from him, ju...
Added By Suvla1915 on 05-07-2009
What a load of garbled nonsense! I was upset.
Added By LazyLizzie on 06-07-2009
Suvla, you have my sympathies for your situation. ...
Added By EnglishRose on 06-07-2009
Poor you.
On the financial side do as somet...
Added By Bon431 on 06-07-2009
Hi sulva - You rant away! I am sorry you are in th...
Added By Kat007 on 07-07-2009
What most ex's say and then do are never the same ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 10-07-2009
Thank you for the kind responses. It has been a st...
Added By Kat007 on 11-07-2009
Oh Sulva, this is horrible but you did the right t...
Added By Jellylegs on 12-07-2009
Hi Suvla
You do right to ignore the...
Subject: questionaire - how many opportunities
Posted By why? on 04-07-2009
hello.
exchanged form e's. fortunately h's proves his selfishness and lack of reality. his is big. i will have a great many questions to put forward on the questionnaire regarding form e info. can i ask as many questio...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-07-2009
Until now any disclosure was voluntary and without...
Added By Bon431 on 06-07-2009
Hi why? - I too had a load of questions after I go...
Added By why? on 06-07-2009
thanks bon. information until now has indeed been ...
Added By why? on 06-07-2009
if there were other examples of bad behaviour with...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-07-2009
It's correct to say the courts are not intereste...
Added By why? on 07-07-2009
if his needs are obviously unreasonable ie: (3 tim...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-07-2009
Reasonable needs are relative to income and lifest...
Added By why? on 07-07-2009
ok. so basically, if his needs alone could not pos...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-07-2009
Yes, or the ability to meet the income needs can b...
Added By why? on 07-07-2009
ok. good. because quite frankly, his needs are 4 t...
Added By JohnR on 07-07-2009
Can you clarify.
Are you saying tha...
Added By why? on 07-07-2009
yes. his current income paid to him is correct. (i...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-07-2009
Yes, if his needs are much higher than his income ...
Added By why? on 08-07-2009
his businessaccounts are completely separate from ...
Subject: what can i expect?
Posted By tilly99 on 03-07-2009
My husband and i have been married for 4 years,and are now divorcing. I dont know what to expect....
We have a house,with no mortgage.We bought it after we were married, with £250,000 gift from my husbands step father...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-07-2009
Your husband is mistaken. It doesn't matter that t...
Added By tilly99 on 04-07-2009
Thank you for your reply, i really appreciate it.<...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-07-2009
The pension and any savings or investments are imp...
Added By tilly99 on 08-07-2009
Thank you so much,this is a great help.Im looking ...
Subject: DIY consent order
Posted By Lisa.W41 on 02-07-2009
Hi all
My husband and I split up approx 3 years ago. We are divorcing under the 2 year separation and have had our decree nisci announced, all by DIY. I spoke to a solicitor a couple of months ago regarding the...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-07-2009
In theory it is possible to draft a consent order...
Added By Lisa.W41 on 02-07-2009
There are no real assets to fight over. We were i...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-07-2009
Maintenance is a very good example of what I'm tal...
Added By Lisa.W41 on 02-07-2009
I can see your point, however my ex has been marri...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-07-2009
There isn't a form for the consent order itself. ...
Added By Lisa.W41 on 03-07-2009
Thanks for that, it is very useful. Can you point...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-07-2009
Legal drafting is an art. Unless someone is a lawy...
Subject: Are terms for discussion required before court hearing?
Posted By Babs101 on 02-07-2009
Hi, My partner is in the process of getting divorced from his ex (still!!) and had his second court hearing 2 days ago, where he made a financial agreement as he was worried that if he waited until the third hearing, the judg...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-07-2009
Although offers of settlement are made before the ...
Added By Suspicious Minds on 02-07-2009
You could always get a job yourself.
...
Added By Babs101 on 03-07-2009
Thanks for the info RE the finality of the hearing...
Added By Suspicious Minds on 03-07-2009
Well there you go, you'll be alright when you get ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-07-2009
The essential principle of a consent order is fina...
Subject: Another flippin hearing
Posted By Kat007 on 01-07-2009
So ex has refused to adjourn the hearing in a couple of weeks as he is adament that it has to be that day even though I have asked for it to be moved as I am going on a well deserved holiday(paid for by my mum and dad staying...
Added By why? on 02-07-2009
go on holiday. let your solicitor know the story i...
Added By Kat007 on 02-07-2009
Hi why,
Hope you and the family are...
Added By why? on 02-07-2009
im afraid i know nothing about heads of agreement ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-07-2009
I'm surprised this has just come up now, I though...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-07-2009
I think you should probably attend the hearing rat...
Added By Kat007 on 03-07-2009
Cheers Stids for the input.
I think...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-07-2009
From what you have said I would have thought a red...
Added By Kat007 on 04-07-2009
thanks again stids,
So would you su...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-07-2009
Ask your solicitor about a Connell Order and he sh...
Added By Kat007 on 05-07-2009
If I ask for the connell order which seems the rig...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-07-2009
Yes, indeed you can although if the global amount ...
Added By Kat007 on 11-07-2009
Thanks for the reply, Ex had sent throught a state...
Subject: Seperation and joint house HELP
Posted By Deex on 30-06-2009
I split with my ex in August last year, it took me till Jan to get the house on the market, he has put it on 15000 over its value.
May I state now, that I have a new partner.
Anyway he is refusing to lower the h...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-06-2009
Unfortunately it isn't a good idea to just walk aw...
Subject: separating (not married) and need mortgage help
Posted By worley on 04-07-2009
hi, new to this so sorry if it in the wrong place.
im now going through the process of separating from my partner, we have been together for 13 years and have had a mortgage for 7years. we are amicable at the moment b...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-06-2009
If you are not married and both parties names are ...
Added By worley on 30-06-2009
thankyou
at first he was just going to sign...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-07-2009
They tend to lend 3x your salary (£60K) and the c...
Subject: get it valued or not?
Posted By why? on 27-06-2009
hello.
h does not want business/es valued. his reasons are it will be expensive and suggests we work with the 'maintainable income' the comany willbe able to support. he is not trustworthy by a long stretch of ...
Added By JohnR on 27-06-2009
Are you now suggesting that the business (which yo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-06-2009
You really need the advice from a lawyer who under...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-06-2009
Just to clarify, spouse maintenance stops when the...
Added By why? on 28-06-2009
thanks folks. yes john, i had thought 2 ways. eith...
Added By why? on 28-06-2009
or business pay deferred lump sums so i am not dep...
Added By why? on 28-06-2009
another question. prior to setting up the main bus...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-06-2009
You need to focus on what can actually be done und...
Added By why? on 28-06-2009
you refer to court being able to transfer assets. ...
Added By JohnR on 28-06-2009
The bottom line is that whatever the two of you ow...
Added By why? on 28-06-2009
ok. would i not then at least be entitled to my sh...
Added By why? on 28-06-2009
what if it could not have been possible for the bu...
Added By LazyLizzie on 29-06-2009
I don't understand why you feel that you are entit...
Added By JohnR on 29-06-2009
The other problem is that Why and her husband only...
Added By why? on 30-06-2009
i do understand what you are both saying. lizzie. ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-06-2009
Evidence of a financial contribution to a busines...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-07-2009
I deal with businesses a lot and agree with the ab...
Added By why? on 03-07-2009
thanks er. this has all been very helpful.
Subject: Another quick one for me this time please.
Posted By Stuart on 25-06-2009
Hi again,
My decree absolute is about to be granted and our finances (albeit not a huge job) still need to be resolved.
I have a matrimonial home rights notice on my ex's place on the grounds that I inve...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-06-2009
It's possible to object to the decree absolute be...
Added By Stuart on 02-07-2009
Thanks for that.
Subject: ex wife debts
Posted By lola1981 on 25-06-2009
Hi,
Looking for some advice if possible...
My brother in law and his ex wife divorced in may 2005. All finances were settled and that was that. He has recently recieved letter regarding debt on his credit cards...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-06-2009
As far as the credit card company is concerned the...
Added By why? on 26-06-2009
why did he leave her with his credit card or why d...
Subject: index link maintenance
Posted By foggy on 25-06-2009
Hello Folks, hope you could please help.
My SP is index link to the retail Price index. Last year, my Ex just added £5 to my maintenance and this year he says he is going to add £1 pound. Could somebody ple...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-06-2009
Actually you are probably lucky to get £1 increas...
Added By foggy on 25-06-2009
Thanks so much for the detailed information STDW, ...
Subject: Ex husband will not move out
Posted By Special on 24-06-2009
Have written about this earlier.... We were divorced in Feb and Judge has signed Transfer to transfer deeds into my name (as EH would not sign). Transfer is back from land registry, so technically EH has no right to be here....
Added By why? on 26-06-2009
i guess you could point out that he has known abou...
Subject: Tertiary Education
Posted By Audipersempre on 23-06-2009
Hi All,
Apologies if this is a repeat question, I could not find the subject in the archives. My daughter turned 18 years old last October. After leaving school she took a 2 year BTEC course in Sports Science a...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-06-2009
a) Yes. "Tertiary education" includes further educ...
Added By Audipersempre on 23-06-2009
OK thank you. Just looking for a chance for my dau...
Subject: Enforcement of a consent order
Posted By doingmybest on 21-06-2009
I had started a thread already but couldn't add to it, so started another, I hope you don't mind
I received a letter today from another solicitor that my ex has approached. It talks about the consent order and the date...
Added By doingmybest on 23-06-2009
Any ideas any one?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-06-2009
I don't agree with your analysis. The Family Law P...
Added By doingmybest on 24-06-2009
Thanks for your reply. It's not that I don't want ...
Added By doingmybest on 19-08-2010
UPDATE:
Went to court yesterday, she never...
Subject: house sale
Posted By nessa123 on 18-06-2009
Hello,
Without giving a long long post to explain everything I wondered if anyone can clarify if one person can sell a house without letting the other partner know or have any say in it. There are no court orders or is...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-06-2009
One party can sell the former matrimonial home if ...
Added By nessa123 on 18-06-2009
Thank you for your help and yes the house is in jo...
Subject: Please Help before I lose the will to go on
Posted By bluebell2212 on 18-06-2009
Please forgive me for what follows, it is rather complicated. A little over 7 years ago I and my wife [to be] were married in an official ceremony in New York City. On our return to the Uk we found that we had lost the lice...
Added By LazyLizzie on 18-06-2009
This is obviously not a straightforward situation ...
Added By bluebell2212 on 18-06-2009
Thanks Lizzie [I don't think you are lazy at all b...
Added By LazyLizzie on 18-06-2009
Personally I think you should go back to the begin...
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