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Subject: Controlling I think
Posted By Kat007 on 07-02-2010
So ex has been writing all week, I currently do not have the funds for sols so have been replied to them.
Then I recieved a rather aggressive letter. I have still been unable to move as property is so scarse an...
Added By Simes 2p on 07-02-2010
Kat, you have to laugh at him, stop writing as it ...
Added By Owl1 on 07-02-2010
Kat. STOP writing back to him. You don't have to. ...
Added By Kat007 on 08-02-2010
Do you know what everyone has said the same don't ...
Added By Owl1 on 08-02-2010
Kat, you are not a solicitor so as LIP you are not...
Added By Simes 2p on 08-02-2010
Kat,
1 Will a judge think I am bein...
Added By Ess on 08-02-2010
Hi Kat
I just wanted to add that I understa...
Added By Stuart on 08-02-2010
You want my 2 penneth.....
He's a g...
Added By Tania on 08-02-2010
Sorry to read what you're experiencing and that it...
Added By dts on 08-02-2010
Kat,
I can't believe that this tw*t...
Subject: A bit of advice
Posted By Tomas on 05-02-2010
Hi,
I have recently written a play entitled "Matryoshka" based on the experience of a very close family friend who was caught up in a long and emotionally fraught divorce case. She is a mother with three young ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 07-02-2010
Post the link and I'would be interested in reading...
Subject: Court
Posted By easyrider on 05-02-2010
I may need to take matters to court to increase contact. The last hearing was heard by a circuit judge who was very support of contact being increased to the level it is and made an order in the hearing. How can I try to get ...
Added By EnglishRose on 05-02-2010
May be the court clerks could let you know but I t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-02-2010
In children cases continuity is considered importa...
Added By easyrider on 07-02-2010
so sometimesitdoesn'twork it is possible to get th...
Subject: Light at the end of the tunnel
Posted By dts on 02-02-2010
Hi everybody,
I have already received superb advice on here regarding a question I asked the other day. Thanks to all that responded.
Thought I would post a bit about what is happening in my case...
Added By Ess on 02-02-2010
Hi light. It's lovely to read a positive experien...
Added By dts on 02-02-2010
Hi Ess,
Thanks for your kind though...
Added By Ess on 02-02-2010
Hi dts - sorry I called you "Light" when I replied...
Added By skovby1 on 02-02-2010
I thought I was reading an old post of mine for a ...
Added By dts on 03-02-2010
Ess, Skovby1
Thanks for your suppor...
Added By Kat007 on 03-02-2010
dts,
So lovely to hear that everyth...
Added By Ess on 03-02-2010
I wish I could find some words of wisdom for you o...
Added By dts on 04-02-2010
Kat,
Thanks so much for your words ...
Added By Ess on 04-02-2010
Hi dts - I hear what you're saying about being rel...
Added By EnglishRose on 06-02-2010
My family are mostly psychiatrists. They do tend t...
Added By dts on 08-02-2010
Hi Ess,
Thanks for the support.
Added By skovby1 on 08-02-2010
I think it is important to actually allow yourself...
Added By dts on 08-02-2010
Hi skovby1,
Thanks for your support...
Added By dts on 08-02-2010
Sorry, made a mistake with the email address. It s...
Subject: Should I stay or should I go?
Posted By Suspicious Minds on 31-01-2010
I would appreciate some opinions on the dilemma I find myself in.
I am now divorced and the FMH is on the market. My cheating ex has moved abroad with the woman he left me for and is out of contact with myself ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 31-01-2010
I can appreciate how you feel - lots of people fee...
Added By EnglishRose on 01-02-2010
I think you need to find a local boyfriend. I have...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-02-2010
I like Lazy Lizzie's idea of renting for a while s...
Subject: Taking Children on Holiday
Posted By Ess on 31-01-2010
My ex and I have been divorced for 5 years and our relationship seems to have deteriorated year on year.
I sent him an email (the only way he will communicate with me) saying that I would like to take our child...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-01-2010
Strictly speaking you do not require his consent t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-01-2010
Sorry the first sentence should read *less* than ...
Added By Ess on 31-01-2010
Thanks STIDW. There seems to be such a lot of con...
Added By Ess on 31-01-2010
Can you tell me which forms I would need to fill i...
Added By Jools123 on 01-02-2010
Do you have a court order? Are you breaking the co...
Added By Stuart on 01-02-2010
Whether you have a contact order etc makes no diff...
Added By Jools123 on 01-02-2010
If it breaks the order and no provisions for holid...
Added By Ess on 02-02-2010
Oooops - yes, I meant £1800! No Jools, there is ...
Added By Stuart on 02-02-2010
If he wants to stop you from going then he is goin...
Added By Ess on 02-02-2010
Thanks Stuart - I think the only reason he would h...
Subject: ha ha here's a laugh
Posted By Kat007 on 30-01-2010
So ex is getting married again ha ha so funny everyone who mentions it too me just laughs and says how rediculas, i just say not bothered, not interested, couldn't care which is all true.
Got an e-mail from him...
Added By Suvla1915 on 30-01-2010
What a cheek!
Added By skovby1 on 30-01-2010
Amazing how some people cannot look after the sing...
Added By LazyLizzie on 30-01-2010
My ex came round to see me to ask if I could let h...
Added By Kat007 on 31-01-2010
Exactly one of the most important pieces of paper ...
Added By Stuart on 02-02-2010
"Maybe I could have given it to him with a downloa...
Added By Kat007 on 03-02-2010
However I have come to realise that if I did this ...
Added By london on 06-02-2010
Why is it such an issue to let ex-spouse have a co...
Added By Kat007 on 06-02-2010
Well it actually turns out that he didn't need it ...
Subject: Lost
Posted By Captain Oates on 29-01-2010
Well. Devastated. Was a directions hearing. Supposed to be there for 30 mins. The case before went on then we came back in the afternoon and he heard us.
The judge said ok for not being there last time, then or...
Added By Captain Oates on 30-01-2010
Costs on a directions hearing can't be right? Shou...
Added By Kat007 on 30-01-2010
Sorry that happened and from my understanding cost...
Added By EnglishRose on 30-01-2010
In other types of litigation costs for intermediat...
Added By Captain Oates on 31-01-2010
wasn't my bundle and wasn't found to be at fault f...
Added By Simes 2p on 31-01-2010
CO,
'He said it lacked merit and or...
Added By Captain Oates on 01-02-2010
I asked to set aside the last order as I couldn't ...
Added By Captain Oates on 01-02-2010
Should I appeal as the application was in good int...
Added By Captain Oates on 01-02-2010
Application was also so I did no longer have the t...
Added By Captain Oates on 01-02-2010
Can I get the court to cancel this as perhaps they...
Added By Simes 2p on 01-02-2010
CO, it doesn't make sense to me, but then the majo...
Added By Captain Oates on 01-02-2010
He said first part was not valid as was out of tim...
Added By Captain Oates on 01-02-2010
Also, they put a bundle together but the judge did...
Added By Simes 2p on 02-02-2010
CO,
I am pretty sure you only pay f...
Added By Captain Oates on 02-02-2010
Cheers.
Added By Captain Oates on 02-02-2010
I hope you are right.
Subject: Separating
Posted By Pabs on 28-01-2010
Newley seperating in need of positive boost. Anyone any good advice?
Added By Kat007 on 30-01-2010
yep a bit more info and advice could be given, rea...
Added By Pabs on 01-02-2010
Yes 3 kids involved. Just not working out happy fo...
Added By Ess on 02-02-2010
Hi Pabs
First of all, sorry you're in this ...
Added By Hodditt on 03-02-2010
Your story mirrors my own.
After be...
Added By Pabs on 04-02-2010
Hi Ess & Hodditt,
Just reading thes...
Subject: Question regarding csa and benefits
Posted By dts on 27-01-2010
Hi all,
My wife and I are recently separated and so far we have managed to remain amicable and have sorted out all the finances, future maintenance levels, who has what, etc.
My question concerns...
Added By Captain Oates on 27-01-2010
If either side goes there they will do it (unless ...
Added By dts on 27-01-2010
Hi Captain Oates,
Thanks for your r...
Added By Stuart on 27-01-2010
I thought that if the recipient was getting benefi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-01-2010
I think a lot of sites are now out of date. If the...
Added By dts on 28-01-2010
Hi sometimesitdoesn'twork,
This seems to fi...
Added By skovby1 on 28-01-2010
I think there are new rules coming into force from...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-01-2010
Just to clarify, since October 2008 it is no longe...
Added By dts on 01-02-2010
Hi sometimes,
Thanks for your reply...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-02-2010
From April there will be no longer any connection...
Added By dts on 02-02-2010
Thanks.
Subject: help please
Posted By fred12345 on 27-01-2010
my wife applied for an divorce nisi and recieved it in 2004 i have been urging her to get the divorce absolute ever since then, it is only just now 6 years later that she has applied for it and i was wondering if there i...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-01-2010
Did you seek legal advice? When the nisi is more t...
Subject: Years after parents' divorce
Posted By sophiec83 on 26-01-2010
Sorry this is so long but I think people need some background to understand where I'm coming from...
Six years ago my father left my mum for another woman and soon after they divorced and he remarried. He has s...
Added By Stuart on 26-01-2010
Hi,
No, you are not over reacting a...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
Hi sophiec83, I just wanted to say that I am in t...
Added By Teadrinker on 27-01-2010
Hi Sophie.
I think you are doing th...
Added By Jools123 on 27-01-2010
Sophie - I think its extremely sad that your mothe...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-01-2010
Jools, the reasons for his adultery are irrelevant...
Added By Jools123 on 27-01-2010
Sulva - "Of course he set out to hurt her and sadl...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-01-2010
Well I disagree. People don't have affairs by acci...
Added By Teadrinker on 27-01-2010
I think people probably have affairs because they ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-01-2010
Harbouring resentment against a parent is unhelpf...
Added By Jools123 on 28-01-2010
Ok, to address a few points.
I had ...
Added By Owl1 on 28-01-2010
Well stated STIDW.
"Sophie can deci...
Added By Owl1 on 28-01-2010
Jools our posts crossed.
Good on yo...
Added By Jools123 on 28-01-2010
Hi Owl,
I don't beg for forgiveness...
Added By Owl1 on 28-01-2010
"I suppose we've gone slightly off thread but my p...
Added By Jools123 on 28-01-2010
I don't believe I ever said that I didn't think it...
Added By Owl1 on 28-01-2010
So you consciously knew you were hurting her Jools...
Added By Jools123 on 28-01-2010
Yes I did (know it was hurting her) and wish I had...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-01-2010
Don't 30% or 50% of people in marriages have an af...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-02-2010
I think the statement about having an affair to hu...
Added By Suvla1915 on 07-02-2010
"There is an element of reckless behavior that is...
Added By Jools123 on 07-02-2010
Nothing like a drink driver - absolute b*ll*cks!
Added By Suvla1915 on 07-02-2010
In terms of level of intent, that's what I meant. ...
Added By Owl1 on 07-02-2010
I tend to agree with Suvla's analogy of drunk driv...
Added By Jools123 on 07-02-2010
And drunk drivers kill! Stupid comments! Especiall...
Added By Owl1 on 07-02-2010
Jools calm down and think about it what is being s...
Subject: CSA payments
Posted By iwish on 24-01-2010
I noticed a while ago that CSA stopped taking payments from my account...last payment was 15 July
I normally transfer CSA payments to another account where I have the DD setup fro CSA. My standing order keeps t...
Added By iwish on 24-01-2010
Just to add the CSA have been taking money via DD ...
Added By Captain Oates on 25-01-2010
You are complaining because the CSA have stopped t...
Added By Captain Oates on 25-01-2010
Put the money aside and see what happens.
Added By iwish on 25-01-2010
I have always provided for my kids though at the m...
Added By Captain Oates on 25-01-2010
I think it's an excellent excuse not to provide, b...
Added By iwish on 25-01-2010
I know where you are coming from Captain. If it wa...
Added By Ess on 25-01-2010
Lots of respect for you iwish. You have a wider v...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
Well, not just anger, my point is that nrp men hav...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
My ex is not sensible :) .
Subject: Do I stay or Do I go?
Posted By smp999 on 23-01-2010
I moved out of the MH the day after boxing day following a very physical bust up with the Mrs where (you can believe all you like from here on but this is my story and above all, THE TRUTH, she is in total denial to any respo...
Added By Stuart on 24-01-2010
firstly you need to decide if you want to work at ...
Added By why? on 24-01-2010
hi. i have absolutely no idea why people are advis...
Added By Captain Oates on 24-01-2010
When I moved out the locks were changed and the of...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-01-2010
The usual legal advice is not to move out until ar...
Added By EnglishRose on 25-01-2010
yes move back. Possession is indeed 9.`10s of the ...
Subject: Advice please....
Posted By Peedoff on 22-01-2010
Hi...new on here, and never thought I'd be here...but here I am !! The t0ssw@nk that is my husband went back home for a month...came back in October to tell me (the day after his return) that he didn't love me anymore and ne...
Added By Kat007 on 22-01-2010
Sorry you find yourself here but feel free to ran...
Added By Peedoff on 22-01-2010
Thank you so much Kat...'back home' is abroad and ...
Added By EnglishRose on 25-01-2010
The landlord may not agree to him being taken off ...
Added By Stuart on 26-01-2010
Think ER might be a bit wrong....
T...
Added By Peedoff on 26-01-2010
Thanks guys...I just can't contemplate anything at...
Added By Stuart on 26-01-2010
Have you spoken to your landlord?
Might be ...
Added By Peedoff on 27-01-2010
Thanks Stuart...we've lived in the flat for 14yrs ...
Added By Stuart on 27-01-2010
Thats what we are here for.
Main th...
Added By Peedoff on 27-01-2010
I'm am trying...he seems to be getting on with thi...
Subject: section 47 ASSAULT
Posted By IWISH on 20-01-2010
Hi guys,
some help please...got charged with section 47 assault today after 7 months of police investigation.
Assualt allegedly took place on a Thursday in April 2009. My ex said I hit my son whe...
Added By Jools123 on 20-01-2010
Get yourself a very good lawyer now! From experien...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-01-2010
well to be completely correct- the Police arent......
Added By iwish on 20-01-2010
obiwan you are right but does it take 8 months to ...
Added By iwish on 20-01-2010
do I have to notify my employer that I have been c...
Added By Jools123 on 20-01-2010
No - innocent until proven guilty. If however they...
Added By iwish on 20-01-2010
work for local council..I have told my immediate b...
Added By Jools123 on 20-01-2010
I would say you've done all you need to....
Added By iwish on 20-01-2010
after a conviction hope not do police notify your ...
Added By Captain Oates on 20-01-2010
If you have no criminal record you can get legal a...
Added By Stuart on 21-01-2010
If you are convicted then I think you will be in b...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 21-01-2010
Yes it does- the reason it takes so long with adul...
Added By iwish on 22-01-2010
Thank you for your input guys much appreciated.
Added By iwish on 22-01-2010
Captain Oates what do you mean by your statement "...
Added By Captain Oates on 22-01-2010
On family law, legal aid is about income.
<...
Added By iwish on 22-01-2010
Thanks for the info captain...I do appreciate it.<...
Added By Simes 2p on 23-01-2010
Legal Aid has absolutely no relationship to previo...
Added By Captain Oates on 23-01-2010
I admit I did ask for and got the solicitor at the...
Added By Simes 2p on 23-01-2010
CO,
It all depends what you said to...
Added By iwish on 23-01-2010
Thanks for the clarification.. I thought the same....
Added By Captain Oates on 23-01-2010
Yes, I have boss' letter and did try to let them k...
Added By Simes 2p on 24-01-2010
CO, having studied legal aid in criminal cases, I ...
Added By EnglishRose on 25-01-2010
Also think about other evidence on yoru side. Who ...
Added By iwish on 25-01-2010
Thanks ER.. My ex refused me access to kids for 3 ...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-01-2010
ER, you have never smacked your children.
<...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
Trying not to sound pompous self rightious. There ...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
I have just read ERs statement and it is weird. If...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
Simes, what was that term you were using before wh...
Added By Stuart on 26-01-2010
Never hit my son....never needed to....
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
You've been talking to my ex - she thinks that abo...
Added By Captain Oates on 26-01-2010
Waterboarding perhaps, plausable denyability that ...
Added By Melly53 on 27-01-2010
Regarding informing your employer, as you work for...
Subject: Increasing Contact
Posted By easyrider on 18-01-2010
Hi. New here. I have had 2 nights overnight contact with my 4 year old child for the past 3 months. When is going to be a good time to ask for more ie to progress to 3 then 4 nights and then half of holidays? I know that EX w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-01-2010
What are the terms of the existing order?
Added By easyrider on 19-01-2010
from friday after school to 6pm on sunday alternat...
Added By Jools123 on 19-01-2010
Hi,
My daughter is nearly 4. I have...
Added By easyrider on 19-01-2010
such a joke!!!
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-01-2010
If the order is for Fri - Sun alternate weekends w...
Added By easyrider on 19-01-2010
sorry I am meant that I am having to 2 nights a fo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-01-2010
I would say wait 6 months and then maybe apply wit...
Subject: Joining the list
Posted By rassman on 18-01-2010
ok brief history, ask questions as required. Wife asked me to move out in middle of october, i did and moved back to good old parents. She asked me twice to come back and i said no(didnt think things were fixed between us), a...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-01-2010
The usual legal advise is not to move out in the f...
Subject: Joining the list
Posted By rassman on 18-01-2010
ok brief history, ask questions as required. Wife asked me to move out in middle of october, i did and moved back to good old parents. She asked me twice to come back and i said no(didnt think things were fixed between us), a...
Subject: Nasty Nasty person Some people need to get help lol
Posted By Kat007 on 18-01-2010
So here I am thinking about how a person can change so much and treat the person they once professed to love with such hate and animosity towards them. I just don't get it. Is it because I haven't fallen apart without him, ha...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 18-01-2010
why?
3.5 million years ago man apes...
Added By Owl1 on 18-01-2010
"Is this a case of an angry Mr Kat or is it a case...
Added By Jools123 on 18-01-2010
Oh Kat - his relationship is toxic.
...
Added By Nancy on 18-01-2010
I very rarely post nowadays, but do pop in from ti...
Added By rassman on 18-01-2010
yeh, i dont understand why people turn so evil, my...
Added By Kat007 on 18-01-2010
Owl,
Harsh no not at all, not compa...
Added By Jellylegs on 18-01-2010
Kat
Out of the blue, 18m after he left, I ...
Added By Kat007 on 19-01-2010
Hi Jelly,
Good to hear from you, an...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-01-2010
kat (though it PAINS me to say this...) owl has a ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-01-2010
hi owl! return of the jedi...
what ...
Added By Kat007 on 21-01-2010
Ok knackered now, it's 00.16am and need to sleep I...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-01-2010
Good Luck!
Added By Kat007 on 22-01-2010
Well that was fun, ex asked usher if his GF(financ...
Added By why? on 23-01-2010
kat.
you really have a horrid ex.the simila...
Subject: Silly emotions..
Posted By Stuart on 17-01-2010
My ex wife had a baby last night....little girl...
My son (12) seems to be taking it very well after feeling very upset at the idea.
Im glad and happy that he is gushing at having a lovely little sister ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 17-01-2010
Your feelings are very natural - as are your sons....
Added By Teadrinker on 18-01-2010
You're not being silly. But I'm sure your son will...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 18-01-2010
new things delight kids- but he wont forget his ol...
Added By Jools123 on 18-01-2010
Stuart,
My partners son was delight...
Added By Captain Oates on 18-01-2010
Stuart, I think I understand a little and I do sym...
Subject: Am I divorced? ... help
Posted By whichwaysup on 17-01-2010
I received papers from the county court this week - ive had no previous notice of this.
It states that hereby certified that the said decree was on the ...date... made final and absolute and that the said marr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-01-2010
IF no one applies for the absolute after a year di...
Subject: 4 Weeks - Like nothing every happened :-)
Posted By Jools123 on 17-01-2010
Hi all,
My daughter is back from her extended Christmas break to South Africa with her mum and boyfriend.
I had access this weekend Fri 5pm to Sun 5.30pm.
I have to say, most comments were...
Added By Kat007 on 18-01-2010
Jools123,
Phew what a relief she mu...
Added By Owl1 on 18-01-2010
Good news Jools.
I think you are ri...
Added By Jools123 on 18-01-2010
Thanks Kat and Owl for your kind words!
Subject: Divorced? Please Read ! (Local Firm v City Firm)
Posted By r_elise on 15-01-2010
Hi, I am conducting some research with regards to how people choose their law firm in a divorce. So to those people who have been through a divorce or are going through one, what motivated you to choose the firm you have/did ...
Added By why? on 15-01-2010
hi. i opted for a local firm simply because i have...
Added By Teadrinker on 16-01-2010
I looked for a solicitor in my local area, partly ...
Added By skovby1 on 16-01-2010
We only used a solicitor to transfer the property ...
Added By Jellylegs on 18-01-2010
My firm were brilliant - 100% efficient and comple...
Subject: Following previous post
Posted By Captain Oates on 15-01-2010
I didn't go because I could not get the time off of work because a project I was working on was reaching it's conclusion.
I wrote to the court and the other side and gave them both a letter from my manager.
Added By Kat007 on 15-01-2010
Oats,
Hi You did the right thing yo...
Subject: Clean Break Order
Posted By Bubbles36 on 14-01-2010
My divorce finally came through today yipeeee!! I was the Petitioner and got a costs order against husband for him to pay my costs.... in the meantime I have had a letter from his solicitor, asking me to sign a consent order ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-01-2010
Answered on the other board.
Subject: how do I slowwwwwwwwwww down a divorce?
Posted By ihatecyclists on 14-01-2010
Hello everyone
I split up in 2008 and now ex h has contacted me for a divorce based on 2 yr separation by mutual concent, and whether I had any reasons why not? well I gave him a few!! (background, I have been ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Get rid and move on. Nothing will come out of slow...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 14-01-2010
i hate car drivers...
that aside......
Added By why? on 15-01-2010
i dont quite understand how or why his debts are n...
Added By Teadrinker on 16-01-2010
The only thing I think you can do is go ahead with...
Added By ihatecyclists on 16-01-2010
thanks for all your comments.
The ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 16-01-2010
it is written by my ancestors:
'man...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-01-2010
Emotion just hurts the wallet. The bottom line is...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-01-2010
STIDW- spot on..
Subject: How to sniff out clues of an affair from the most mundane conversations with your spouse
Posted By lisaray on 14-01-2010
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Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Don't bother. It's illegal to hack into someone's ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 14-01-2010
The truth will out eventually anyway, you just hav...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 14-01-2010
gee thanks! i can get arrested for conspiracy to b...
Added By lisaray on 17-01-2010
You will be provided total anonymous access.
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-01-2010
What is the point? If there is no trust the relati...
Added By Stuart on 19-01-2010
Clearly not the most intelligent of posters lisara...
Added By redchad on 23-01-2010
Cant believe anyone would be naïve enough to thin...
Subject: Urgent: Do I need a barrister?
Posted By ian12010 on 14-01-2010
I filed petition for divorce on the ground of my wife’s unreasonable behaviour in August 2009 and just received a notice for a court hearing next Thursday and I need some advice on whether I need a barrister to represent me...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-01-2010
Some solicitor's are more experienced and more com...
Added By Simes 2p on 14-01-2010
'IT can help considerably if at least one party is...
Subject: first directions hearing
Posted By Kat007 on 11-01-2010
So had no choice to adjourn the first directions hearing as have an important hospital appointment in London. Thankfully managed to speak with the listings officer last week and she told me who the judge was going to be, well...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-01-2010
That's very good news about judicial continuity. O...
Added By Kat007 on 12-01-2010
That's what my solicitor and I thought good to kno...
Added By Kat007 on 14-01-2010
Ever wondered about devine intervention well it ha...
Subject: New to this but Hi ....
Posted By Bobby321 on 11-01-2010
Just looking for a bit of advice and your thoughts on my current situation.
In brief ..married 22 years, one child (16), house (Joint). Decided to seperate in September 09 with the intention of going to mediation to so...
Added By LazyLizzie on 11-01-2010
If the grandmother is not dead then the money won'...
Added By Kat007 on 13-01-2010
I won money on the lottery the other day and thoug...
Subject: Holidays...
Posted By keephappy1 on 08-01-2010
Hello all....
Hope for some advise and answers...
My ex H has hinted that he would like to take our 2 children, boy 4, girl 7 to the states for 2/3 weeks this year.
Thats where is ...
Added By evr on 08-01-2010
I would let them go and have a good time. It will...
Added By evr on 08-01-2010
Ooh, and plan something for yourself during that t...
Added By Kat007 on 08-01-2010
Here's my thoughts if he was just saying he wanted...
Added By LazyLizzie on 08-01-2010
The fact that his g/f is willing to combine a trip...
Added By Stuart on 08-01-2010
keephappy1, well done for not adopting the knee j...
Added By EnglishRose on 08-01-2010
I wish my ex had taken the children on holiday onc...
Added By keephappy1 on 10-01-2010
Thank you all.
The only thing that ...
Added By LazyLizzie on 13-01-2010
Keephappy, there is a bit of a difference between ...
Added By keephappy1 on 19-01-2010
LazyLizzie,
If my ex had his way I wont be ...
Subject: Back to reality ... Good while is lasted.
Posted By mrnoone on 03-01-2010
Hi,
I hope it's a Happy New Year for everyone as when the clocks tick into the next year, i just think about my situation. I don't think i'll ever comes to term with not living with my 4year old son and move ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-01-2010
I don't think anyone feels it is enough when the ...
Added By MrNoOne on 03-01-2010
Hey stidw, hope all is well.
Thanks...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-01-2010
Oh dear. Dealing with the finances is always diffi...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-01-2010
i know exactly how you feel mrnoone... really... I...
Added By why? on 04-01-2010
if i was you id send an email to your ex and her p...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 05-01-2010
my kids just dont talk to me about their mum at al...
Subject: I am absolutely devastated
Posted By Kat007 on 03-01-2010
I have just found out that man who for 10 months last year kept telling me he loves me wanted to start an affair and told me that he was unhappy and not sure about his relationship with np. And kept on and on trying to get in...
Added By LazyLizzie on 03-01-2010
Kat, I can see your point and understand you being...
Added By Kat007 on 03-01-2010
Thanks LL,
I did tell him I love hi...
Added By Teadrinker on 03-01-2010
I'm so sorry, Kat.
His behaviour s...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-01-2010
forget him... he's not worth the tears... dickhead...
Added By Kat007 on 04-01-2010
I have woken up today to swollen eyes Lovely.
Added By Suvla1915 on 04-01-2010
He says he loves you but he betrays you and hurts ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-01-2010
hear hear!
Added By Jellylegs on 04-01-2010
Kat - it will end only when you let it - when you ...
Added By why? on 04-01-2010
hi kat. i understand, although for me it had nothi...
Added By Kat007 on 05-01-2010
He has already done it to his new partner a couple...
Added By why? on 06-01-2010
hi kat. with regard your son. although you tell hi...
Added By Kat007 on 08-01-2010
Cheers why?
I have told them all th...
Subject: Christmas Day
Posted By Jools123 on 03-01-2010
Hi all,
Having read a few posts about NRP not being around for Christmas I thought I should share our scandalous situation with you. Now, as most are aware my daughter is in South Africa for an extended break b...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-01-2010
There are many many more men in the UK who refuse ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-01-2010
jools- he is trash... you are better off without h...
Added By why? on 04-01-2010
hello.
how utterly vile. he and his np soun...
Added By Jools123 on 05-01-2010
Thanks for the posts.
We have not t...
Subject: im slowly learning
Posted By why? on 01-01-2010
im slowly learning that i dont need to worry about some things as much as i have.
you will remember that i was upset and shocked at h for not wanting to see the children over christmas and choosing instead to go away o...
Added By Kat007 on 02-01-2010
however, lets not get carried away. im still not i...
Added By why? on 02-01-2010
hi kat.
yip. plenty of time til next year a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 02-01-2010
' because this will mean that i dont see them at a...
Added By Teadrinker on 03-01-2010
My ex also chose not to see our son at Christmas f...
Added By why? on 03-01-2010
hi. yes. i can see that now. i agree with obi howe...
Added By evr on 03-01-2010
Its just a day, and this gets easier once the chil...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 03-01-2010
I know I am a bit dumb- most coppers are ;-)
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 03-01-2010
again- another fall down with our legal system aro...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-01-2010
What can the RO do? nothing much. Children have no...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 03-01-2010
so wrong...
I like the 50-50% idea....
Added By EnglishRose on 03-01-2010
Tough... make them get used it, develop a culture ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 03-01-2010
I am on your side here ER... but it wont happen in...
Added By Teadrinker on 03-01-2010
I like the idea of 50-50 too and I'm not sure why ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-01-2010
The biggest obstacle to sharing care 50:50 after p...
Added By Teadrinker on 03-01-2010
Yes, I think (and I've posted this before lol) tha...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-01-2010
in my case the biggest obstacle was her... lol
Added By why? on 04-01-2010
fat chance of getting an effective, consistent 50/...
Added By EnglishRose on 06-01-2010
We did have 50/50 care of children for 19 years of...
Subject: 2010
Posted By Kat007 on 01-01-2010
A new decade, lets hope it brings us all some peace and quiet and for those away from their children too long more access.
2010.000.00 this is the amount of money i will end up paying my solicitor
...
Added By Suvla1915 on 01-01-2010
Happy New Year Kat, hope it's a good one for you a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 01-01-2010
2010 the amount in mega-hurts that my kids will su...
Added By Kat007 on 01-01-2010
I too am glad it's 2010,
Not only b...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-01-2010
Happy New Year everyone!
Added By why? on 01-01-2010
all the best for 2010.
Subject: Denied child access
Posted By SMP999 on 29-12-2009
Left the wife at the Weekend following a very physical bust up where SHE assaulted me by biting, punching and kicking following a heavy drinking session. I DID NOT instigate the assault NOR did I hit her, I just held her down...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-12-2009
I'm afraid you will not like the news. Your opti...
Added By Stuart on 30-12-2009
yep, system stinks.....
Very much one sided...
Added By why? on 30-12-2009
i unerstand what stuart means. i dont agree that i...
Added By Stuart on 31-12-2009
Hi Why?....
I refer to mums quite s...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 31-12-2009
stuart -you bad man- we dont say mummy here... its...
Added By evr on 31-12-2009
Well, to be strictly accurate its 90%, and of cour...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 01-01-2010
OPPS... did I say 98? typo...
Of co...
Subject: Merry Whatever!
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 25-12-2009
To all posters... Have a merry Xmas...
hope it gets better!
May the Force be with you all...
Subject: Divorce letter and no reply
Posted By tonyeby on 24-12-2009
Got a letter from spouse via court asking for divorce on ground that we have been living apart for 2yrs. what would happen if i ignore the court devorce letter?. I dont want to reply the letter.please what would happen?
Added By EnglishRose on 24-12-2009
Eventually after 5 years apart she can divorce you...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 24-12-2009
do you still have shared assets?
ge...
Added By tonyeby on 24-12-2009
no asset, nothing togather and she is not making a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 24-12-2009
well...
in that case should be quit...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-12-2009
She doesn't need to know where you are. Contact th...
Added By tonyeby on 26-12-2009
Thanks for the advise.my last question-- how do i ...
Added By tonyeby on 26-12-2009
Thanks for the advise.my last question-- how do i ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-12-2009
There should have been an Acknowledgment of Servic...
Added By tonyeby on 27-12-2009
thanks.no form came with it. I will look for a law...
Added By Kat007 on 27-12-2009
The D10 can be downloaded from www.hmcs.gov.uk alo...
Added By tonyeby on 27-12-2009
hello is there another name for form d10, cant fin...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-12-2009
Not all the forms are available on the HM Court Se...
Subject: Hello & Merry Christmas
Posted By Martin on 23-12-2009
Hi Gang,
Thought I'd join the crowd popping their heads around the door to offer seasons greetings!
A good year for me, very busy, no recession, not good prices but hey! bills are paid for another year.
M...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-12-2009
Now that's a coincidence. I was just thinking abou...
Added By Kat007 on 24-12-2009
Good to hear from you Martin and so pleased that l...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 24-12-2009
ahh martin...
one of my steppers is...
Added By london on 25-12-2009
Hello there and a very happy Christmas
I th...
Added By EnglishRose on 25-12-2009
Most who rush into it second time fail and 60% of ...
Added By skovby1 on 26-12-2009
Lovely to hear that things are going well Martin -...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 26-12-2009
cheery note ER... lol...
Subject: I am Hoping
Posted By Kat007 on 23-12-2009
As I woke at 4am this morning I was thinking of all of us who will be apart from our children this christmas, some of us have opted for this to keep life simple for our kids and some of us have had this forced upon us keeping...
Added By Jools123 on 23-12-2009
Hi Kat,
I truly hope that this lump...
Added By Kat007 on 23-12-2009
I hope the time will fly by for you Jools and you ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-12-2009
Me too... i hope its nothing serious... hope he ca...
Added By Kat007 on 23-12-2009
You would hope but I e-mailed and told him what ha...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-12-2009
Sorry kat. You seemed to have more than your fair...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-12-2009
heh... fat chance... of him contacting you ....
Added By Kat007 on 24-12-2009
No breakfast in bed honestly thats not right, alth...
Subject: ex in family home
Posted By margo wood on 22-12-2009
Any advice please, my ex and I have been separated for 15 months now - I left with the children after years of emotional abuse from him and hidden debts(his). He is still living in the 4 bed familt house and is insisting tha...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-12-2009
It sounds as though you need to start court procee...
Added By margo wood on 23-12-2009
Thanks, I've been trying to tread softly in an att...
Added By EnglishRose on 23-12-2009
If he doesn't want you home you could move back in...
Added By margo wood on 24-12-2009
I don't think I could stand to live in the same ho...
Added By EnglishRose on 24-12-2009
If he is going to be retired soon he can take on m...
Added By margo wood on 26-12-2009
Thanks, I like that one about renting out rooms - ...
Added By Stuart on 30-12-2009
Er, dont talk daft.
Renting out rooms is ne...
Added By Stuart on 30-12-2009
Meant to mention....
ER is right wh...
Subject: update
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 22-12-2009
spoke to the boys again... they are NOT going on holiday after all!!!
lol
it would seem that they were NEVER going...
she just said that to stop me taking her to court...
...
Added By Stuart on 22-12-2009
Obi, you are a bully.... leave that poor woman alo...
Added By Kat007 on 23-12-2009
Well well well thiink we knew this all along hones...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-12-2009
stuart- lol...
kat- yes... cheque w...
Added By Jools123 on 23-12-2009
Lying to you, well that's typical (it happens, we ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-12-2009
on a lighter note... got skype running on their PC...
Added By juggler on 23-12-2009
Oh, how spiteful. Not entirely unexpected though a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 24-12-2009
yes I suppose I should have guessed... I should ha...
Added By Kat007 on 24-12-2009
More positive attitude from you obi this is good t...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 24-12-2009
havent seen my boys for two weeks and wont see the...
Added By Kat007 on 25-12-2009
Merry Christmas my friend, be safe today thinking ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 27-12-2009
funny-no owl?
Added By Stuart on 31-12-2009
I think the Kiwi school of wit has closed for Xmas...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 31-12-2009
virtual turkey?
or...
...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 01-01-2010
hope she is ok... mind you... she does have a life...
Subject: Cheating ex
Posted By Soldheim on 20-12-2009
I am seeking some advice. The ex wife constantly failed to supply finincial information and ignoring court orders. We agreed a settlement before the final hearing but based on the little information she provided. It would ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-12-2009
Certainly if evidence comes to light of non disclo...
Subject: Oh he's really good
Posted By Kat007 on 20-12-2009
So having had rather a lot of snow lke many parts of this fair land of ours, we went out to play on friday morning good fun dump the child for being cheeky and hitting me on the head with a snow ball, he was hiding behind a c...
Added By juggler on 20-12-2009
It must be the time of year.....
Af...
Added By Kat007 on 22-12-2009
Juggler so sorry this is still happening to you an...
Added By why? on 22-12-2009
hi.
it sounds very much deliberate....
Added By Kat007 on 30-12-2009
Oh it happened again really he is pushing his luck...
Subject: Boo ...... MERRY CHRISTMAS
Posted By ray_of_sunshine on 18-12-2009
Hey people ….
Just popping my head in the door to wish you all yuletide greetings.
Who can believe that its 10 years ago that we were all contemplating the next millennium huh lol. The Y2K bug ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 18-12-2009
lol RAY!!!!
y2k chat a con that was...
Added By BFS on 21-12-2009
Ho ho bloody ho!
I remember it well Don. I ...
Added By Kat007 on 22-12-2009
Hi Ray and BFS,
Good to see your st...
Subject: Directions Hearing
Posted By Captain Oates on 18-12-2009
OK, so after the last post has pointed out, I am fairly stressed about this at the moment and after direction. So, I phoned the court today and spoke to the court manager who advised that my C2 application has been to a circu...
Added By Captain Oates on 18-12-2009
Should I withdraw my application? Can I? How do I?...
Added By Simes 2p on 18-12-2009
Capt,
Costs are only awarded when o...
Added By EnglishRose on 19-12-2009
Why didn't you turn up at a hearing? That;'s dread...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 21-12-2009
I cant believe this- I have empathy for oats-so-si...
Subject: Amazing
Posted By Kat007 on 16-12-2009
So what a shock I got today yet another unecessary letter that has been answered 3 times now by letter and in court but clearly he is not listening or able to bloody read. OMG
Ex has asked my solicitor for medi...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-12-2009
Kat,
What on earth is your Sol advi...
Added By Kat007 on 16-12-2009
High Simes,
My solicitor hasn't advised any...
Added By Kat007 on 16-12-2009
Sorry not HIGH Simes but Hi Simes then should be h...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-12-2009
Kat,
I just don't understand at all...
Added By Kat007 on 16-12-2009
I didn't think you were able to just ignore any le...
Added By Jools123 on 16-12-2009
Kat - I have to say, having been on this site for ...
Added By Owl1 on 17-12-2009
Kat, you do not have to respond to any letters you...
Added By Kat007 on 17-12-2009
Thanks Guy's,
After re-reading your...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 17-12-2009
what else can you do?
good luck ki...
Added By Kat007 on 17-12-2009
Well I recieved the appointment today for the firs...
Subject: I've made the biggest mistake of my life, what now
Posted By hippychick91 on 15-12-2009
I recently remarried and very shortly afterwards realised I had made a big mistake. I'm totally at a loss of what to do and where I stand. The house we live in is mine. solely in my name and i pay all the bills etc. I hav...
Added By hippychick91 on 15-12-2009
I should add I have owned the house(mortgaged for ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
Unfortunately you cannot divorce and no financial ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 15-12-2009
crap- i am reminded of my own sit... i owned my ow...
Added By hippychick91 on 15-12-2009
Thanks for that. I can see now how stupid I have ...
Added By Kat007 on 15-12-2009
Oh dear what an awful place to be right now, I am ...
Added By Jools123 on 15-12-2009
I'm also sorry that this is happening to you but I...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
As you are married your H has rights to live in t...
Added By EnglishRose on 15-12-2009
This is counted as a short marriage. You will both...
Added By hippychick91 on 15-12-2009
i appreciate there are four people to consider her...
Added By LazyLizzie on 15-12-2009
Hippy, it may be that to end the marriage is the b...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
We all make mistakes, after all we are only human....
Added By hippychick91 on 16-12-2009
Lazy Lizzie... we have known each other for 29 yea...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 16-12-2009
so to sum up...
your kids didnt lik...
Added By Jools123 on 16-12-2009
It looks to me like your husband is under severe s...
Added By Owl1 on 16-12-2009
Hippychick. I agree you have to put your kids firs...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-12-2009
Stids, not read it all, but wouldn't he have a cla...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-12-2009
Simes, the recent case was Smith v Smith. The CA ...
Added By hippychick91 on 16-12-2009
Hi Thanks for all your advice. I honestly do read...
Added By Owl1 on 17-12-2009
I don't think you heartless hippychick. I agree yo...
Added By Kat007 on 17-12-2009
Time to pop to the solicitor,
Menta...
Added By EnglishRose on 17-12-2009
he's a total waste of space. Do what I say ab ove....
Added By hippychick91 on 18-12-2009
Hi ER, no like I said everything was already plann...
Added By EnglishRose on 19-12-2009
I think they must be made at least 6 weeks in adva...
Subject: Moving away...
Posted By Izza on 14-12-2009
Hi there,
I wonder if somebody could help and give some advice please.
I was divorced 4 years back and have a 7 yr old. Im the nrp. Had to go to court after the divorce to get a contact order organised ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-12-2009
The courts generally take the view that it is inap...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 14-12-2009
PSO- ASAP!
Added By Kat007 on 15-12-2009
Hi,
Sorry this has happened to you,...
Added By Jools123 on 15-12-2009
Why should your children have to suffer the extend...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
Based on what has been said so far the probability...
Added By Izza on 15-12-2009
Thanks everyone for the comments.
I...
Added By Jools123 on 15-12-2009
No - she will change her mind. Its too late once s...
Added By Kat007 on 15-12-2009
Agree with Jools get this sorted sooner rather tha...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-12-2009
If you can come to an agreement between you it is ...
Subject: Someone sent this to me
Posted By Kat007 on 13-12-2009
Hi everyone,
Someone sent this to me via e-mail and when I read it as it is written about a mother but also read it from a father's perpective and wanted to share with all you Dad's and Mum's who are having problems re...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 13-12-2009
a bit trite- but i think it sums it up.
Added By Kat007 on 13-12-2009
Me neither especially when son has been told by GF...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 13-12-2009
yes- poor kids... thats the thing i hate the most....
Subject: What happened in court
Posted By juggler on 12-12-2009
Went to court last Thursday, the ex looking for more contact and for his new fiancee to be allowed to be present at contact. On the Monday (7th) my solicitor received a lengthy fax from his sol saying fiancee had stolen ex's ...
Added By evr on 12-12-2009
It doesn't look as though you have to do very much...
Added By Kat007 on 12-12-2009
Goodish news for you lovely well done, shame about...
Added By juggler on 14-12-2009
Well, its not really going according to what we ag...
Added By Kat007 on 15-12-2009
FFS,
Evidence Juggler get lots of e...
Added By juggler on 17-12-2009
Nothing untoward has happened since. He went to co...
Subject: Can anyone please advise?
Posted By mamamel on 11-12-2009
My boyfriend is currently going through divorce proceedings. He has 2 children aged 4 and 8 with his ex wife to be and is finding things difficult with regards to the access with his children.
Prior to his ex ...
Subject: Can anyone please advise?
Posted By mamamel on 11-12-2009
My boyfriend is currently going through divorce proceedings. He has 2 children aged 4 and 8 with his ex wife to be and is finding things difficult with regards to the access with his children.
Prior to his ex ...
Added By Stuart on 12-12-2009
Hi,
Sad to say that these sort of g...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-12-2009
funny- i have a feeling of deja-vue ...
Added By EnglishRose on 12-12-2009
The trouble is as soon as you turn to the courts i...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-12-2009
ER is sooo right...
if you can- mak...
Added By mamamel on 13-12-2009
Thank you for your replies, I myself would take th...
Added By EnglishRose on 15-12-2009
He's still going through divorce proceedings (I tr...
Subject: Captain Oates
Posted By polywoly on 11-12-2009
Hya, a few of you remember Oatsy. I am his girlfriend of one and half years. Oates is having a rough time still with contact re: ex. She reduced his contact to every other weekend one night. He then applied to cour...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-12-2009
It's rare for costs to be awarded in children case...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-12-2009
if oatsy deals with court and ex wifey in the same...
Added By polywoly on 11-12-2009
Thanks for the replies. Yes, the court has reduc...
Added By Simes 2p on 12-12-2009
Poly, I hate to say it, but, the approach taken by...
Added By polywoly on 12-12-2009
o.k. point taken
Added By Kat007 on 12-12-2009
Polywoly,
It's lovely to hear from ...
Added By Captain Oates on 12-12-2009
Hello. Well, we had a cafcass report which came ba...
Added By Captain Oates on 12-12-2009
There's a lot more to this. The court letter said ...
Added By polywoly on 12-12-2009
Kat, thanks for your post. No I don't go to cou...
Added By Kat007 on 12-12-2009
I agree polywoly,
Deffo put costs a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-12-2009
oatsy- i just hope you get to see your kids more.....
Added By Captain Oates on 12-12-2009
Cheers.
Subject: how is it possible to avoid 3rd trial?
Posted By why? on 10-12-2009
if h has not disclosed all information which would show his expenditure and has not fully answered questions put to him prior to the fdr and everyone appears to just be working on the information/figures he has given us then ...
Added By EnglishRose on 12-12-2009
You need to prove those figures wrong and in such ...
Subject: can he start proceedings
Posted By kate594 on 10-12-2009
My partners estranged wife began divorce proceedings in Feb this year, my partner received the paperwork and returned it to the court and he is not contesting it. Since then we are still waiting for her to send her affidavit ...
Added By Kat007 on 15-12-2009
I believe that if she hasn't signed the paperwork ...
Subject: Project at the Anna Freud Centre
Posted By Ms NY on 10-12-2009
My name is Natasha Fitzgerald-Yau and I am a graduate student at the Anna Freud Centre, University College London. I am conducting a study that will explore the effects of parental loss on the inner world and emotional adjust...
Subject: God it happens everywhere
Posted By Kat007 on 08-12-2009
Just had a call from my sister who is in tears her and husband have been having probs she kept it quiet and just informed me they had a massive row tonight he has stormed out she said she doesn't love him anymore and wants ou...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 08-12-2009
oh... your... god!!!
30 years... <...
Added By EnglishRose on 09-12-2009
First of all she needs to be told it's not her hou...
Added By Kat007 on 09-12-2009
Yeah she knows that ER as in joint names. He can n...
Added By Stuart on 10-12-2009
No chance that this is all a bit of a storm in a t...
Added By Stuart on 10-12-2009
Oh...just re-read my post...
I wasnt implyi...
Added By Kat007 on 10-12-2009
Hi stuart,
Bloody cheek unbalanced ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 10-12-2009
Tell her the reality of life on your own and about...
Added By why? on 10-12-2009
hi kat.
yes its happening everywher...
Added By EnglishRose on 12-12-2009
Well my parents stuck it out until they died in to...
Added By Kat007 on 14-12-2009
Well seems he is back and that they may give it an...
Subject: God it happens everywhere
Posted By Kat007 on 08-12-2009
Just had a call from my sister who is in tears her and husband have been having probs she kept it quiet and just informed me they had a massive row tonight he has stormed out she said she doesn't love him anymore and wants ou...
Subject: if you have a min simes- please.
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 07-12-2009
simes- here is the exact wording: how do you interpret it please?
'for one week each school Christmas Holiday, and in alternate years it shall be from 5.00pm on 24 December to 2 January, but for the purposes of...
Added By Simes 2p on 07-12-2009
Oscar Bravo,
The sentence doesn't m...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 07-12-2009
thanks- better advise from you and court staff the...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 07-12-2009
Normally the papers have to be served for 21 days ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 08-12-2009
its 80- but thank again- have form in my hand!
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-12-2009
I've just checked and according to the fees list E...
Added By Simes 2p on 08-12-2009
STIDSY, sometimes the left hand doesn't know what ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-12-2009
Yes I know the left hand doesn't always know what ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 08-12-2009
sidw dead on... its 40!!! the lady from court got...
Added By Owl1 on 08-12-2009
Obi as I understand it you had 24 December to 2 Ja...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 09-12-2009
yes owl- well done- nice big told you so- well fcu...
Added By Owl1 on 09-12-2009
Obi I don't feel at all smug.
I don...
Added By EnglishRose on 09-12-2009
There will come a point when these children are ol...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 10-12-2009
owl- yes they are... and she let slip that they ar...
Added By Owl1 on 10-12-2009
Good on you for listening to your kids Obi and mee...
Added By Kat007 on 10-12-2009
Isn't this horrible when these poor kids are stuck...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 10-12-2009
owl- no1 son has been bribed... with a holiday. No...
Added By Owl1 on 11-12-2009
Yes no 1 son has no doubt been bribed ( or offered...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-12-2009
or was it 'your father will not allow you to go on...
Added By Owl1 on 11-12-2009
" or was it 'your father will not allow you to go ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 11-12-2009
how does she know? err... I told her that if she s...
Added By Owl1 on 11-12-2009
Obi, the kids have not been defeated, son no 1 is ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 11-12-2009
why no court? because she has told no1 son it will...
Added By Simes 2p on 11-12-2009
if oatsy deals with court and ex wifey in the same...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-12-2009
not people simes- show me please any posts to back...
Added By Owl1 on 11-12-2009
Obi, of course you can be a parent over the phone ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-12-2009
NO!
being stopped from seeing your ...
Added By Owl1 on 11-12-2009
Obi, I am very satisfied that I am a complete pare...
Added By Stuart on 12-12-2009
"of course you can be a parent over the phone and ...
Added By Owl1 on 12-12-2009
No not ridiculous Stuart just stating mine and my ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-12-2009
the difference- owl- is ...
that sh...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-12-2009
grrrr...
what my ex is- is an abuse...
Added By Owl1 on 12-12-2009
Obi they are not coming for Christmas because you ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-12-2009
it says in the order-
'for one wee...
Added By Owl1 on 13-12-2009
I know what the order says Obi. However by agreein...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 13-12-2009
all true- but the real PROBLEM in this is her? yes...
Added By Owl1 on 13-12-2009
Obi my son does not resent me, our relationship ha...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 13-12-2009
firstly, thanks for the post- very detailed...
Added By Owl1 on 13-12-2009
Obi, your consellor may have expressed disbelief a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 13-12-2009
and if they do- and i did not see them - then what...
Added By Owl1 on 13-12-2009
Obi, you see your sons regularly. That has been go...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 13-12-2009
love it owl...
'Things are ...
Added By Owl1 on 13-12-2009
You can only change your own behaviour Obi, you ca...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 14-12-2009
'Is that the way you want to be for the rest of yo...
Added By Stuart on 14-12-2009
"Obviously your bond with your son has not got str...
Added By Stuart on 14-12-2009
Sorry...just found another gem....
...
Added By Owl1 on 14-12-2009
Stuart I accept it wouldn't work for you. My ex ca...
Added By Stuart on 14-12-2009
Hands on parenting down the phone or via skype eh?...
Added By Owl1 on 14-12-2009
Well its ridculous to you Stuart, but maybe that i...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 14-12-2009
I see where you are going owl- really- if you are ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 14-12-2009
also owl- how do you give you son a hug?
Added By Owl1 on 15-12-2009
You are perfectly entitled to feel whatever way yo...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 15-12-2009
not ego! i miss them!
lol- its diff...
Added By Owl1 on 15-12-2009
"You just let it go owl- i cant... my sons are too...
Added By Stuart on 15-12-2009
"I also asked my son what he needed from me. He sa...
Added By Owl1 on 16-12-2009
I was a hands on parent Stuart and still contune t...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 16-12-2009
your answers speak volumes to me owl... surprising...
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'I'd say my son has had more cuddles from his nrp ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 16-12-2009
i dont believe any such thing...
i...
Added By Stuart on 16-12-2009
"Like I say I would have spent far more time with ...
Added By Owl1 on 16-12-2009
Obi, I don't automatically think women stay at hom...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 16-12-2009
sorry owl- but i cant be held responsible for anyt...
Added By Owl1 on 17-12-2009
Obi if you married a woman you hated at the time o...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 17-12-2009
t was all my fault then... I dont know why owl- b...
Added By Owl1 on 17-12-2009
Being depressed does not mean you are off your tro...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 17-12-2009
I doubt schools lie to parents as they are scared ...
Added By Owl1 on 17-12-2009
"she said exactly- 'we are going to sell it to you...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 17-12-2009
err... i am not the abuser- she was and is ...
Added By Stuart on 17-12-2009
Obi....save your breath.
Owl will contradi...
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"Not at all Owl. Far from it, I just fail to see h...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 17-12-2009
as i say owl- you are now suggesting STRONGLY that...
Added By Owl1 on 18-12-2009
I am suggesting Obi, that her behaviour is that co...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 18-12-2009
you ARE a troll...
and you wont mak...
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Obi I belive you when you say your suffered abuse ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 18-12-2009
at least i dont demean an abused person like you d...
Added By Owl1 on 18-12-2009
I don't believe I have demeaned you Obi. Being abu...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 18-12-2009
bollocks...
Added By Stuart on 18-12-2009
Like I said, you are pretty well wasting your time...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 18-12-2009
Stuart- you are right...
sorry mate
Added By Owl1 on 18-12-2009
Stuart, I don't think my ideas on parenting are to...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 18-12-2009
'when a man tells a woman' you really have your h...
Added By Stuart on 18-12-2009
"When your ex- wife asks you to stop doing somethi...
Added By Owl1 on 19-12-2009
"you are easily offended..."
Obi I ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-12-2009
ahh... you are wrong- i DONT hate my ex wife- I ha...
Added By Owl1 on 19-12-2009
Obi even when I raged at my ex, albeit it very bri...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-12-2009
i did not give my consent to it... I had no choice...
Added By Suvla1915 on 19-12-2009
Almost as nasty as called some one a "nasty, spite...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-12-2009
well i calls 'em like i sees 'em...
...
Added By Owl1 on 19-12-2009
Lol Suvla thats about it. Round and round and roun...
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"e.g. you can be a great parent over the phone... ...
Added By Stuart on 19-12-2009
Owl, you dont believe that domestic violence towar...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-12-2009
'You seem to be raging because you feel a person y...
Added By Owl1 on 19-12-2009
"Owl, you dont believe that domestic violence towa...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 19-12-2009
'I never said you felt threatened by me Obi'
...
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i will still be calling every day to hear my sons....
Added By Owl1 on 20-12-2009
Lol Obi, lots of people have to work Christmas day...
Added By obiwan_kenobi on 20-12-2009
i am working 10-6pm xmas day... so i wont get lunc...
Added By Owl1 on 20-12-2009
Aah well Obi you can have a lovely tea instead ( o...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-12-2009
working...
touche...
...
Added By Owl1 on 20-12-2009
"your son cant make that comment- because- he isnt...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-12-2009
However he does not feel any emotional connection ...
Added By Owl1 on 20-12-2009
"However he does not feel any emotional connection...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-12-2009
you posted...
'He really thinks you...
Added By Owl1 on 21-12-2009
It wasn't a critic of your parenting skolls Obi, i...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 21-12-2009
lol... ok...
but you saying it is ...
Subject: Children troubles again
Posted By Kat007 on 06-12-2009
When is this going to end please someone tell me argh,
Yesterday I recieved a C100 from the ex no court aknowledgement on it nothing no hearing date etc.
So on it he states he is going for resid...
Added By Jools123 on 06-12-2009
Hi Kat, how old is your child?
Pers...
Added By Simes 2p on 06-12-2009
Kat, you need to attack this on the basis of unwar...
Added By Kat007 on 06-12-2009
Hi Simes,
I ask my sol about the un...
Added By Simes 2p on 07-12-2009
Kat, 5 times in 2 or 3 years is enough to block hi...
Added By Kat007 on 07-12-2009
Thanks simes,
Will ring cafcass tod...
Added By juggler on 07-12-2009
Hi, Kat.
I'm going to ask for a 91....
Added By Kat007 on 07-12-2009
Ok spoke with the court house and his application ...
Added By Kat007 on 07-12-2009
Solicitor said he didn't think a judge would agree...
Added By Tania on 07-12-2009
Hi not been here for a while. I'm not sure how muc...
Added By Kat007 on 07-12-2009
Thanks tania,
Over the last 3yrs we...
Added By Simes 2p on 08-12-2009
It isn't the number of times you go, its whether t...
Added By Kat007 on 08-12-2009
Thanks again simes for the very useful info,
...
Subject: Back to court :-(
Posted By juggler on 04-12-2009
Very disappointed that I am now off to court again next Thursday (5th or possibly 6th time this year). I really hoped nothing would happen until the New Year then at least we would know where we were regarding holiday contact...
Added By Kat007 on 05-12-2009
Hi Juggler,
From what i can underst...
Added By juggler on 05-12-2009
Thanks, Kat.
Its not the Christmas ...
Added By Stuart on 05-12-2009
Naa Jugs...... You just keep going.....lol
Added By juggler on 05-12-2009
I'll have an Earl Grey, please!
Added By juggler on 07-12-2009
Just had a phone call from my solicitor...
...
Added By Kat007 on 08-12-2009
OOOH this in one way is good news but in another q...
Added By juggler on 08-12-2009
Thanks, Kat.
As far as I know, cour...
Added By Kat007 on 10-12-2009
Oh don't screw the tax man coz he will been happy ...
Added By juggler on 11-12-2009
Thanks, Kat. Sorry, this is a cut and paste job bu...
Added By Kat007 on 17-12-2009
I hate to say this but given he lies about the GF ...
Subject: fdr
Posted By why? on 04-12-2009
can someone also please explain whether or not i could have adjourned the fdr based on non disclosure and unclear and contradicting disclosure provided by h. or am i correct in saying that only h can adjourn the fdr because h...
Added By Simes 2p on 04-12-2009
Why, the whole point is that if his non disclosure...
Added By why? on 04-12-2009
ok simes. so basically you are telling me that we ...
Added By Simes 2p on 04-12-2009
Why, no, at the final hearing both of you will be ...
Added By why? on 04-12-2009
or indeed. why did you spend almost £100,000 on h...
Added By Kat007 on 05-12-2009
I know this is really stressful for you why? as it...
Added By why? on 05-12-2009
hi kat,
not being funny here but i get no p...
Added By EnglishRose on 05-12-2009
If you agree things between you they can be agreed...
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
Why, if your solicitor has told you it is unlikely...
Added By why? on 05-12-2009
thanks owl. i will ask my solicitor and barrister ...
Added By Owl1 on 06-12-2009
Why I should add that the key bit of information t...
Added By EnglishRose on 06-12-2009
Yes, we married young, always had everything in j...
Added By why? on 06-12-2009
hi er.
yes we do have a sharholders agreeme...
Added By Owl1 on 06-12-2009
Why, It will take your sol some time to analyse th...
Added By Owl1 on 06-12-2009
"If there is no purchaser then the shares at reall...
Added By why? on 06-12-2009
thats useful advice owl thanks. i have tried to ge...
Added By Owl1 on 07-12-2009
Why, your SM payment will be based on his income a...
Added By why? on 07-12-2009
yes i understand. i find it annoying however that ...
Subject: Break through regarding Christmas
Posted By Jools123 on 04-12-2009
Hi all,
After several solicitors letters my ex has conceded some ground regarding my daughter traveling to South Africa over Christmas. I get daughter on both weekends before Christmas (11-13th)(18-20th) and bo...
Added By Kat007 on 04-12-2009
Yipee, This is good news Jools I am so thrilled fo...
Added By Jools123 on 04-12-2009
Thanks Kat - it is great news!
Yes,...
Added By Kat007 on 04-12-2009
I am so chuffed for you and what's £1500 (i know)...
Added By Jools123 on 04-12-2009
Kat - fairy costume, Dora DVDs, Marble Madness, Di...
Added By Owl1 on 04-12-2009
Good news Jools. enjoy!
I'm intrigu...
Added By Kat007 on 04-12-2009
Ah but then like me you have grandchildren and do ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-12-2009
nice news-good one...
Subject: fdr waste of time.
Posted By why? on 03-12-2009
hi.
im looking for good strong advise here. previous posts i mentioned that i suspected h was deliberately engineering a third trial because he had told a blatant lie accusing me of saying to him that i would not sttle...
Added By Simes 2p on 04-12-2009
Why, I won't go into details, because a lot of wha...
Added By Kat007 on 04-12-2009
I do agree with simes here,
The oth...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-12-2009
The point of the FDR is to try and reach agreement...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-12-2009
PS the costs of a FH and associated work can be an...
Added By why? on 04-12-2009
no opinion from judge other than that it was a sha...
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
So lots of opinions then from the Judge Why and ev...
Added By why? on 05-12-2009
hi owl.
id assume that if the judge...
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
No thats not the case Why. At the final hearing th...
Added By why? on 05-12-2009
i understand about income not being a bottomless p...
Added By Owl1 on 06-12-2009
It is about standard of living Why, the general ru...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-12-2009
OK, the judge has given lots to think about. Simes...
Added By why? on 06-12-2009
hi
regarding the judges opinion. it...
Subject: update
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 03-12-2009
text from the X... 'you are not having the boys this year for xmas...'
she has decided to take them to the snowdome!
I will have them for this weekend then nothing until jan 6th...
...
Added By Jools123 on 04-12-2009
Obi - I'm really sorry to hear this. I don't quite...
Added By Kat007 on 04-12-2009
Sorry DarthX has done what,
was yo...
Added By Owl1 on 04-12-2009
Obi, its simple really isn't it.
Yo...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 04-12-2009
order says- that basically the xmas holiday is in ...
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
Obi, if the order says you have the boys from 18th...
Added By Kat007 on 05-12-2009
I know right now it seems taking the higher ground...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 05-12-2009
I dont think i could ask simes- he thinks i am an ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 05-12-2009
we live month to month...
200 quid ...
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
Well do it this time Obi, don't just talk about it...
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
And I think you are missing the point of why you a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 05-12-2009
gee thanks mom...
we have cut back ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 05-12-2009
err... my role to correct her behave?
Added By Owl1 on 05-12-2009
Obi, the value is that you have a chance to get th...
Added By Simes 2p on 05-12-2009
Oscar Bravo,
'I dont think i could ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 06-12-2009
simes- for me 'enforcing' a civil order is a WASTE...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 06-12-2009
I know you mean well- and i am not upset with any ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-12-2009
F4J is disbanded. Too many bigots within brought ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 06-12-2009
simes- here is the exact wording: how do you inter...
Added By Owl1 on 06-12-2009
Obi If you seek to enforce a civil order, the resu...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 06-12-2009
i heard FFJ was kaput... I guess they just ran out...
Added By Owl1 on 06-12-2009
So it looks like you are going to go ahead and ap...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 06-12-2009
law without enforcement or consequences is useless...
Added By Owl1 on 07-12-2009
Obi young kids can cope without seeing a parent fo...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 07-12-2009
cope? mmm... deal with- more like.
...
Added By Owl1 on 07-12-2009
Obi, kids can be quite happy when separated from p...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 07-12-2009
I think you miss the point a little... the kids (u...
Added By Owl1 on 08-12-2009
Obi if your kids want to live with you and you are...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 08-12-2009
are you sure you are a solicitor?
r...
Added By Owl1 on 08-12-2009
Yep, I am quite sure I am a solicitor Obi.
...
Subject: Apology for previous post: please ignore it.
Posted By Zoe on 02-12-2009
I'm sorry for my last post. I didn't mean to offend and obviously did not research the site well enough before asking for help with my project.
Unfortunately there does not seem to be a way to delete the post, ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 02-12-2009
Don't feel bad Zoe, it's not your fault, but I can...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Zoe, I apologise for my words. I was unreasonably ...
Added By Teadrinker on 02-12-2009
Zoe, I wasn't offended by what you wrote. Though I...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Exactly my thoughts TD.
Added By Owl1 on 03-12-2009
Zoe. I found when I finally did get divorced about...
Added By LazyLizzie on 03-12-2009
Zoe
Whilst I am sure many on here share Stu...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 03-12-2009
as i only had the clothes on my back, living in a ...
Added By Simes 2p on 03-12-2009
Zoe, being a student myself, good on you for makin...
Added By Nancy on 04-12-2009
Zoe, I celebrated my divorce, although it was over...
Subject: Help inspire women to celebrate newfound freedom.
Posted By Zoe on 02-12-2009
Hi all,
I am a student making a documentary about women who throw divorce parties. As someone whose parents went through a long and very painful divorce, I understand that this will not apply universally- and h...
Added By Suvla1915 on 02-12-2009
A party was the last thing on my mind. Absolutely ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 02-12-2009
I might throw a housewarming party though, if and ...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
This is EXACTLY why I agree with the student loan ...
Added By Zoe on 02-12-2009
Thanks stuart, that's really helpful.
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
Zoe - I think you should go elsewhere. This site i...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Thing is Zoe, you have come to a divorce website w...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
I want to know how it is these frigwit people are ...
Added By Zoe on 02-12-2009
I'm really sorry to have caused such offense. Genu...
Subject: And we have a result
Posted By Kat007 on 02-12-2009
After as you may or maynot have read below ex wrote a very damning letter against me and has shown he will do all possible to wreck the relationship I have with the kids etc etc. He was angry due to hearing outcome and used t...
Subject: Enforcing residency order
Posted By david1972 on 01-12-2009
I have applied for a residency order for my 7 year old twin girls. I was last in court on 22nd November when an order was made setting out contact times for my ex-wife. The order also included two conditions for this contac...
Added By Kat007 on 02-12-2009
You say it is written in the order that her partne...
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
I agree with Kat. Except you do need to have proof...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 02-12-2009
It really depends on the circumstances. Were the c...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Why do you object to the partner being present?
Added By Kat007 on 02-12-2009
Valid question Stuart but maybe it is serious enou...
Added By david1972 on 02-12-2009
Thank you for your input everyone. I do not want ...
Added By Stuart on 03-12-2009
sounds like you have grounds to ask the court to l...
Added By why? on 03-12-2009
do you know any other parents at the school who ar...
Subject: How do non-resident parents deal with the time away from children
Posted By Jools123 on 01-12-2009
Hi all,
Another one from me.....
I am finding the time outside of contact very tough and was wondering how NRPs cope. I have that aching/emptiness feeling in my stomach for several days after say...
Added By Stuart on 01-12-2009
I agree with your partner. If you let it eat you u...
Added By Jools123 on 01-12-2009
Hi Stuart,
Yeah, I didn't think the...
Added By Owl1 on 01-12-2009
I agree with your partner Jools, counselling may b...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
"it just gets you locked in bitterness and express...
Added By Kat007 on 02-12-2009
ouch
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Stuart have you considered what it is really like ...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Ra...ra....ra.....
Talking crap as ...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Lol Stuart you really are an angry man sometimes. ...
Added By Stuart on 03-12-2009
Err...you started the insults Owl....not me....
Added By Owl1 on 03-12-2009
No Stuart I said you expressed an angry emotion. A...
Added By Stuart on 03-12-2009
Oh I see....my mistake was it? lol
So, call...
Added By Owl1 on 03-12-2009
Stuart what's eating you at the moment? You are re...
Added By Stuart on 03-12-2009
Owl, I came here to respond to Jools and all I got...
Added By Owl1 on 03-12-2009
Stuart you did express angry emotions. Read your p...
Added By Stuart on 04-12-2009
Frankly Owl I couldnt give a hoot whether you are ...
Added By Owl1 on 04-12-2009
What situation regarding Jools's daughter Stuart?<...
Subject: and another one from me...its not turning out to be a good day
Posted By Jools123 on 29-11-2009
Hi,
I've just found out from my daughter that her mum is going to change her name.
Can she do this without my consent?
We were married when daughter was born.
However as I w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-11-2009
If the parents of a child are married to each othe...
Added By Jools123 on 29-11-2009
Thanks for this.
But could she try ...
Added By Owl1 on 29-11-2009
Jools, there is a child's legal name and then ther...
Added By Jools123 on 29-11-2009
Owl - I suppose you're right regarding a name. Aft...
Added By Kat007 on 29-11-2009
Jool123,
Yes it is only a name I wo...
Added By Simes 2p on 30-11-2009
It is illegal to allow a child to be known by anot...
Added By Jools123 on 30-11-2009
Thanks all - At least this sounds like one instanc...
Added By Kat007 on 30-11-2009
I am not sure but I think you can it might be wort...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-11-2009
"Can I get my name put of the birth certificate wi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-11-2009
kat, if a couple were married at the time of the c...
Added By Stuart on 30-11-2009
Err, of course you can have your name added to the...
Added By Jools123 on 30-11-2009
Just to clear the situation.
I'm na...
Added By Kat007 on 30-11-2009
Right Jools,
As you are named on th...
Added By Owl1 on 30-11-2009
I don't think Jools' daughter having her mother's ...
Added By Jools123 on 30-11-2009
Reason she used her surname was that we split up d...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 30-11-2009
In England & Wales the legal position is that cons...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-12-2009
I would have thought the fairest answer would be f...
Added By Owl1 on 01-12-2009
STIDW I am not talking about formal name changes o...
Added By Owl1 on 01-12-2009
TD, I think for men often the issue of a surname a...
Added By Simes 2p on 01-12-2009
Owl, I know this name thing is a well trodden argu...
Added By Owl1 on 01-12-2009
"For a mother to change a childs name, it is not t...
Added By Stuart on 01-12-2009
LOL....I think you have missed the point TD...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-12-2009
Stuart, you've just made up the reason why the mot...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-12-2009
Sorry, pressed Send too soon.
Stua...
Added By Jools123 on 01-12-2009
TD - to be honest, my ex would try and change daug...
Added By evr on 01-12-2009
I don't get this. Didn't you say your daughter do...
Added By Jools123 on 01-12-2009
EVR - I don't want my daughter being named after a...
Added By Suvla1915 on 01-12-2009
My brother in law left his wife when his two child...
Added By Jools123 on 01-12-2009
Hi Suvla - this new man has no biological tie to m...
Added By evr on 01-12-2009
But Jools, she will have her mum's surname, becaus...
Added By Suvla1915 on 01-12-2009
My niece (ex-niece?) has her father's surname, my ...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Jools I wouldn't worry too much about correcting y...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
And Jools to add to what you said to evr most wome...
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
Owl - of course and that's because I want to alway...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Jools, the reason for the "get a grip" whats in a ...
Added By Stuart on 02-12-2009
Oh dear Jools.....you and your ex split during the...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Stuart, I live with one of my children, live close...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
He removed himself from his mother's life prior t...
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
Interesting Owl - you state that I removed myself ...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Jools I am not making any assumptions as I don't k...
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
you have actually (see below) - but hey this has g...
Added By evr on 02-12-2009
I agree with Owl. Whatever the circumstances you ...
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
evr - you really do seem to get the wrong end of t...
Added By Jools123 on 02-12-2009
wtf - I've re-read this and realised I'm getting d...
Added By evr on 02-12-2009
The marriage broke up Jools, so you must have left...
Added By Owl1 on 02-12-2009
Jools I have no need to know the circumstances of ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-12-2009
Changing a child surname is always contentious bec...
Added By Stuart on 03-12-2009
Jools, I dont blame you for withdrawing from this ...
Added By Stuart on 03-12-2009
Oh...meant to say, good advice from STIDW....
Added By Owl1 on 03-12-2009
Stuart who made the assumption Jools left his wife...
Added By why? on 03-12-2009
i think that to change a childs name as your own c...
Added By Stuart on 04-12-2009
Owl, have you got the hots for me or something?
Added By Owl1 on 04-12-2009
lol Stuart, rest assured you are definitely not my...
Subject: Its not right, and I doubt there is anything I can do about it.....
Posted By Jools123 on 29-11-2009
I have my daughter with me this weekend, we woke up this morning (after she wet the bed for the first time) and she said 'Daddy, I dont want to see you for longer because it means I cant play with or see William (her friend)'...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-11-2009
You've done very well. Parents' views differ on wh...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-11-2009
I think you need to be very wary of jumping to con...
Added By why? on 03-12-2009
you did good. i have h who manipulates children an...
Subject: help please
Posted By neverending on 27-11-2009
hello folks, I have been reading your posts for a long time and need help. My ex husband has remarried with step children and a baby on the way.
I told my 12 years duaghter off and she decided to go ...
Added By Stuart on 27-11-2009
When you say he has reduced the amount agreed in c...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-11-2009
Umm... a 12 year changing where they live just b...
Added By Stuart on 28-11-2009
On the face of what we have read, its not likely t...
Added By neverending on 28-11-2009
Thanks STDW for your informed input. I always enj...
Added By EnglishRose on 29-11-2009
12 is marginal. 13 is more likely but most contact...
Subject: And were off :)
Posted By Kat007 on 27-11-2009
So I waited and waited and it finally happened after two weeks of pent up frsutration on his part lol.
Plop a letter on the door mat from the ex. as you know he tells S about court etc etc S blames Mother for f...
Subject: What do I do now ??
Posted By Sarah B on 26-11-2009
Hi
I had a very frank discussion (well, screaming match) with my husband at the weekend. Told him I did not love him, I did not want to be married to him any more and wanted us to seperate. He is having none of it, s...
Added By Stuart on 26-11-2009
Err....not so easy to "serve papers" in order to m...
Added By LazyLizzie on 26-11-2009
I lived with my husband and two sons whilst I divo...
Added By Kat007 on 27-11-2009
I agree totally with the above posts good advice a...
Subject: Domestic Abuse...
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 25-11-2009
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/8376943.stm
To be taught in schools...
I thought PM Browns line. 'violence against women and girls was "an obscenity"'.
True... but methinks he forgot...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-11-2009
http://www.familylore.co.uk/
On the...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 26-11-2009
so there IS a two tier system after all....
...
Added By Owl1 on 26-11-2009
I think Simes's point is that despite the governme...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 26-11-2009
shame they missed half of the equation eh?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-11-2009
obi, I think you are missing the point that the la...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 28-11-2009
ok- fathers rights are a COMPLETELY sep issue than...
Subject: Poll
Posted By harry888 on 25-11-2009
I read the other day in the Telegraph online that a poll suggests up to 1/3rd of all children loose contact with one parent [usually the father ]. They made it into a debate. The main reasons given were the legal system, gr...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 25-11-2009
lol... yes....
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 25-11-2009
petrol... fire... WHOOOOF!!!!
Added By harry888 on 25-11-2009
Sorry - I really do NOT understand this. Are sayi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-11-2009
Trouble is that apart from court data on the outco...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 26-11-2009
harry- yes... there is a problem... thankfully -no...
Added By Owl1 on 26-11-2009
Effective problem solving often means stepping asi...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 26-11-2009
effective problem solving - is IDENTIFYING the PRO...
Subject: Increasing Contact
Posted By Jools123 on 24-11-2009
Hello,
Could somebody please advise me on how I should go about getting extended contact through the courts?
Currently I have 9am on Saturday through to 5.30pm on Sunday on alternate weekends. I ...
Added By Kat007 on 24-11-2009
Hi Jools123,
OK you would like to i...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-11-2009
I agree with Kat, if you still have regular conta...
Added By Jools123 on 25-11-2009
Hi,
Thanks for the posts but....
Added By Simes 2p on 25-11-2009
C100. Dowload from HMCourts website.
Added By Jools123 on 25-11-2009
Hi Simes,
Allegations - you know he...
Added By harry888 on 25-11-2009
Sorry to but in. I made post above trying to unde...
Added By Jools123 on 25-11-2009
Sorry harry but your questions are dubious. If you...
Added By harry888 on 25-11-2009
Jools. I am one of those fathers who has two grea...
Added By harry888 on 25-11-2009
i also put up a website. www.childrenarenotpawns....
Added By Simes 2p on 25-11-2009
Harry, most men tend to go up against the legal sy...
Added By Jools123 on 25-11-2009
ok, sorry to hear your difficulties.
Added By harry888 on 25-11-2009
Simes/Jools
Simes - I agree with yo...
Added By Stuart on 25-11-2009
Look on the bright side, children get to the point...
Added By Jools123 on 25-11-2009
Harry - the system is all wrong for the reasons ou...
Added By Jools123 on 25-11-2009
Stuart - I really hope that happens with my daught...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-11-2009
Harry, not annoyed with you at all. Just the way ...
Added By harry888 on 25-11-2009
Simes
You are a divorce lawyer righ...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-11-2009
Harry, sorry, no I am not.
Join F...
Subject: F.A.O Simes
Posted By juggler on 20-11-2009
Please could you tell me what the following means:
Make false representation to make gain for self or another or cause loss to other/expose other to risk on xx/xx/08
Fraud Act 2006 s1 (2) (a) +s.2
...
Added By juggler on 20-11-2009
Ah, having had a re-read, I can see his solicitor ...
Added By Stuart on 20-11-2009
Jeez....I have to ask, why are you so interested i...
Added By juggler on 20-11-2009
Is your name Simes.....? :-D
Added By Stuart on 20-11-2009
Well clearly not....lol...
Just try...
Added By Simes 2p on 20-11-2009
Jugs,
You need the Court to order d...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-11-2009
I'm not Simes but in case he isn't about over the ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-11-2009
Sorry, crossed posts!
Added By juggler on 20-11-2009
Thanks, all.
Just to clarify, he ha...
Added By Simes 2p on 20-11-2009
Jugs, another possibility of fraud is that he fidd...
Added By juggler on 20-11-2009
Thanks, Simes.
The accompanying let...
Added By Simes 2p on 20-11-2009
Jugs,
His Sol is protecting his cli...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-11-2009
if the prosecution is impending- I dont think the ...
Added By juggler on 21-11-2009
Yes, I do understand the reasons behind not statin...
Added By EnglishRose on 21-11-2009
"police letter) says "Copies of incidents relating...
Added By Stuart on 23-11-2009
Can I ask why the interest?
If its ...
Added By Simes 2p on 23-11-2009
Stu, didn't we go through this same conversation l...
Added By Stuart on 23-11-2009
Yes, I do remember this.....but I have slept since...
Added By juggler on 23-11-2009
I would like to point out that Mr Jugs IS having c...
Added By juggler on 23-11-2009
P.S I wouldn't say I am doing any detective work. ...
Added By Stuart on 24-11-2009
So the court has told you to do all of this detect...
Added By evr on 24-11-2009
Stuart, surely this is a child protection issue in...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 24-11-2009
in my experience - social services don't always im...
Subject: Makes you wonder
Posted By Kat007 on 19-11-2009
So I should be surprised really butit does make me wonder,
Ex is so angry he lost in court that he has again taken to using our children as a weapon against me. Telling them Mum did this and she has taken all m...
Added By Owl1 on 19-11-2009
Kat, this is what you do.
You write...
Added By Simes 2p on 19-11-2009
Is it really a good idea to involve the children i...
Added By Owl1 on 19-11-2009
Simes I think its always a good idea to let childr...
Added By Simes 2p on 19-11-2009
Hoots, I had absolutely no idea of my parents econ...
Added By Owl1 on 19-11-2009
You may well be right Simes.
I have...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-11-2009
well the reason I am in financial hardship-ville i...
Added By Simes 2p on 19-11-2009
Hoots,
I think the best that we can...
Added By Kat007 on 19-11-2009
This has stirred some debate and some valid points...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-11-2009
In E&W divorcing spouses are under a duty to use i...
Added By Owl1 on 21-11-2009
Simes I wouldn't want to distract you from your le...
Added By Kat007 on 21-11-2009
Owl Australia or New Zealand?
Added By EnglishRose on 21-11-2009
Most clever children can understand the fact - lik...
Added By Owl1 on 21-11-2009
Kat - NZ, its not light in Aussie till 10pm at nig...
Added By Kat007 on 22-11-2009
Nice post Owl very clear and to the point and so s...
Added By Simes 2p on 23-11-2009
Kat, personally, I wouldn't give a toss about show...
Added By Kat007 on 23-11-2009
Ta simes,
I think I will slap that ...
Added By Kat007 on 27-11-2009
ANd it did see above post :)
Subject: children
Posted By why? on 17-11-2009
can anyone tell me if its possible to have an order set by the court to establish contact just during holidays?
we have a schedule which suits us both. apart from the usual let downs by h as per usual. (just as...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 17-11-2009
No adult is forced to see for children if they don...
Added By why? on 18-11-2009
yes. i realise all of this but just find it totall...
Added By Stuart on 18-11-2009
Why?....you are doing it again...dont allow your f...
Added By why? on 18-11-2009
hi stuart. i have the children this christmas as h...
Added By Owl1 on 18-11-2009
Why calm down and take a breath.
Ne...
Added By Stuart on 18-11-2009
I echo Owls final paragraph.....
I ...
Added By why? on 19-11-2009
hi guys. i do get what you are saying. he has his ...
Added By Owl1 on 19-11-2009
Why, I have found that children tend to be less wo...
Added By why? on 19-11-2009
hi owl. i do appreciate and recognise what you say...
Added By Stuart on 20-11-2009
What would happen if your ex moved a distance away...
Added By why? on 20-11-2009
hi stuart. it would dependon far he chose tomove. ...
Added By Stuart on 20-11-2009
Yes thats true....
But you still ne...
Added By Owl1 on 21-11-2009
"i never impose a decision on someone else that i ...
Added By why? on 21-11-2009
hi owl.
yes. i see your point regarding my ...
Added By Owl1 on 21-11-2009
Why I think you can say that you did "consider" yo...
Added By why? on 21-11-2009
hi owl. it boils down to this. i want to see the c...
Added By Owl1 on 21-11-2009
Why someone once said that assuming too much makes...
Added By why? on 21-11-2009
HI OWL. i didn't assume that all people from broke...
Added By Owl1 on 21-11-2009
"i think its fair to say that if a parent doesn't...
Added By Owl1 on 22-11-2009
And I should add Why that if anyone had suggested ...
Added By EnglishRose on 22-11-2009
Christmas is neither here nor there in my view bu...
Added By why? on 22-11-2009
hi owl. you made the point about your children enj...
Added By Owl1 on 22-11-2009
Why the children were bought up by both of us and ...
Added By why? on 23-11-2009
hi owl. i'm exhausted on the christmas thing.regar...
Added By Owl1 on 24-11-2009
Why who is stopping you getting paid employment if...
Added By why? on 24-11-2009
owl.i have no intentions to work until my youngest...
Added By Owl1 on 24-11-2009
Why life isn't fair. Is it fair that your h does n...
Added By why? on 24-11-2009
no owl. i wanted h to see the children regularly a...
Added By Stuart on 24-11-2009
Why?, your loss of career will be reflected in the...
Added By Owl1 on 25-11-2009
I think the thing you are going to have to accept ...
Added By why? on 25-11-2009
owl. all schedules were done at his request. any s...
Added By Owl1 on 26-11-2009
Why, why are you bothering with typing the schedul...
Added By why? on 26-11-2009
im sorry owl but its perfectly normal to have sche...
Added By Owl1 on 26-11-2009
Who says its perfectly normal to have schedules Wh...
Added By why? on 26-11-2009
yes i can appreciate all that you say. however, ye...
Added By Owl1 on 27-11-2009
Why, let me share my positive experiences as an nr...
Added By why? on 28-11-2009
i again can agree with you to a level. regarding t...
Added By Owl1 on 28-11-2009
why, I was emotionally abused by my ex and he rema...
Subject: Hopefully nearly there!
Posted By redchad on 15-11-2009
I was actually divorced 2 year in January but part of the consent order was 1) that i pay maintenance till the house is sold. 2) that a schedule of the contents be agreed and divided accordingly.
Now the proble...
Added By why? on 15-11-2009
i dont know the answer. however, i cant see why yo...
Added By Stuart on 15-11-2009
Why? is right....compare court costs with the valu...
Added By redchad on 16-11-2009
Thanks for that!
I am self represen...
Added By EnglishRose on 16-11-2009
My ex let me have virtually all the contents as I ...
Added By redchad on 16-11-2009
Thanks ER im not gonna let it go but my question i...
Added By Stuart on 16-11-2009
Yes, if your ex hasnt done everything as she shoul...
Added By redchad on 17-11-2009
All i want is what im entitled to!
Added By LazyLizzie on 17-11-2009
Red I understand how you feel. THe bad news is tha...
Subject: Court Tomorrow
Posted By Kat007 on 08-11-2009
So as you can imagine tomorrow is supposed to be the day that I come out of limbo note the words supposed to be. :(
It is the day that is supposed to decide whether the children and I will be able to rehouse ou...
Added By why? on 08-11-2009
good luck kat. do you have to sit in the same room...
Added By Kat007 on 09-11-2009
We will have to see the Judge together so in the s...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-11-2009
I can't remember where you are at and whether this...
Added By Kat007 on 10-11-2009
So the hearing was for ex to show cause to vary SM...
Added By why? on 10-11-2009
seems like things are going your way kat. for now....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-11-2009
So he did get short shrift! Please don't feel gui...
Added By Kat007 on 10-11-2009
Thanks guy's.
I know this is his ma...
Added By Joyce. on 10-11-2009
Awww Kat - sorry you're having such a tough time. ...
Added By Kat007 on 11-11-2009
Thanks Joyce,
If I had been a compl...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-11-2009
ahh kat- your line 'If I had been a complete bitch...
Added By Kat007 on 11-11-2009
oh yes it certainly does obi, Sometime my dad says...
Added By Suvla1915 on 11-11-2009
Kat, your Dad sounds just like mine - he says to m...
Added By Kat007 on 12-11-2009
Thanks for the post sulva,
How are ...
Added By why? on 12-11-2009
hi kat.
i feel for you. i am going ...
Added By Kat007 on 13-11-2009
Thanks why?
Yes he will destroy all...
Added By EnglishRose on 14-11-2009
His current partner should nkow he will sleep arou...
Added By Kat007 on 15-11-2009
Well there is the £64k question ER,
...
Added By Kat007 on 15-11-2009
Also ER,
Why would his current part...
Added By why? on 15-11-2009
kat. the gf will blame you for his affairs no doub...
Added By Kat007 on 15-11-2009
Ha yes your probably right there Why? Everything i...
Added By Owl1 on 17-11-2009
Hi Kat
Good to read that the Court ...
Added By Kat007 on 18-11-2009
Ha Owl that is hillarious thanks for cheering me u...
Subject: Here I go AGAIN !!!!
Posted By SethWC on 07-11-2009
Cant believe Kat n others still on here - Anyway have asked no 3 for Divorce because I am sick of being the verbal punchbag - Today is day one, expect harder times ahead !!!!!
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-11-2009
Didn't Oscar Wilde say something along the lines t...
Added By SethWC on 08-11-2009
Did not loose any of them - let them loose !!!!
Added By Kat007 on 08-11-2009
Oh S**T Seth.
Yes still here lol an...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-11-2009
a 2nd marriage is a triumph of hope over experienc...
Subject: More silliness
Posted By juggler on 06-11-2009
Being taken back to court in a fortnight... As a quick update, this year the ex has taken me to court 5 times to get more contact with the children and to have his new girlfriend present at that contact. 5 times the judge has...
Added By Simes 2p on 06-11-2009
Jugs, Your sol should be asking for an order to th...
Added By juggler on 06-11-2009
Hi, Simes.
Is the 91.14 order somet...
Added By juggler on 06-11-2009
Typo - next COUNTY, not next COUNTRY, he's not gon...
Added By Simes 2p on 06-11-2009
Jugs,
Yes, 91.14 is to stop a vexat...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-11-2009
seen one in action - it works a treat...
Added By juggler on 11-11-2009
Just wondering how to suggest a 91.14 to my solici...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 12-11-2009
easy- just say...
'can I enquire if...
Added By juggler on 12-11-2009
She is very good, I'm always worried about upsetti...
Added By Simes 2p on 13-11-2009
Jugs,
Sometimes, it is better to no...
Subject: Costs in divorce
Posted By Bubbles36 on 05-11-2009
Hi everyone
I have today received notification the Judge will grant me a divorce and he is to pay costs with my first court date. I initially saw a solicitor who sent him out a letter and I got charged £120 f...
Added By Stuart on 06-11-2009
Hi.
All I did was wrote a letter to...
Added By Bubbles36 on 06-11-2009
Hi Stuart
Thanks for replying... w...
Added By Stuart on 06-11-2009
Hiya again,
Im assuming you dont ac...
Added By Bubbles36 on 07-11-2009
Hi Stuart
No I haven't got the orde...
Subject: Costs in divorce
Posted By Bubbles36 on 05-11-2009
Hi everyone
I have today received notification the Judge will grant me a divorce and he is to pay costs with my first court date. I initially saw a solicitor who sent him out a letter and I got charged £120 f...
Subject: consent order
Posted By dobsy on 05-11-2009
Hi Can any help?? I am currently part way through a divorce i am the respondent and have the decree nisi however my wife has'nt applied for the absolute it has been approx 5 months so i can apply for it, can you tell me if i ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-11-2009
When the respondent applies for the absolute there...
Subject: Bullying
Posted By pixiehelper on 05-11-2009
My parnters was bullied by his wife for many years she has slowly took advantage of his financial position and took money from him and invested it into a business she was helping her grown up chidren financially to survive an...
Added By Owl1 on 05-11-2009
Well pixiehelper, first of all how can a wife take...
Added By pixiehelper on 05-11-2009
Its both their money but she will sit on the divor...
Added By Kat007 on 05-11-2009
tit for tat dirvoce on it's way then. I would just...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-11-2009
I don't understand what you mean when you say the ...
Subject: ulcers...
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 02-11-2009
good ol' doc...
she tells me i am on the way to getting an ulcer...
I wonder why...
will keep you updated- but for now i am on new meds and they are changing my shift pattern to ...
Added By Kat007 on 02-11-2009
Well hope you get the Ulcer under control. Not too...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 11-11-2009
yup- medication works... very well...
Subject: Help! Help! What do I do?
Posted By Jools123 on 01-11-2009
Please help me. I have spent the last 30 mins in tears after dropping off my 3.5 year daughter (M) from our fortnightly contact.
I was handed the following sheet of paper reading "Dear Julian, M will be visitin...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-11-2009
What are the terms of the order in relation to hol...
Added By Jools123 on 02-11-2009
The order doesn't mention holidays.
...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 02-11-2009
yes- but that would be a reasonable person Jools.....
Added By Jools123 on 02-11-2009
Talked to solicitor and being called tomorrow....<...
Added By LazyLizzie on 02-11-2009
Jools, this may not help but i thought I would say...
Added By Kat007 on 02-11-2009
Horrible, horrible and As hard as this will be not...
Added By Jools123 on 03-11-2009
Thanks all for advice.
Unfortunatel...
Added By Simes 2p on 03-11-2009
Jools,
Your Sol should have given y...
Added By Jools123 on 03-11-2009
Solicitor has said that she will write to her as s...
Added By Stuart on 03-11-2009
It might not be much consolation but for all those...
Added By Jools123 on 04-11-2009
I really do hope that is the case.
...
Added By Owl1 on 04-11-2009
Jools I just want to say that this is hard for you...
Added By why? on 04-11-2009
hi.
i have to say as a pwc that i f...
Added By Jools123 on 04-11-2009
Hi, thank you for your words.
To be...
Added By Owl1 on 04-11-2009
Your solicitor if she has any experience in Family...
Added By Jools123 on 05-11-2009
I think my solicitor was stating that my ex should...
Added By Owl1 on 05-11-2009
aagh well Jools your ex will truely believe that s...
Added By Jools123 on 05-11-2009
It is...
Just to add....I only know...
Added By Owl1 on 05-11-2009
Jools the effect of the Hague Convention is that i...
Subject: Scottish divorce - free offer
Posted By Bruce (Scotland) on 24-10-2009
I am a Scottish Solicitor and in the process of considering whether or not to offer a new Scottish divorce service. It is for those with children under 16 who have agreed everything with their husband or wife.
...
Subject: Quick question regarding a Tenancy
Posted By Kat007 on 22-10-2009
So I ask.
If ex is guarantor for our D on her rented property would he also be allowed to be guarantor for me. Can he be guarator for both of us?
Added By LazyLizzie on 25-10-2009
Why would you want your ex as guarantor?
Added By Kat007 on 25-10-2009
Hi LL,
Ah it doesn't work like tha...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 02-11-2009
lizzie is right- i would rather have a terrorist a...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 02-11-2009
dont give this person control over you again!
Added By Owl1 on 03-11-2009
Kat, by having your ex as guarantor you actually h...
Added By Kat007 on 03-11-2009
Cheers owl this was my thinking see I knew I wasn'...
Added By Owl1 on 04-11-2009
Its very stressful Kat. In your shoes I'm not sure...
Added By Kat007 on 04-11-2009
Well it get's worse the buyers are now pushing for...
Added By Suvla1915 on 04-11-2009
No clues I'm afraid, but I just wanted to offer my...
Subject: Father threatening court again - where do we stand?
Posted By Jools123 on 22-10-2009
Firstly I would like to point out that my partner and I have a child each. Her child (13) lives with us and my child lives with her mum (4). I have gone to court to get access and see my daughter every other weekend sat 9am t...
Added By Kat007 on 22-10-2009
Jools123,
Firstly may I say and sur...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-10-2009
Sorry about your sad news, the loss of children is...
Added By Jools123 on 23-10-2009
Thank you so much for you kind words. Its been a t...
Added By Kat007 on 23-10-2009
OMG Jools123,
Well what a complete ...
Added By Jools123 on 23-10-2009
Hi Kat,
You've hit the nail on the ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-10-2009
sorry to hear about this jools... agree with kat a...
Added By Kat007 on 24-10-2009
The mans a joke,
My son is under we...
Added By why? on 28-10-2009
its amazing. i am always surprised at just how man...
Subject: Quick divorce in scotland
Posted By afa2009 on 20-10-2009
Is it true that the 2-year separation condition is bypassed in scotland or is not a requirement in scotland?
If a separating couple live in england, can they file for divorce in scotland to speed up the process...
Added By Kat007 on 20-10-2009
on my understanding you can only file for divorce ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-10-2009
You can only divorce in Scotland if you are eligib...
Added By Bruce (Scotland) on 24-10-2009
The Scottish residence criteria can be found at ht...
Added By Daniel Plata on 31-10-2009
Online divorce companies claim that they are quick...
Added By afa2009 on 01-11-2009
I thank you all for your contributions.....I noted...
Subject: Its a farce (part 45869695)
Posted By juggler on 19-10-2009
Just thought I would update how court went...
The ex had taken me to court (strange how I've never taken HIM to court yet it was our 5th time there this year). He wanted more contact with the boys and his girlf...
Added By juggler on 19-10-2009
Forgot this bit - the ex's solicitor has said the ...
Added By Kat007 on 19-10-2009
Oh juggler,
You can only do what yo...
Added By why? on 21-10-2009
i dont quite understand. i thought he wanted more ...
Added By juggler on 22-10-2009
Yes, he asked for more contact (weekends including...
Added By why? on 28-10-2009
well there you go. if his girlfriend cant go a few...
Added By juggler on 02-11-2009
We're back in court on November 16th :-( Very disa...
Subject: update
Posted By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-10-2009
hi all...
just an update...
No1 son in 'big school' (he has only been there for this term and Darth X has made complaints about the staff already calling them racist!)
No2 son at d...
Added By Kat007 on 19-10-2009
Hi Obi,
Wow lots of changes :)
Added By Stuart on 21-10-2009
Hi Obi....
Just need to keep duckin...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-10-2009
ahh... didnt explain that too well...
Added By Stuart on 24-10-2009
Back in uniform aint that bad.....
You get ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 24-10-2009
possibly- I was surprised it fitted...
Added By Kat007 on 25-10-2009
Ah OBI,
Uniform Lovely nothing like...
Added By Stuart on 26-10-2009
From my experience, albeit not quite as long as yo...
Subject: Why oh why
Posted By Kat007 on 18-10-2009
I am astounded yes I shouldn't be but I am and again the person hurting is our D.
She is 16 has her friends of course, arranges to spend time with Dad he then cancels she arranges again and he cancels this has ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-10-2009
as Freud once remarked- 'sometimes a cake is just ...
Added By Kat007 on 19-10-2009
yes he is a jerk.
I have stopped ju...
Added By Chirpy on 19-10-2009
I have been through similar with my ex h. When he ...
Added By Kat007 on 20-10-2009
Thanks chirpy,
Yes we do always end...
Added By why? on 21-10-2009
hi kat.
its crap. i hate some of wh...
Subject: h throws another non susrprise!
Posted By why? on 15-10-2009
i guessed over a month ago from comments made by my 6 year old that h's gf was most probably pregnant. h sends text last weekend telling me the predicted news. he wants to tell children. i suggested he wait since she is only ...
Added By Stuart on 16-10-2009
Hi,
As hard as it is I would try no...
Added By why? on 16-10-2009
phew stuart. you've had your fare share too then.<...
Added By Stuart on 17-10-2009
You could watch this space.....or just let it all ...
Added By juggler on 19-10-2009
What is it about rings?!
When I lef...
Added By why? on 19-10-2009
tee hee hee.
yip. h turned up this morning ...
Subject: Just wanted to say hi
Posted By tilly31 on 14-10-2009
Hello everyone its been a while since I was here as I needed a period of time to cme to terms with everything that happened in the last 3.5 years of separation, divorce and residency matters.
All is quiet here ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-10-2009
Great to hear from you again. It gets so much easi...
Added By Owl1 on 15-10-2009
Thats so true about acceptance setting in STIDW. <...
Added By Kat007 on 16-10-2009
HI tills,
So good to hear from you ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-10-2009
hi tilly... nice to hear you feel better about thi...
Added By Owl1 on 19-10-2009
What years lost Obi? I don't feel I have lost any ...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-10-2009
the years lost to spiteful, selfish people that se...
Added By Owl1 on 20-10-2009
Its up to you if you want to give them those years...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-10-2009
if a tree falls in a forest and noone hears does i...
Added By Joyce. on 20-10-2009
dum de dah etc etc etc.
Added By Owl1 on 21-10-2009
Obi you can choose to let the facts destroy you or...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 22-10-2009
still as funny as ever Joyce...
Owl...
Added By Owl1 on 22-10-2009
I am not a robot either Obi. I feel the whole rang...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-10-2009
I see what you are saying- however, I just don't a...
Added By Owl1 on 23-10-2009
I think it is in the range of a normal human to no...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 23-10-2009
As I indicated above- we just need to agree to dis...
Added By Owl1 on 23-10-2009
I agree Obi. I think the essential difference betw...
Subject: How do I get out of this marraige?
Posted By Sarah B on 12-10-2009
Never posted on here before, desperate for advice/support:
Been married 9 years with 6 year old son. I've been unhappy for many years, my husband has been aggressive with violent tendancies, treated me like s**t and b...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-10-2009
Who has been the main carer of your child during t...
Added By Stuart on 13-10-2009
How do you go to work if he doesnt let you leave?<...
Added By juggler on 13-10-2009
I went through a rather similar experience 5 years...
Added By Stuart on 14-10-2009
Perhaps Im just a tad stupid but if things are lik...
Added By Owl1 on 15-10-2009
You are not a tad stupid Stuart, just a little ign...
Added By juggler on 15-10-2009
Its not a bad idea, Stuart, but I'm all for keepin...
Added By Stuart on 15-10-2009
"Go around and arrest the perpetrator for assault ...
Added By Nicola on 15-10-2009
Hi Sarah.
First, let me say, I know exactly...
Added By Stuart on 16-10-2009
I meant to say previously, a dear friend of mine w...
Added By Owl1 on 17-10-2009
Good news for your friend Stu but even then she to...
Added By Stuart on 18-10-2009
My friend didnt stay with her ex out of fear, she ...
Added By Owl1 on 18-10-2009
Yes but that does not mean the hubby was afraid of...
Added By Stuart on 18-10-2009
She was too afraid of what would happen to her ex ...
Added By Owl1 on 18-10-2009
So she was the one afraid not him Stuart and it wa...
Added By Stuart on 18-10-2009
Oh ok Owl...... clearly you know my friend far bet...
Added By Owl1 on 19-10-2009
No I don't know your friend better than you Stuart...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-10-2009
lol nothing changes...
Added By Owl1 on 20-10-2009
Perhaps Obi having been in a similar predicament y...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-10-2009
Report him to the Police.
Get him removed f...
Added By Owl1 on 20-10-2009
Its sad Obi you feel like a chump. Thats not somet...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 20-10-2009
that i took that rubbish off her?
i...
Added By juggler on 20-10-2009
Oh, I still feel stupid for marrying my ex (althou...
Added By Owl1 on 21-10-2009
Don't beat yourself up about it Obi and Juggler.
Added By why? on 21-10-2009
abuse can also be very subtle. its the daily or we...
Added By Stuart on 22-10-2009
Ok owl....I will give in and answer you one last t...
Added By Owl1 on 22-10-2009
Stuart, I 'd be afraid of someone who beat me whil...
Added By Stuart on 22-10-2009
Ok....
Subject: Finding a home is really hard
Posted By Kat007 on 10-10-2009
So I have been looking and looking and looking for somewhere for me and the kids to live and there is nothing around. All the agents have a list of my requirements and are soing all they can to find something for me. I have n...
Added By Owl1 on 11-10-2009
Kat I don't know the rental market and rules in th...
Added By LazyLizzie on 11-10-2009
I am with Owl on this one. You are going to have t...
Added By Kat007 on 12-10-2009
I agree with all you say above regarding moving on...
Added By LazyLizzie on 12-10-2009
Kat - you are right that you can both expect the o...
Added By Owl1 on 13-10-2009
Kat, just leave your conveyancing sol to work thro...
Added By Kat007 on 14-10-2009
Cheers owl for the kind words.
Yep ...
Added By Owl1 on 15-10-2009
Kat, if he can't get a loan approved to meet the n...
Added By Kat007 on 15-10-2009
Ah sorry owl I was not very clear, the court order...
Added By Owl1 on 15-10-2009
Kat why has your sol not sought to enforce the ord...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-10-2009
Spouse maintenance can be enforced and the respond...
Added By Kat007 on 15-10-2009
Stids thanks for that advice.
The h...
Added By obiwan_kenobi_again on 19-10-2009
whilst i should always recommend that court action...
Added By Owl1 on 20-10-2009
Kat the good news in your post above is that if th...
Added By Kat007 on 20-10-2009
I wonder though whether now she has found out that...
Subject: Finding a Solicitor (Derby)
Posted By pricey on 10-10-2009
Hi guys
This is my first post and I'm afraid there may be many more as me and my wife are going to be talking about starting with divorce proceeding very soon.
I have been recommended a good sol in Nott...
Added By Kat007 on 10-10-2009
Pop down to your local CAB and they should have a ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-10-2009
It is a good idea to have a solicitor local to the...
Added By pricey on 10-10-2009
Thanks Kat007 and sometimesitdoesn'twork. Apprecia...
Subject: Implications of Selling the House before Divorce
Posted By rashadjee on 07-10-2009
Hi Friends, Just wanted to know if I sell my house to my brother for the outstanding mortgae of around £40,000, before I get a divorce and before my wife was to find out, where do I stand legally? The house is worth around ...
Added By Kat007 on 08-10-2009
OOH don't do it.
Info is the house ...
Added By rashadjee on 08-10-2009
The house is not in joint names and the marriage i...
Added By Simes 2p on 08-10-2009
Yes. Don't do it.
Added By Suvla1915 on 08-10-2009
I thoight you were a woman rashadjee. I'm sure you...
Added By Stuart on 08-10-2009
How thick are you Rash??
Of course ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-10-2009
The court can set aside dispositions intended to r...
Added By why? on 15-10-2009
i can see why your marriage didn't work. you sound...
Subject: Message of hope / Emotional support
Posted By BobH on 07-10-2009
Hi All,
There seems to be plenty of support and advice available on legal and financial matters but very little help to cope with the emotional trauma of divorce. We deal with the practicalities while inside an...
Subject: house stuff
Posted By Kat007 on 01-10-2009
So house sold subject to contract, nothing signed and have had legal advice not to sign anything until,
1. I have secured a property for my children and myself which is turning out to be impossible, no rental p...
Added By Tania on 02-10-2009
Hi kate I was in a similar situ a few years ago-un...
Added By Kat007 on 04-10-2009
Thanks Tania,
I have written to the...
Subject: Should I call it a day?
Posted By Chirpy on 26-09-2009
Where do I begin. Been seperated for nearly 5 years, divorce finally through July this year :) Got three children 17, 15, and 6. My ex had an affair and moved in with gf, had no contact wth the children for 2 years. Contact t...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
You can't change other people's behaviour, you are...
Added By Kat007 on 02-10-2009
another great post by stids,
Chirpy...
Added By Chirpy on 03-10-2009
Thanks for your replys. It is always nice to get s...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-10-2009
It sounds as though you are doing all the right th...
Subject: Need advice -
Posted By Nicola on 26-09-2009
Hi, I really could do with some advice. My x has picked up our daughter from school for the first time and he was going to return her that day. However, that was yesterday. He still has her but tonight hes called and shes cry...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
I don't think there is very much you can do just ...
Added By Nicola on 26-09-2009
thanks so much. Doing best not to let it worry me,...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
I forgot to mention there is a court application f...
Added By why? on 28-09-2009
im not sure that id wait til next monday. thats a ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-09-2009
It's important to deal with these types of applica...
Added By why? on 29-09-2009
ah! silly me.
Subject: This is descending into a farce :-(
Posted By juggler on 25-09-2009
I found out yesterday that the ex went to court on Wednesday. Not for any of the 4 allegations I already knew about...
He was ordered to provide a CRB check and his complete police files by 21st July. He has JU...
Added By Stuart on 25-09-2009
How on earth do you know all of the details of the...
Added By juggler on 25-09-2009
I met the woman in question.
Added By juggler on 25-09-2009
Sorry, was interrupted there.
Stuar...
Added By Stuart on 25-09-2009
Well actually not everyone was sympathetic!!
...
Added By juggler on 25-09-2009
You would think by now I would know he has a devio...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
Stuart has a point, it's important to stand back a...
Added By Simes 2p on 26-09-2009
Jugs,
When he is charged with an of...
Added By juggler on 26-09-2009
Yes, a bit of distance from him would be good. Eas...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-09-2009
False allegations are annoying but courts look at ...
Added By juggler on 26-09-2009
I don't know why, but I had presumed his criminal ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-09-2009
Criminal proceedings are only relevant in children...
Added By Simes 2p on 28-09-2009
Or, criminal propceedings can be used to show that...
Added By juggler on 28-09-2009
Thanks for the replies.
Yes, this i...
Added By Stuart on 28-09-2009
Hang on....so many people tell fibs in court....
Added By juggler on 28-09-2009
Well, the ex's fibs have never been used again him...
Added By Stuart on 28-09-2009
And I would be surprised if they ever are!!
...
Added By why? on 28-09-2009
hi.
i totally sympathise with you. my h is ...
Added By juggler on 28-09-2009
Thanks, Why.
Stuart, as I said a fe...
Added By Stuart on 29-09-2009
Err....for the record Im not a policeman....used t...
Added By juggler on 29-09-2009
Oh, I don't know where I got that from then! :-S
Subject: Email Surveillance & Password Recovery Service
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Hacking and arranging to hack is a criminal offen...
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Aiding and Abetting is also a crime.
...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-09-2009
Gordon Brown is a twit
Added By Simes 2p on 25-09-2009
No, I said a silly message, idiots. Have another ...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-09-2009
Netgroup surveillance are a bunch of chancers.
Added By Simes 2p on 25-09-2009
Hey, clever. You've done it. You passed the test...
Added By Stuart on 25-09-2009
Why do the owners of this site allow such adverts?...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-09-2009
Trouble is, anyone tempted may find that they pay ...
Subject: information needed.
Posted By mitmop on 22-09-2009
Hello all. Its been a long long time that I have been on this site. I dont know if sims is still on as he helped me a lot. Anyway a few years ago i won custody of my 3 children and being a Dad that was quite an achievment ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-09-2009
The problem is that at 14 your D's views will carr...
Added By Simes 2p on 25-09-2009
Mitmop,
This isn't an issue you can...
Added By mitmop on 27-09-2009
Ok thanks for the replies. I am quite shocked at ...
Added By why? on 28-09-2009
im not surprised at your daughter running off etc....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-10-2009
I would try to keep in indirect contact through em...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-10-2009
So she's just started her GCSE year. You need to b...
Added By mitmop on 17-10-2009
well its been a few weeks now and i havent heard f...
Subject: so we sorted it hmm(follow on from thread below)
Posted By Kat007 on 21-09-2009
Well thats what I thought.
So had a chat with our s at the suggestion of the ex and sorted everything to S's satisfaction e-mailed the ex to let him know the arrangements that he said our S wanted and still he...
Added By why? on 28-09-2009
just make sure that all your responses are calm an...
Subject: Ex's girlfriend.....
Posted By keephappy1 on 20-09-2009
I have received rather unpleasent emails form my ex's girlfriend.
And i'm at the point of not knowing what to do any more.
I have not resonded to these emails, as I know thats what she wants.
She...
Added By Kat007 on 21-09-2009
hi keephappy,
Wello done you for no...
Added By Stuart on 21-09-2009
Hi...
You are not alone. Well done ...
Added By Kat007 on 21-09-2009
might be sweeping but most of the time very true. ...
Added By Stuart on 22-09-2009
Thank ya Kat....lol...x
Added By keephappy1 on 23-09-2009
Thank you both.
The children are a ...
Added By Kat007 on 25-09-2009
You are doing all you can to maintain contact for ...
Added By Stuart on 25-09-2009
If he wont talk to you then you cant force him too...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-09-2009
Keephappy, he doesn't want to speak to you because...
Added By Stuart on 27-09-2009
A very good post Suvla....
Just wo...
Added By Suvla1915 on 30-09-2009
Oh yes...
Added By keephappy1 on 01-10-2009
Thank you Suvla.
The extract is so ...
Subject: Ex Is at it again
Posted By Kat007 on 20-09-2009
As you are aware I was granted custody of the kids this year due to major problems at the ex's house, I managed to sort contact out, got the kids and dad's back together everything running smoothly until today he has e-amiled...
Added By why? on 28-09-2009
of course he thinks you are stupid. ex's tend to r...
Subject: Hols and more...
Posted By BFS on 18-09-2009
Re last weeks holiday question - it doesn't matter any more. SS has had it drummed into her she can't be away from mummy for more than 7 days. I'm not about to put any more pressure on her from this side on the matter.
...
Added By skovby1 on 18-09-2009
Normally I am very "anti" children calling anybody...
Added By BFS on 18-09-2009
Good call Skovby. You reminded me about the beers ...
Added By why? on 28-09-2009
i dont like the idea that a child calls someone mu...
Subject: minimising costs from decree nisi to consent order!
Posted By Uncle Dick on 18-09-2009
My wife and myself are in agreement as to the financial split of the sale proceeds of the marital home. so hopefully we can soon proceed towards the consent order, having already got the decree nisi. However my lawyers are pa...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-09-2009
There is actually quite a lot of skill and knowled...
Added By Uncle Dick on 19-09-2009
Many thanks for above comment. I am now wondering ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-09-2009
There are online companies who do consent orders b...
Added By Rupert The Bear on 22-09-2009
Hi Uncle D -
for whats its worth I went th...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-09-2009
Ouch! I'm not sure if the comment about those havi...
Subject: transfer between english & scottish courts possible?
Posted By why? on 18-09-2009
hi.
as many of you know h has taken my sister in law to court over over an alleged debt which sheis defending.
he has applied it to an english county court which is nowehere near where he lives n...
Added By Kat007 on 18-09-2009
Hi Why?
Well well, things just get ...
Added By why? on 18-09-2009
thanks kat.
yes. it gets worse. got...
Added By Stuart on 18-09-2009
14 holidays in 10 months?
They must...
Added By why? on 19-09-2009
hi stuart.
the holidays are relevant. he cl...
Added By JohnR on 19-09-2009
Can you just clarify.
Who actually...
Added By why? on 19-09-2009
hi john.
yes we have half the business, oth...
Added By Kat007 on 21-09-2009
back on subject here,
This sister i...
Added By why? on 21-09-2009
hi kat.
the total figure is £3,500...
Added By Kat007 on 21-09-2009
so if you can't find anything in your personal sta...
Added By why? on 22-09-2009
if the money was given from the business then i ha...
Subject: An urgent short question?
Posted By Kat007 on 18-09-2009
So had an offer on the house, ex has accepted it without even consulting me. It is lower than the asking price bu £3k so not too bad. The buyers are still waiting for the offer from there bank as need 100% mortgage, they are...
Added By london on 18-09-2009
Presumably best to set completion of sale of prope...
Added By Kat007 on 18-09-2009
what do you mean rental alternative, there is no a...
Subject: Domestic Violence- wife battering experienced by friend
Posted By london on 17-09-2009
I have been happily divorced for some time now but recently the vicissitudes of married life reappeared by proxy, when a lady who lives in my area knocked on my door, recently, in tears with evidence of having had a severe b...
Added By Kat007 on 17-09-2009
Hard one, thankfully never having been on the reci...
Added By smarties19 on 18-09-2009
Hi there. I wasn't going to respond to this one b...
Added By LazyLizzie on 22-09-2009
London
Why do you think this woman knocked ...
Added By london on 22-09-2009
Thanks very much for all views expressed
I ...
Subject: Hi everyone :)
Posted By Kat007 on 17-09-2009
Just thought I would stick my head around the virtual door and see how you all are?
Ex still is not adhering to the court order and not paying the bills still, I am just skint skint skint and having to find the...
Added By Captain Oates on 17-09-2009
Nice to hear from you kat. You seem fine. I would ...
Added By Kat007 on 17-09-2009
Oh CO,
Just remember don't give up ...
Subject: Divorce - advice, please!
Posted By ac26 on 10-09-2009
Hi,
I am a new comer to this, so apologies for any technical (and non-technical) mistakes. This is very hard to me, but I would appreciate advice on divorce settlement and child maintenance.
My s...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-09-2009
There is some basis to what H says. After a short ...
Added By ac26 on 11-09-2009
Thank you very much for this comment. I will look-...
Added By Captain Oates on 16-09-2009
The crazy law is whoever gets the child benefit ge...
Subject: DIY Divorce Petition Help, help and more help
Posted By Bubbles36 on 10-09-2009
Hi everyone
I am having to try and complete a Divorce Petition to hand into court and struggling with a few things... hoping someone can help me?
First thing I am stuck with section three.. this ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 10-09-2009
Also just posted another comment on financial sect...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-09-2009
"The petitioner and respondent are both domiciled ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 11-09-2009
thanks for the advice Sometimes, I am grateful for...
Added By Bubbles36 on 11-09-2009
I rang the court today and spoke with a clark and ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-09-2009
Solicitors letters and phone calls do rack up the ...
Added By Bubbles36 on 11-09-2009
umm well on my marriage cert it states my maiden n...
Added By Bubbles36 on 13-09-2009
Ok all filled in, on the prayer bit I have just le...
Subject: Can anyone answer a legal/policey question for me?
Posted By juggler on 09-09-2009
Hello again.
My ex has been arrested and released on bail (for fraud).
Does anyone know how serious things have to be to actually get arrested, rather than just questioned? And what about bail? I...
Added By Stuart on 09-09-2009
Police have to arrest in order to question. So act...
Added By Stuart on 09-09-2009
Just re-read your bit about bail.
W...
Added By juggler on 09-09-2009
Thanks, Stuart.
Don't have any more...
Added By Stuart on 09-09-2009
lol....its ok....it has something to do with the a...
Added By Simes 2p on 10-09-2009
When you apply for Bail, you have to convince the ...
Added By juggler on 10-09-2009
Well, you learn something every day!
...
Added By Simes 2p on 10-09-2009
The Court will look at the case. Prosecution will...
Added By Stuart on 10-09-2009
"As for the Police arresting him, you can be arres...
Added By juggler on 10-09-2009
Thanks, both.
I was talking to my D...
Added By Stuart on 11-09-2009
can I ask why you are concerning yourself with all...
Added By juggler on 11-09-2009
Not especially, its just something new to me that ...
Added By Simes 2p on 11-09-2009
Blimey, this is all to do with Indictments on a ch...
Subject: Residence order
Posted By Penelope on 08-09-2009
Hi.
I split from my partner 6 months ago, we have 3 children together and were not married.
A friend has suggested that I make an application to court for a residence order as otherwise he would ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-09-2009
Does your former partner have Parental Responsibil...
Added By Penelope on 08-09-2009
I am told he does have parental responsibility as ...
Added By Simes 2p on 08-09-2009
Penny, what Stidsy is saying although in very prof...
Added By Penelope on 08-09-2009
I have learnt a lot of home truths over the past y...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-09-2009
The courts have a no order principle and will only...
Added By Penelope on 08-09-2009
He has stated he might be moving abroad and he has...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-09-2009
You can ring up the passport office, explain the ...
Added By Stuart on 09-09-2009
You would be wasting your time and money by runnin...
Added By why? on 12-09-2009
hi.
i sympathise with you. i was co...
Added By Stuart on 13-09-2009
"if your ex is someone you can depend upon and tru...
Added By why? on 14-09-2009
hi stuart.
i disagree. some people ...
Added By Stuart on 14-09-2009
Not convinced Im afraid.
Marriage i...
Added By why? on 14-09-2009
yes. bvut what if only ONE party was to blame for ...
Added By Stuart on 15-09-2009
I agree that there those couples who grow apart an...
Subject: Harrassment?
Posted By Ess on 03-09-2009
My ex husband and I have been divorced for about 5 years now. He has moved on - married with a baby and a step-daughter. I have also moved on. I'm living with my partner - getting married next year. I'm PWC of mine and ex...
Added By Stuart on 04-09-2009
I dont think this is harrassment in the truest leg...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-09-2009
Harassment is a criminal offence under the Harassm...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 05-09-2009
Sorry, that should be might or might *not* work.
Added By why? on 06-09-2009
i was just about to reply to you when...... out of...
Added By Tania on 06-09-2009
Hi, he's not a happy bunny, is he? Taking a pop at...
Added By Stuart on 08-09-2009
Why?....you are very naughty....you just about hij...
Added By LazyLizzie on 08-09-2009
Ess, have you considered responding to his complai...
Added By why? on 12-09-2009
i agree with lazy lizzies bit about the court. per...
Subject: Holidays
Posted By BFS on 02-09-2009
Help me out here.
I put it to the ex tonight that I would like to take SS to Canada on a family holiday next year - explaining that my shifts were favourable at the Easter holidays, thus minimising time off sch...
Added By skovby1 on 02-09-2009
I think Canada needs two weeks (at least !), but a...
Added By evr on 03-09-2009
I don't really think the ins and outs of what a 6 ...
Added By BFS on 03-09-2009
Agreed, her reaction was expected. The reason I wa...
Added By Stuart on 03-09-2009
I doubt the dripping tap approach will work here I...
Added By Teadrinker on 04-09-2009
I think you should avoid trying to take her away d...
Added By Stuart on 04-09-2009
Oh come on.....
As long as he clear...
Added By Teadrinker on 04-09-2009
Stuart, I think BFS's d might be in Scotland and I...
Added By Stuart on 04-09-2009
Im sure you will find that schools in England (at ...
Added By BFS on 04-09-2009
Td
That's exactly what I am trying to do. I...
Added By BFS on 04-09-2009
For the record, SS comes regularly. Stayed for 9 d...
Added By Teadrinker on 04-09-2009
Stuart, BFS's ex will still be able to tell people...
Added By Kat007 on 05-09-2009
Hi BFS,
Holidays what a nightmare w...
Added By why? on 06-09-2009
hi bfs.
as you know i had issues about my y...
Added By Teadrinker on 06-09-2009
"my 6 year old could easily go away with her dad f...
Added By Simes 2p on 07-09-2009
During the war, kids were evacuated to unknown add...
Added By BFS on 07-09-2009
Pidcatgeons
I agree - the mood here...
Added By BFS on 08-09-2009
I've been pondering what you said Tea. I think it ...
Added By Teadrinker on 08-09-2009
Hi BFS
Obviously we'll have to agre...
Added By BFS on 08-09-2009
Point taken Tea. So, are we agreed our ex's are bo...
Added By Teadrinker on 08-09-2009
Point taken Tea. So, are we agreed our ex's are bo...
Added By Simes 2p on 08-09-2009
My oldest is 17 and came on holiday with me this y...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 08-09-2009
For the most part I agree with the boys. There mig...
Added By why? on 13-09-2009
note to tea.
hi. i think somehow i ...
Added By Teadrinker on 14-09-2009
Hi why. I was thinking of my situation with my ex,...
Added By why? on 14-09-2009
hi teadrinker. thats ok. i was just bit concerned ...
Added By Captain Oates on 17-09-2009
Had some experience with this this year. I wanted ...
Subject: DIY Divorce- What is the next step???
Posted By who?? on 31-08-2009
Hi
Process server has finally managed to serve petition and has sent me their affidavit and documents for exhibit.
What is the next step:
a) do the court get sent a copy of the aff...
Added By JohnDoe12 on 31-08-2009
Hi
You will need to send the proces...
Subject: What is Legal Separation???
Posted By allandonald on 31-08-2009
Hi
Can some body explain about Legal separation ….. since my life with my Spouse is going miserable ……..,
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-08-2009
What people usually mean when they refer to a lega...
Added By Mark34 on 31-08-2009
Unlike divorce, a legal separation does not put an...
Subject: here's a thought....
Posted By why? on 29-08-2009
so nowadays fairness and equality are considered by the courts to leave each party on a similar financial footing.
seems fair to me.
the payer of sm can cohabit/marry and it doesn't really make a...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-08-2009
Statute law only bars SM on remarriage because the...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-08-2009
I can see the logic of SM ending if the recipient ...
Added By why? on 30-08-2009
new spouses have duty to support each other this i...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-08-2009
"why is the new spouse of the payer not expected t...
Added By Stuart on 30-08-2009
So Why?, are you saying that you think that the pa...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-08-2009
I think Stuart has a point. If SM doesn't stop on ...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-08-2009
I suppose the most logical time for it to stop is ...
Added By why? on 30-08-2009
thats what im getting at teadrinker. when there ar...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-08-2009
I kind of see what you mean, though of course stop...
Added By why? on 30-08-2009
im not sure teadrinker as im no where near the sta...
Added By Teadrinker on 30-08-2009
I'm not sure that the rules about SM actually affe...
Added By Stuart on 31-08-2009
I go back to what STIDW said right at the start of...
Added By why? on 31-08-2009
every one has to take a bit of a knock back after ...
Added By Stuart on 31-08-2009
Im sorry why? but I dont see it like that.
...
Added By Stuart on 31-08-2009
In most cases SM is payable simply because there t...
Added By why? on 31-08-2009
hi stuart. no, i dont thinkyou should be paying sm...
Added By Teadrinker on 31-08-2009
I don’t think you can ever have complete equalit...
Added By Teadrinker on 31-08-2009
Have just realised that it wouldn't be as straight...
Added By why? on 31-08-2009
hi teadrinker. you make valid points. in a way im ...
Added By BFS on 31-08-2009
I haven't read all of this, and don't want to get ...
Added By Stuart on 31-08-2009
"my solicitor has said that i should be asking for...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-09-2009
Scots law favours certainty to encourage pre-court...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-09-2009
How strange that he already has one ex that he pay...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 01-09-2009
Paying SM to first wife is considered under the s2...
Added By why? on 01-09-2009
hi. as far as i am aware. h has not had to pay sm ...
Added By why? on 01-09-2009
stuart. sm for life does not mean i need to remain...
Subject: It's done...
Posted By delphine again on 28-08-2009
Hello all you lovely people from old,
Tis done, I am the proud survivor of a French divorce. I celebrated by breaking up with that nice man I'd been seeing for a year. Ok, no I didn't, it was ironic and rather ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-08-2009
Congratulations on the divorce and having happy ch...
Added By Suvla1915 on 30-08-2009
Bon soir Delphine, good to hear from you again. H...
Added By Kat007 on 05-09-2009
Ah delphine,
Good to hear from you,...
Subject: Hello!!!!
Posted By Peter67 on 28-08-2009
Hi everyone,
what a great forum to find....I can;t believe how busy it is in here! It's good to know that I'm not the only one going through this and that, from what I've read so far, there are lots of you in ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 28-08-2009
These are all the same person, aren't they?
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
i think you might be right. all ending in numbers ...
Subject: What to do next?
Posted By Tony123 on 28-08-2009
Hi to all,
I got divorce from my ex two year ago. I have two children. I and My ex mutually agreed upon that ex can meet their children at every weekend. But now a days she is not interested in meeting them. So...
Added By Harry98 on 28-08-2009
Hi,
Just speak with your ex and fin...
Added By Mark34 on 28-08-2009
Hi
Tony be cool.....dont think of y...
Added By why? on 28-08-2009
did any of you pass your english at school?
Subject: Parents Divorcing
Posted By Stephen78 on 27-08-2009
Hi,
Why are My Parents Divorcing?
Added By hopeofray on 27-08-2009
That is strange question. Please give us a brief h...
Added By Taylor123 on 27-08-2009
Yeah this is too strange, may be due to some miss ...
Added By Simes 2p on 27-08-2009
Probably because their kids are driving them mad.<...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-08-2009
There's a lot of strange things going on at the mo...
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
yes. ive noticed one or 2 very strange posts recen...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-08-2009
See;
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...
Subject: Texas Divorce
Posted By Harry98 on 27-08-2009
Hi to all,
Are there any residency requirements in order to obtain a divorce in Texas?
Added By Wood98 on 27-08-2009
In order to qualify for a divorce in Texas, one of...
Added By Simes 2p on 27-08-2009
You need an oil field and a ranch. Without those,...
Subject: Parents Rights and duties
Posted By Flower45 on 26-08-2009
To receive information from the other parent about the children’s health, education, and well-being, and to talk to the other parent about upcoming decisions concerning the children’s health, education, and well-being.
Added By Taylor123 on 26-08-2009
Hi
Fine good these are all some poi...
Added By Suvla1915 on 27-08-2009
Strange. Do you have anything to add, John Doe?
Added By hopeofray on 27-08-2009
Strange indeed. What is the problem Flower45?
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
que?
Subject: Child support
Posted By Taylor123 on 26-08-2009
Hello everyone,
What are the conditions to be met by the child in order to receive the child support?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
Child support is normally paid to a parent for the...
Added By JohnDoe12 on 26-08-2009
If the child turns 18 and graduates from high scho...
Added By hopeofray on 27-08-2009
Hi and welcome onboard. Hope you found the answer ...
Subject: Divorce expenses
Posted By ortrop on 26-08-2009
Hi. I am new on the board and don’t have much clue about the divorce procedure. My wife and I have been having problems in our marriage for around 2 yrs. We were unhappy with each other but I don’t know why, we never ment...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
The divorce, finances and arrangements for childre...
Added By hopeofray on 27-08-2009
Hi there. Sorry to hear about your situation. Stid...
Subject: Life after divorce
Posted By Luther123 on 25-08-2009
Hi
So not only the emotional battle of divorce and children's hearings , now I am happy in working in a small company and earning dollars......thks
Added By JohnDoe12 on 25-08-2009
Hi
Good.....Carry on with the rest ...
Subject: About Divorce
Posted By JohnDoe12 on 25-08-2009
Hi i and my spouse have a misunderstanding
Added By JohnDoe12 on 25-08-2009
yeah pls apply divorce
Added By Luther123 on 25-08-2009
hi
you need to consult a solicitor ...
Added By skovby1 on 25-08-2009
Correction to Luther - you don't need a solicitor ...
Added By hopeofray on 26-08-2009
what is your question or concern?
Added By Simes 2p on 27-08-2009
I think if you finished your sentences, she may be...
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
perhaps if you also started your sentences at the ...
Subject: joint house valuation
Posted By why? on 25-08-2009
hi.
need to appoint joint house valuation. h has stipulated that he wants the house valued by a 'surveyor' and not an estate agent. does anyone know why?
he also requests that he be present during the v...
Added By Stuart on 26-08-2009
A valuation by a chartered surveyor will cost £40...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
It isn't unusual for property to actually sell at ...
Added By why? on 26-08-2009
ok. so choosing a surveyor is nothing to be concer...
Subject: House.
Posted By keephappy1 on 24-08-2009
Hi hope someone can give me some advice about the house.
Been divorced over a year the out come of the house was 25/75% in my fav, and if someone moved in after 6 months we brought him out, ok thats fine.
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
What are the exact terms of the order? There is of...
Subject: Change in Circumstances
Posted By J5773 on 24-08-2009
I have been divorced for over two years now. On advice from solicitors at the time, I did not contest my ex to have the children the majority of the time, although I believe and continue to believe that it would be better to...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
You have the children a great deal of the time and...
Added By J5773 on 24-08-2009
Thanks for the information.
Both my...
Added By Nicola on 24-08-2009
So using the same line of thought, if you were the...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
But you have virtually 50:50 care and in twenty ye...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
See "Ten Golden Rules to Protect Your Children Fro...
Added By J5773 on 24-08-2009
If I had a girlfriend move in of course I would no...
Added By J5773 on 24-08-2009
I don't think anyone's actually read what I've wri...
Added By evr on 24-08-2009
I've read what you've written, but I don't underst...
Added By Stuart on 25-08-2009
I read and fully understand what you are saying J5...
Added By Owl1 on 25-08-2009
I am a nrp and don't feel that way at all Stuart s...
Added By why? on 25-08-2009
i can fully understand your feelings. i am however...
Added By Stuart on 26-08-2009
Aha but Owl you're a one off!! lol
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
"Of course she is fighting it.....well, come on, i...
Added By J5773 on 26-08-2009
I don't think it is really possible to generalise ...
Added By hopeofray on 26-08-2009
Hi there. If you are concerned about the finances ...
Added By J5773 on 26-08-2009
I have tried talking to her about it but she just ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
The children appear to live with you for a good de...
Added By J5773 on 26-08-2009
Again you really don't seem to have read what I ha...
Added By why? on 26-08-2009
hi. again, homestly, i think you should sit this o...
Added By J5773 on 26-08-2009
Thanks why? I have read a couple of things you ha...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-08-2009
I have no axe to grind and there is no agenda. The...
Added By Owl1 on 26-08-2009
Stuart my point is that we parents whether nrp pwc...
Added By why? on 27-08-2009
i guess my point was this. children will express t...
Added By Teadrinker on 29-08-2009
I'm puzzled by your talk of wanting to change the ...
Added By BFS on 29-08-2009
Sorry guys, but I'm with the ladies on this one. <...
Added By Stuart on 29-08-2009
Perhaps Im misreading this....I thought J5773 was ...
Added By BFS on 29-08-2009
Sure Stu, I get that. But unless ones life is incr...
Subject: Why is he so angry when he is with his GF and normal when he is with me.
Posted By Kat007 on 24-08-2009
So things have been ticking along nicely kids behaving just celebrated a 16th birthday(wasn't happy with the present got from dad) knew he didn't choose it. One going off on holiday with him and gf. Only down side he is still...
Added By why? on 24-08-2009
best not to have botheredanswereing his question i...
Added By Owl1 on 25-08-2009
Kat I think I can answer your question.
Added By hopeofray on 26-08-2009
Hi Kat. Good to hear about the positive things you...
Subject: CSA
Posted By IWISH on 23-08-2009
CSA have suddenly stopped taking payment from my account without any expalanation.
My last months money is still in my account...My ex not allowing me to see kids and has notified police that I have hit my youn...
Added By iwish on 23-08-2009
I forget to say.. I have been paying by direct deb...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
Have you tried phoning the CSA? They aren't the mo...
Added By Kat007 on 24-08-2009
Hi iwish,
This does sound more like...
Added By Stuart on 24-08-2009
Sounds like its the age old cash for contact story...
Added By hopeofray on 26-08-2009
Stids and Kat are right. I think you need to get i...
Added By Capt Chaos on 26-08-2009
The simple solution to this is to cancel the Direc...
Subject: Directions Hearing for Warning notice to Contact Order
Posted By Nicola on 20-08-2009
Hi, just a quick question.
My children's father has applied to have a warning notice attached to our exisiting Contact Order, however, there is to be a directions hearing. Seems odd, but my question is, do I have to go...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-08-2009
I shouldn't think so. The court has no discretion ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 21-08-2009
I've just read about people applying for a warnin...
Added By Nicola on 21-08-2009
Thanks sometimesitdoesntwork. I was wondering if C...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-08-2009
The source was a comment on a lawyer's blog the o...
Added By Nicola on 23-08-2009
Intresting, I never considered Sols blogs as a sou...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
I've remembered who the commentator was. He runs...
Subject: Should I be over it by now?
Posted By butterfly52 on 20-08-2009
Ok, hello. First time here and needs thoughts/opinions:
I've been divorced for three years. I found out that my wife of 26 years had been unfaithful (on one single day I found out about two previous affairs - w...
Added By Nicola on 20-08-2009
Hi Butterfly.
You sound like your in stuck ...
Added By Kat007 on 21-08-2009
Welcome on board and sorry you are here, but I hop...
Added By hopeofray on 26-08-2009
Hi there. Sorry to hear about your situation. It i...
Added By smarties19 on 28-08-2009
i empathise with how you feel. some days i still ...
Added By butterfly52 on 29-08-2009
Hi everyone,
Thanks so much for the...
Added By smarties19 on 31-08-2009
Well done, i know how hard it can be to be around ...
Subject: rant
Posted By why? on 17-08-2009
is it just me... or is h just an extremely immature, unrealistic, selfish tosser?
girfriend no 2 taken to our village school to attend easter event with all parents present.
girlfriend no 3 taken...
Added By Stuart on 17-08-2009
Rant away by all means....this is the place to do ...
Added By why? on 17-08-2009
hi stuart.
i admit i have never bee...
Added By BFS on 20-08-2009
Christ, I'm going to regret this....but bare with ...
Added By why? on 20-08-2009
phew.....! don't know what to say to all that. com...
Added By BFS on 20-08-2009
I understand that your feelings take a bashing due...
Added By Nicola on 21-08-2009
Why -
Hi - If your x is messing you around...
Added By why? on 21-08-2009
hi nicola.
i know this may sound strange, b...
Added By Nicola on 21-08-2009
Sorry Why, perhaps "move on" was not the best phas...
Added By Nicola on 21-08-2009
I should have said - "No one has the power to hurt...
Added By why? on 21-08-2009
hi nicola.
just had some really devastating...
Added By Nicola on 21-08-2009
Well, Why, now you have been offered an opportunit...
Added By BFS on 21-08-2009
Aside from your latest fight, did you take anythin...
Added By Stuart on 21-08-2009
Im not sure I want to read the details to be hones...
Added By why? on 21-08-2009
bfs. we have had no fight. i have not been in cont...
Added By BFS on 21-08-2009
Sorry, I should have said aside from your latest d...
Added By why? on 21-08-2009
hi bfs.
ok. fair enough. i dont make myself...
Added By BFS on 21-08-2009
What exactly is normal?
Because you...
Added By why? on 21-08-2009
hi.
correct. i can not diagnose a mental co...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-08-2009
I have been reading up extensively on neuro-surger...
Added By Teadrinker on 23-08-2009
I find it very unlikely that sometimesitdoesn'twor...
Added By why? on 23-08-2009
thats correct teadrinker.
i know what went ...
Added By Nicola on 23-08-2009
Tea drinker, yourve made some intresting points. I...
Added By Teadrinker on 23-08-2009
My ex also tried to make me feel worthless towards...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-08-2009
Seriously, DIY diagnoses of mental orders are a da...
Added By Kat007 on 24-08-2009
Have a godd time TD xx
Added By Nicola on 24-08-2009
Well said sometimesitdoesntwork. You cannot negoia...
Subject: wants childrens passport details?
Posted By why? on 14-08-2009
hi all.
h is due to take little ones away next week and then again the following week, all booked up etc. both trips require passports. the 2nd trip does not include our youngest daughter although i know he booked her ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-08-2009
Does it really matter if you are going to be givin...
Added By Joyce. on 14-08-2009
Hi Why
I booked some easyjet flights for CD...
Added By why? on 14-08-2009
thanks joyce. it does thank you. someone else told...
Added By Stuart on 17-08-2009
Yes, Im afraid it all does sound rather paranoid a...
Added By why? on 17-08-2009
hi stuart.
please dont think this stuart. i...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-08-2009
There is nothing wrong in wondering why but if H i...
Added By why? on 19-08-2009
i can't say i have not considered the possibility ...
Added By Stuart on 19-08-2009
If the bloke isnt likely to abduct the children th...
Added By why? on 19-08-2009
i thought there would be nothing worse if i turn u...
Added By Stuart on 19-08-2009
Ok...fair enough. I wasnt having a go. I just hate...
Added By why? on 19-08-2009
i know. i appreciate what you are saying but im re...
Subject: Seeking divorce under 2 yr separation
Posted By donaldd on 13-08-2009
I have been living with my wife under the same roof for the past 11 months although we are not on talking terms. She has expressed her desire to seek divorce and I want it too. We are planning to seek divorce under 2 yr separ...
Added By hopeofray on 13-08-2009
Yes, it will be counted as separation if you and y...
Subject: Re: Help
Posted By fragola on 11-08-2009
Hi, I'm a newbie to this board looking for clarification. I have the Decree Nisi, which was granted on 30th June,house is jointly owned and is under offer for £265,000, husband has informally agreed that I have majority of ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-08-2009
Ancillary relief is the court procedure for dealin...
Added By hopeofray on 13-08-2009
Good advice from stids already. Welcome onboard. P...
Subject: Cohabitating before financial settlement?
Posted By partlr on 11-08-2009
Hi. Pls. can someone tell me if I can start cohabitating with my np before the financial settlement is finalised. The proceedings started only approx 2 weeks back. I don’t know how long the settlement will take. What is the...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-08-2009
Is it actually going to make any difference? Despi...
Added By hopeofray on 13-08-2009
As stids said, if you expect spousal maintenance, ...
Subject: Ex not paying maintenance
Posted By doytnil on 10-08-2009
My ex has not been paying maintenance for the past 2 months. We have a 6 yr old and it is very hard for me to manage all the expenses on my own. I work only part time because I need to take care of my daughter as well. The co...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-08-2009
When child maintenance is in a court order you can...
Added By doytnil on 13-08-2009
Ok. Thanks a lot for the helpful response.
Subject: Son seperation
Posted By Jyellowhat on 08-08-2009
How do i help my boy? He has recently been chucked out by his partner of 5 yrs. He,s so low at the moment. I just thank god for his little girl who i,m sure will help see him through it. His ex partner is already seeing someb...
Added By Joyce. on 08-08-2009
Hi there,
I know it must be hard, and feel ...
Added By EnglishRose on 10-08-2009
Poor him. Given so very many women manage successf...
Added By hopeofray on 10-08-2009
Hi. Sorry to hear that your son is going through s...
Added By Jyellowhat on 11-08-2009
Hi thenks for replies. My son is now at angry stag...
Subject: I think stbx is trying to use me
Posted By presterter on 07-08-2009
Mt stbx has acted like a jerk for the most part of the d process and I have still found myself longing for him. I know I am stupid and I hate myself for it.
Yesterday, he called me up and asked me if I want to...
Added By Bon431 on 07-08-2009
Hi there - Please stop being so hard on yourself!!...
Added By Kat007 on 07-08-2009
Hi and welcome,
My ex does the same...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
sounds to me like he knows you still have feelings...
Added By hopeofray on 10-08-2009
Hi. You are on the right track so please pat yours...
Added By smarties19 on 25-08-2009
you don't say if he has another relationship on th...
Subject: How do I cope?
Posted By norhut on 06-08-2009
I am in the middle of the divorce process. My husband and I decided to divorce 8 months back. No third person is involved but my ex seems to be doing so well and I am on an emotional rollercoaster ride. Much to my own disappo...
Added By Suvla1915 on 06-08-2009
The first thing you have to realise is that it's n...
Added By Bon431 on 07-08-2009
Hi there - I'm so sorry this is happening to you. ...
Added By hopeofray on 10-08-2009
Hi. Good advice from Suvla and Bon already. Please...
Added By Stillcomingtoterms on 11-09-2009
I feel exactly the same. My husband left me 6 week...
Subject: sun_rise
Posted By sun_rise on 06-08-2009
So it is confirmed now that I will indeed be getting the inheritance. Do I need to tell ex about it? We did not opt for a clean break but I pay her regular maintenance.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 06-08-2009
Was there a court order either consent or imposed ...
Added By Kat007 on 06-08-2009
Isn't this like a lottery win that if someone has ...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
i dont know the answer but personally i find anyon...
Subject: Imprisonment etc
Posted By mari09 on 04-08-2009
Hi. The contact order threatens imprisonment and other aggressive stuff how quickly do the court order this punishment to parents? It says for breach of order but is missing a contact really an enforcment issue?
Added By Stuart on 04-08-2009
Depends on the breach and how many times.
<...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-08-2009
All contact orders issued after 8 December 2008 ha...
Added By mari09 on 04-08-2009
We have a contact order. What is DV prevention pr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-08-2009
When allegations of domestic violence have been in...
Added By Captain Oates on 07-08-2009
'a programme of individual and group work to chall...
Subject: mediation v court
Posted By mari09 on 02-08-2009
Hi
When I received the letter from my ex-partner solicitor's there was no mention of mediation. Who should suggest this? Is it compulsory prior to a court application? He is after more contact having had an...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-08-2009
Either party can suggest mediation but it isn't co...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-08-2009
YOu can talk to him and reach agreement. That is w...
Added By hopeofray on 04-08-2009
Hi. Good advice already. If you feel that mediatio...
Added By mari09 on 04-08-2009
Should have given more detail we are quite a way d...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-08-2009
Mediation can only really work when both parties c...
Added By mari09 on 04-08-2009
Thank you, although we are a long way down the tra...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 04-08-2009
You could suggest either mediation or collaborativ...
Subject: christmas
Posted By why? on 02-08-2009
hi. me again. becoming a habit. all seems to come at once.
as some of you know i have had problems with contact. h refusing to see children, to cancelling at extremely short notice and not turning up, including special...
Added By BFS on 02-08-2009
Is it not just a wee bit possible that you are put...
Added By why? on 02-08-2009
hi bfs.
i know from experience how my daugh...
Added By Teadrinker on 03-08-2009
I think the main thing is that the children are sp...
Added By EnglishRose on 03-08-2009
I am afraid I had the same view as BFS. My childr...
Added By Bon431 on 03-08-2009
Hi why - In my opinion, the important thing for ch...
Added By why? on 03-08-2009
thanks bon.
i do actually 'accept' the way ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 03-08-2009
I agree with Bon. You can't make your husband ch...
Added By why? on 03-08-2009
no chance the court would agree to split the day i...
Added By hopeofray on 04-08-2009
Hi why. There seems to be little you can do about ...
Added By BFS on 04-08-2009
Actually Why, you are guessing, at least to some d...
Added By why? on 04-08-2009
hi bfs.
the difference with you however is ...
Added By Kat007 on 04-08-2009
We split Xmas day the first year he left and it wa...
Added By BFS on 05-08-2009
Actually, like him I had an ex offering me things ...
Added By why? on 06-08-2009
hi bfs. i think the age of the children IS relevan...
Added By BFS on 07-08-2009
I don't see any of what you said as relevant to wh...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
i realise there is some selfishness in me wanting ...
Added By skovby1 on 08-08-2009
I am a pwc and actually am quite happy for my son ...
Subject: What will happen to my inheritance now?
Posted By sun_rise on 31-07-2009
My w and I divorced 7 yrs back. I am entitled to receive an inheritance in the near future due to some changed circumstances. I want to know if will my wife have any claim to this inheritance?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-07-2009
If you don't have a court order finalizing the fin...
Added By EnglishRose on 01-08-2009
As s says it depends if you got a final court orde...
Subject: Its taking an age!
Posted By juggler on 31-07-2009
Just wanted to post as I've had a strange letter this morning, don't know what to make of it.
To re-cap, the ex moved a new girlfriend into his house (well, his mother's house) in November last year. They had b...
Added By Kat007 on 31-07-2009
surely this is something your sol could sort out f...
Added By Bon431 on 03-08-2009
Hi juggler - What a horrible time for you and just...
Added By juggler on 03-08-2009
Unfortunately, the ex has to sign for the document...
Added By hopeofray on 04-08-2009
Hi. Kat is right, I think you need to involve your...
Subject: some advice
Posted By juan on 31-07-2009
I am planning on divorcing my wife becasue she walked out on me after having a lesbian affair.
I am worried that im gonna lose my flat and car if we have to split the money, both of which i obviously need(my car is an...
Added By Kat007 on 31-07-2009
Ok depends on the length of the marriage if short ...
Added By juan on 03-08-2009
ok, well we've been married for 8 years and dont h...
Added By juan on 03-08-2009
also, we both have small pesions-probably about th...
Added By Kat007 on 05-08-2009
Hi Juan,
Are both your names on the...
Subject: How to convice him for counselling?
Posted By kabbyter on 31-07-2009
I have suggested counselling to my husband several times but he thinks that counsellers are bu****. Our marriage has been rocky for so long and I don’t see any hope because we are unable to sort out things. He is being so d...
Added By evr on 31-07-2009
You can go to counselling on your own, even relati...
Added By Bon431 on 03-08-2009
Hi there - As evr suggests, you can go to counseli...
Subject: A Father giving up contact
Posted By Teadrinker on 31-07-2009
I feel so angry and then confused about this. What do you all think? I know Simes has sometimes talked here of men who give up trying to see their children because they are prevented and the years of problems, court cases and...
Added By hopeofray on 31-07-2009
Hi TD. In my opinion, your perspective makes a lot...
Added By evr on 31-07-2009
It sounds as though nobody in this situation is tr...
Added By Simes 2p on 31-07-2009
TD, happened to pop back by chance.
...
Added By Kat007 on 31-07-2009
actually simes I understood after two read through...
Added By BFS on 31-07-2009
I agree with evr, yet totally understand where Sim...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-08-2009
Thanks everyone for replying. I’m using this as ...
Added By why? on 01-08-2009
td. i totally agree with you. i have lost a lot of...
Added By Teadrinker on 01-08-2009
Why, I think the school issue was that the dad dec...
Added By Simes 2p on 01-08-2009
TD, you would never understand it unless you were ...
Added By evr on 01-08-2009
Simes, I think not being able to imagine yourself ...
Added By Stuart on 01-08-2009
Simes, I fully understand what you are talking abo...
Added By Simes 2p on 01-08-2009
Stu, I think I would be more upset if my son was s...
Added By BFS on 01-08-2009
I agree Simes. I'm often puzzled and guilted by th...
Added By Stuart on 02-08-2009
When I said "piss off" I meant that my son will vo...
Added By Bon431 on 03-08-2009
Hi TD - It sounds to me like your friend is far to...
Added By tinuviel on 03-08-2009
Long time since i posted here!!
Lik...
Added By Simes 2p on 10-08-2009
Stu, I did think that my comment seemed a bit arse...
Added By Stuart on 10-08-2009
I knew what you meant!!! lol
Subject: Don't know what to do
Posted By twiny2009 on 30-07-2009
I divorced 2 yrs 7 months back. I have a 7 yr old son and a 12 yr old daughter. I met someone almost a year back through one of my friends and though we started off as friends, we have become very close now. He also has two k...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
i think now he has mentioned this its time to talk...
Added By hopeofray on 31-07-2009
I think that it is important that you spend adequa...
Subject: another little question
Posted By why? on 29-07-2009
i am aware people have told me that 'maintenance' does not need to be disclosed for child tax credits. i want to get this clear. does that include spousal maintenance as well as spousal maintenance. and if so, does the 'amoun...
Added By Kat007 on 29-07-2009
Cm and Sm are not included when claiming for Child...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
thanks kat. will follow your advise. i can imagine...
Added By skovby1 on 30-07-2009
"Tax Credit" is just a nice, albeit, confusing nam...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
thank you skovby. i di wonder how on earth they co...
Added By skovby1 on 30-07-2009
Child benefit is not income for tax credit purpose...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
thanks again.
Added By Kat007 on 30-07-2009
I had the maintenance argument with an officer fro...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
must admit though. i didn't find their web site to...
Added By scots caz on 30-07-2009
interest of savings or investments of over £300 n...
Added By why? on 31-07-2009
yes. but their argument would be that their websit...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 31-07-2009
It is highly unlikely anyone will be awarded £2-3...
Added By Kat007 on 05-08-2009
No-one with an income of 2-3million will ever reci...
Added By why? on 06-08-2009
hi kat. its ok. one of the posts further up clarif...
Added By Kat007 on 06-08-2009
So you have been told a different figure than me o...
Added By why? on 07-08-2009
hi kat. yes i have always been told by people £60...
Subject: Can I contest grounds for divorce?
Posted By pollyana1 on 29-07-2009
I have received a divorce notice on the grounds of unreasonable divorce. Even though I want to divorce, I do not agree on the grounds stated by my husband because they are defamatory and accusatory.
Do I need ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
There is very little point in wasting time or mone...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
PS The finances and children are dealt with under ...
Added By hopeofray on 29-07-2009
I agree with stids. You will need to conserve all ...
Added By EnglishRose on 30-07-2009
You can cross petition but there is no point as no...
Subject: What happens to the gifts??
Posted By junglebun on 29-07-2009
Am I entitled to keep the wedding gifts that were given to solely me by my family? What about the gifts that his family gave to me (mostly jewellery for personal use)? Do I get to keep that as well? Thnx.
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
In England & Wales it isn't clear cut, it would de...
Added By junglebun on 30-07-2009
Ok. Thanks for the prompt response. I really would...
Subject: got his questions!
Posted By why? on 29-07-2009
hi
as you know i was curious to know what possible questions ex could have for me. wow. unbelievable and a complete waste of time. i wont bore you with details but lets just say, he knows the answers to all of them and...
Added By Bon431 on 29-07-2009
Hi why - As I expected from your previous post! He...
Added By hopeofray on 29-07-2009
Hi why. I think you have got the crux of the issue...
Added By why? on 29-07-2009
yes folks. thanks. he is also being deliberately c...
Subject: trust & dependability
Posted By why? on 29-07-2009
hello.
i understand that bad behaviour & conduct will only be taken into consideration when there are extreme examples. i have readsome examples of such behaviour.
my case is certainly with great concern...
Added By Stuart on 29-07-2009
I dont think so....
I was always to...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
The Court's powers to award financial relief are n...
Added By why? on 29-07-2009
i have spoken to my solicitor but have told her i ...
Added By EnglishRose on 30-07-2009
As you say it purely goes to the issue of whether ...
Added By why? on 30-07-2009
thanks er. i don't expect a clean break although e...
Subject: Moving on
Posted By Forgotten hero on 28-07-2009
I am in the throws of divorce , some 7 months on from finding my wife was having an affair. Is it too soon to be trying to move on as I still think about the family life I used to have with my two sons and her.
Added By Nicola on 28-07-2009
It's never to soon to move on. However, if it rela...
Added By hopeofray on 29-07-2009
If you want to start dating again, only you can an...
Subject: C78 - Warning attachment to contact order
Posted By Nicola on 28-07-2009
Hi all, I could do with a little advice.
Since 8 Dec 2008, warnings letters are now attached to any new contact orders. I have a contact order pre dating this time and my x is trying to get now one attached. Whilst it...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
Yes, the legal reforms were partly directed agains...
Added By Nicola on 29-07-2009
Thanks so much for clarifying that. I was hoping t...
Added By Stuart on 29-07-2009
STIDW, are you saying that the courts are now able...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 29-07-2009
Stuart, it came about under the Child Adoption Act...
Subject: Looking for couples to interview
Posted By Bistle on 28-07-2009
Do you know any couples who have divorced, only to remarry at a later point?
I am a freelance journalist looking for a couple to interview for a feature story in Good Housekeeping magazine. They would need to ...
Subject: Do I have a right on FH?
Posted By thanlater on 28-07-2009
Hi. I want to keep the FH and don’t know how to tell this to ex. He has been paying the mortgage payments because I am not working and taking care of the kids. I know I am being stupid by thinking about the fairness aspect ...
Added By Stuart on 28-07-2009
Can you afford to take on the mortgage?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 28-07-2009
As Stuart says it doesn't matter whose name the fo...
Subject: Why is it always stormy when kids return home
Posted By Kat007 on 27-07-2009
Son has again returned from the ex, albeit should have been with me for the weekend but gave it up so they could do something ex had organised. Compromise is easy when he lets it happen. So Son gave me a message dad wants thi...
Added By Bon431 on 28-07-2009
Hi kat - You rant away! Well done for handling suc...
Added By Kat007 on 29-07-2009
Hi Bon,
Yes hate her with a passion...
Added By Bon431 on 29-07-2009
Well done kat! You keep purging that hate and ange...
Added By Kat007 on 29-07-2009
Cheers Bon,
I do think I can keep t...
Added By hopeofray on 29-07-2009
Great advice from Bon already. Sorry to hear that ...
Subject: STBX?
Posted By MedSec on 25-07-2009
Hi there, I'm a newbie to the board - technically not divorced any more as I re-married 12 months ago, but still do experience difficulties with hubby's ex-wife and step children, and all the associated dramas that this pulls...
Added By why? on 25-07-2009
stbx stands for 'soon to be ex'.
Added By MedSec on 25-07-2009
Thanks Why.....thanks for your response. :o)
Added By Bon431 on 27-07-2009
Hi there and welcome! Yes, there is a bit of jargo...
Added By hopeofray on 27-07-2009
Hi there and welcome onboard. We do tend to use a ...
Subject: I want to close joint back accounts
Posted By myrarj on 25-07-2009
My stbx and I have 3 joint bank accounts. We are still living together but I want to close these accounts asap. How easy is it to get it done? Will they inform him if I do? Do I need his signatures somewhere too? How soon do...
Added By evr on 25-07-2009
you can't close joint bank accounts on your own, y...
Added By hopeofray on 27-07-2009
evr is bang on about the issue. Since it is a 'joi...
Subject: Men with Two heads LOL
Posted By Kat007 on 24-07-2009
So does this happen?
It appears so, as you know my ex H and I for months after he left continued sleeping with each other (not the best move). And as you know over the last 8 months he has practically begged me...
Added By Suvla1915 on 24-07-2009
"Anyone experienced this sort of thing?"
Added By Bon431 on 25-07-2009
Hi kat - Yep, my x was the same! We split because ...
Added By Kat007 on 25-07-2009
Sulva,
In your case yes it is thank...
Added By Suvla1915 on 25-07-2009
My former step father in law was the same.
...
Added By Jellylegs on 25-07-2009
Great story Suvla - really made me chuckle!
...
Added By why? on 25-07-2009
no never had this happen to me. however. i remembe...
Added By Kat007 on 25-07-2009
Well here's a thing was talking to a friend today ...
Added By Kat007 on 27-07-2009
Or on the other hand they are just Greedy.
Added By Bon431 on 27-07-2009
Well, well, all the stories. It made me laugh (in ...
Added By hopeofray on 27-07-2009
Hi Kat. How are you doing? Your ex seems to have m...
Added By Kat007 on 27-07-2009
That's what I thought, and yes so many people here...
Added By Rover on 31-07-2009
Hi Katt - long time hun and I hope you're keeping ...
Added By Kat007 on 02-08-2009
Rover,
How fantastic to hear from y...
Subject: whats your view.
Posted By why? on 24-07-2009
hello.
as many of you know. h andi separated 7 months ago now. he has had 3 girlfriends in this time. one of these girlfriends he claimed would be moving in with him then a week or two later it ended. he then met someo...
Added By Bon431 on 24-07-2009
Hi why? - I really feel for you! Well done for bit...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-07-2009
I do not entirely agree with Bon as far as the 2 y...
Added By why? on 24-07-2009
thank you both. bon, i am relieved to hear stidw v...
Added By Kat007 on 24-07-2009
Ok WHY,
Yes I agree with not wantin...
Added By EnglishRose on 24-07-2009
It's too long for the 2 year old. We left a 1 and ...
Added By why? on 24-07-2009
thank you er. must admit, i really do enjoy my bre...
Added By Stuart on 26-07-2009
Hi, Ive not posted any responses on these boards f...
Added By why? on 26-07-2009
hi stuart.
thank you for your comments. i a...
Added By why? on 26-07-2009
one more point id like to make which i think is va...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 26-07-2009
Arguments about poor parenting rarely get anywhere...
Added By Joyce. on 26-07-2009
Children are all little individuals, with their ow...
Added By why? on 26-07-2009
yes. my little girl sleeps overnight at her dads n...
Added By Stuart on 27-07-2009
Oh dear....Joyce the poisonous snake has raised he...
Added By Stuart on 27-07-2009
Sorry WHY....I meant to respond before I finally s...
Added By why? on 27-07-2009
nooooooooo! stuart. she has only just turned 2 and...
Added By Bon431 on 27-07-2009
Hi why - The latest discussion leaves me wondering...
Added By why? on 27-07-2009
hi bon.
i do have to disagree with you. i d...
Added By hopeofray on 27-07-2009
Hi why. Good pointers from everyone so I don't hav...
Added By Stuart on 27-07-2009
I would just ask myself what the likely outcome wo...
Added By Stuart on 27-07-2009
I would just ask myself what the likely outcome wo...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-07-2009
It has nothing to do with parenting skills, it is ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 27-07-2009
"I would just ask myself what the likely outcome w...
Added By why? on 27-07-2009
yes. personally speaking. forget the parenting ski...
Added By BFS on 31-07-2009
37 months J. Why don't you think she could cope wi...
Added By why? on 31-07-2009
hi bfs. not at all. i wont be having the same argu...
Subject: Contested divorce?
Posted By javacoffee on 24-07-2009
I will be filing for a divorce. I know that wife will contest it. What are my options if she contests it? Can I still go ahead and get a divorce albeit a court battle? Or do I have to wait for 5 years after separation? We hav...
Added By Kat007 on 24-07-2009
I assume that she doesn't want a divorce then?
Added By Bon431 on 24-07-2009
Hi there - My x tried to do the same. From the lit...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-07-2009
Although some people say they will defend a divor...
Added By Suvla1915 on 24-07-2009
If she hasn't really been unreasonable it would be...
Subject: What can I do?
Posted By christian on 23-07-2009
Can't find my old thread, but basicly, was told to leave by my wife after 12 yrs marriage. Got solicitor, agreed to mediation. Agreed to split house when my child was 18, unless she co-habited or married.
After...
Added By Kat007 on 24-07-2009
Your solicitor is wrong here, if you want to do so...
Added By Bon431 on 24-07-2009
Hi Christian - I'm sorry this is happening to you....
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-07-2009
Sadly I think your solicitor is correct, there isn...
Added By Christian on 25-07-2009
Thanks for replys. The other thing that worries m...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 25-07-2009
This is a drawback with these types of arrangement...
Subject: How do courts handle this?
Posted By derek on 23-07-2009
My wife is not working at the moment. We have been talking about divorce for quite sometime now. She was working earlier and left it a year back because her workplace shifted. Then she never got back to working again. Now I ...
Added By Kat007 on 23-07-2009
The courts can suggest she find a job but no-one c...
Added By hopeofray on 23-07-2009
Hi Derek. Kat is right. The courts cannot force an...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 23-07-2009
Others are spot on, a court cannot force someone t...
Added By Bon431 on 23-07-2009
Hi Derek - I'm wondering what your wife's feelings...
Added By derek on 24-07-2009
Hi and thanks to everyone. Bon- my wife has been a...
Added By Kat007 on 24-07-2009
if you can speak with your wife first about the fi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 24-07-2009
Actually I think it is a good idea to find a lawye...
Subject: Why won't she leave me alone?
Posted By Suvla1915 on 23-07-2009
After weeks of waiting for my money, finally got an email from my exhusband (as of Friday) Except it wasn't from him, it was "her" again. I read the first few lines, realised it was from her and pressed delete so I don't kno...
Added By skovby1 on 23-07-2009
Perhaps life isn't exciting enough for her/him now...
Added By OnMyOwn on 23-07-2009
Suvla19415, I feel your pain and anger as I have b...
Added By Bon431 on 23-07-2009
Hi sulva - Well done you for not rising to her bai...
Added By Kat007 on 23-07-2009
Flippin hell,
Seriously has that wo...
Added By hopeofray on 23-07-2009
Good advice from everyone already. Please try to r...
Added By evr on 23-07-2009
Its quite amazing how many adulterers really belie...
Added By Suvla1915 on 24-07-2009
Thanks for comments. No, didn't sound very calm di...
Added By MedSec on 25-07-2009
I've experienced this kind of intrusion too. My h...
Added By Suvla1915 on 26-07-2009
Guilt and the knowledge that she brought it on her...
Added By Joyce. on 26-07-2009
It sounds as though they feel you're harassing the...
Added By Suvla1915 on 26-07-2009
Oh go away Joyce have you been waiting in the wing...
Added By Suvla1915 on 26-07-2009
And yes I did ask my husband why he had left me.
Added By Suvla1915 on 26-07-2009
Glee?? What are you talking about??
Added By Stuart on 27-07-2009
Suvla....
Ignore Joyce....she is ju...
Added By Owl1 on 27-07-2009
Suvla, ignore Joyce, you don't have to justify yo...
Added By Stuart on 27-07-2009
Now, I wasnt going to post anymore but I feel comp...
Added By evr on 27-07-2009
Hi Suvla
I can see you have become very ups...
Added By Joyce. on 27-07-2009
Suvla - I'm genuinely surprised, and extremely sor...
Added By skovby1 on 28-07-2009
Suvla - please rest assured that you are not haras...
Added By Joyce. on 28-07-2009
> Am I harrassing my clients when I ask them to pa...
Added By evr on 28-07-2009
'Now why don't people just play nice... acceptance...
Added By Owl1 on 29-07-2009
Joyce your analogies don't work. This is not someo...
Added By Stuart on 29-07-2009
Coo....I can smell something awful here.....more B...
Added By Joyce. on 29-07-2009
OK, I read the title of the thread, and then I fli...
Added By evr on 29-07-2009
Stuart wasn't talking about the pregnant mother of...
Added By Joyce. on 29-07-2009
ahhh, I see.. I am getting confused given Stuart'...
Added By Stuart on 30-07-2009
Joyce you really are a stupid creature arent you?<...
Added By Stuart on 30-07-2009
I meant to comment on this fantastic line...
...
Added By skovby1 on 30-07-2009
Joyce - not going into "combative mode" - just wis...
Added By evr on 30-07-2009
Hyperbole rules ok!
Numerous wives ...
Added By Owl1 on 30-07-2009
"Had I been her H's NP, I probably would have felt...
Added By Stuart on 30-07-2009
Im sorry to say that Joyce is nothing more than a ...
Added By Joyce. on 30-07-2009
Owl - is that a Freudian slip in your last line - ...
Added By Stuart on 30-07-2009
Sanctamonious shit as usual Joyce.....
Added By Owl1 on 30-07-2009
No freudian slip Joyce, its just acknowledging tha...
Added By evr on 30-07-2009
'I have to say, I do think Suvla's email to her ex...
Added By Joyce. on 30-07-2009
Owl and Evr - My guess is that they split up about...
Added By Suvla1915 on 30-07-2009
Two years ago.
We were still togeth...
Added By evr on 30-07-2009
I don't generally go in for your habit of reading ...
Added By evr on 30-07-2009
I'm very pleased to see you back suvla. Please do...
Added By Stuart on 31-07-2009
Hey Mrs PhD.....
Im reading between...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
Suvla
Here's your account of the ocassion y...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
ahh.. reeading that last once again, perhaps you r...
Added By Suvla1915 on 31-07-2009
You are really showing your spiteful side Joyce, w...
Added By Suvla1915 on 31-07-2009
No need to reply, but I do find it very disturbing...
Added By Stuart on 31-07-2009
Suvla...
You dont have to justify y...
Added By Owl1 on 31-07-2009
Hi Suvla, good to see you back.
Joy...
Added By Stuart on 31-07-2009
Actually Owl I think you might be onto something t...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
Suvla - nothing sinister at alll.... I am just ble...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
Owl, that's rich calling me spiteful... glad you ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 31-07-2009
Then perhaps you can perfectly recall things more ...
Added By Owl1 on 31-07-2009
Joyce, I don't think Suvla's posts that you have r...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
Owl,
As to Suvla's behaviour - well for onc...
Added By Stuart on 31-07-2009
Err.....Joycie.....you really have lost the plot.....
Added By evr on 31-07-2009
joyce, your post was polite?? What a very odd ide...
Added By Suvla1915 on 31-07-2009
You do not stop do you?
What is wrong with...
Added By Owl1 on 31-07-2009
Joyce I suspect Suvla if she was paid her money is...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
Suvla
It is just my take on things, and you...
Added By evr on 31-07-2009
No joyce, you are identifying with a couple who ar...
Added By Joyce. on 31-07-2009
I dont' know Suvla's ex or his np, and I have no i...
Added By evr on 31-07-2009
Yes, all you know is what suvla has told you, whic...
Added By Owl1 on 01-08-2009
"But I doubt your ex agrees. I suspect he thinks y...
Added By Owl1 on 01-08-2009
Oops Joyce just noticed my freudian slip.
...
Added By Suvla1915 on 01-08-2009
Not quite sure what a barnpot (???) is but I do th...
Added By Stuart on 01-08-2009
Joyce, when did I say Suvla should be ashamed of h...
Added By Stuart on 01-08-2009
Can just ask why we are all answering Joyce?
...
Added By evr on 01-08-2009
I'm not particularly interested in talking to joyc...
Added By Joyce. on 01-08-2009
Owl... your post is exactly what I mean about you ...
Added By Suvla1915 on 01-08-2009
No he hasn't been actually...
Stop ...
Added By evr on 01-08-2009
Its not a credit card bill, but it is a bill and s...
Added By Owl1 on 02-08-2009
Joyce, your perfect recall is not working very wel...
Added By evr on 02-08-2009
"Love doesn't die a natural death. Love has to be ...
Added By Stuart on 02-08-2009
I still think that the whole concept of Joyce havi...
Added By Joyce. on 07-08-2009
Evr - I wasn't familiar with your quote so I googl...
Added By Joyce. on 07-08-2009
Owl - I presume you come from a fairly priviledged...
Added By evr on 07-08-2009
I wasn't claiming anything for the quote joyce. I...
Added By Joyce. on 07-08-2009
It was no trouble. Further, if you set great stoc...
Added By evr on 07-08-2009
This is all getting very boring joyce. What a ver...
Added By Suvla1915 on 08-08-2009
Perhaps you misunderstand Joyce. The comments I pu...
Added By Suvla1915 on 08-08-2009
"now that i've gone back down again, its worse tha...
Added By Owl1 on 08-08-2009
Joyce, you make many wrong presumptions. I am not ...
Added By Owl1 on 08-08-2009
My kids don't ask for or expect anything either bu...
Added By Owl1 on 08-08-2009
Oh and btw Joyce I take it you won't be taking up ...
Added By Joyce. on 08-08-2009
Owl - it's nice to know your mother valued your ed...
Added By Stuart on 10-08-2009
Did it take you 5 frigging days to find the quote ...
Added By Joyce. on 11-08-2009
I was quite enjoying the thread. I thought the hi...
Added By Owl1 on 11-08-2009
Joyce your postings don't indicate you are a remot...
Added By Owl1 on 12-08-2009
Joyce I don't claim any insight of what your husba...
Added By Joyce. on 13-08-2009
>Good to hear your d will benefit from a Trust fun...
Added By Owl1 on 14-08-2009
So your husband isn't a beneficiary of the Trust J...
Added By Joyce. on 14-08-2009
It's not odd at all that they set up the trust - m...
Added By Joyce. on 15-08-2009
ok... I couldn't quite figure out why this was bu...
Added By Jooles on 16-08-2009
lowest yet joyce
Subject: Tax credits question
Posted By shrimp07 on 22-07-2009
Hi. Does anyone know what kind of tax credits I can claim after divorce? I have a 4 yr old and spouse does not want custody. Thanks. And at what stage can I claim these credits? If I separate can I start claiming them immedia...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 22-07-2009
You can claim tax credits as soon as you separate ...
Added By shrimp07 on 23-07-2009
Thnx for the reply and sending the link. I will ge...
Added By hopeofray on 23-07-2009
Hi shrimp. Welcome aboard. You can count on stids ...
Subject: Have to tell my teenage daughter
Posted By muntur on 21-07-2009
My husband and I are divorcing. we have a 15 yr old daughter. She already knew things were rough but I don’t know how to break the news of divorce to her. I told my husband that we should do it together but I am shocked tha...
Added By Bon431 on 21-07-2009
Hi there - I'm really sorry this is happening. In ...
Added By Kat007 on 22-07-2009
Oh sweetie, this is horrible, we told our kids tog...
Added By Suvla1915 on 23-07-2009
It is really important that he is there too. It m...
Added By hopeofray on 23-07-2009
Talking to teenagers can be tricky because their e...
Added By Bon431 on 24-07-2009
Hi again - I just wanted to say I hope all goes we...
Added By why? on 26-07-2009
hi. i hadhoped that we would tell our children tog...
Subject: Please help!
Posted By fluffhead on 19-07-2009
Married for 22 years - ex walked out unexpectedly 18 months ago after admitting to seeing somebody else. Have now taken on all bills apart from mortgage which he still pays. A few weeks ago I said I would like the garage key ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 20-07-2009
Without details of the value of assets including p...
Added By Bon431 on 20-07-2009
Hi there - I am really sorry this is happening to ...
Added By fluffhead on 20-07-2009
Hi and thanks for the advice. As far as assets are...
Added By hopeofray on 21-07-2009
Hi. Your situation does seem very tough but please...
Subject: A Little Advice Please :-(
Posted By KatAttack on 18-07-2009
To cut a long story short... Got married at 16, husband was exceptionally abusive, left after 7 months and I have never seen him since. I am now 35, in a relationship with wonderful man and we have decided that we want to ge...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-07-2009
The first thing is to apply to the Principal Regi...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 19-07-2009
PS Court officials can help and would check your f...
Subject: cafcass report
Posted By Captain Oates on 18-07-2009
I got the report this week. It was very short and looked like they just type a different name at the top and send 10 out a day.
It said contact to be reduced to every other weekend and holidays to be shared 50:...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 18-07-2009
It's important to remember the judge will normally...
Added By Captain Oates on 19-07-2009
Thanks stidw, you have given me a couple of ideas ...
Added By Kat007 on 22-07-2009
Hi CO,
Seems like stids has given s...
Subject: Wife is abusing me
Posted By sturreggie on 17-07-2009
I have been living in a abusive relationship ever since my marriage. She is not physically abusive but verbally and emotionally, she can be very hurtful. I did not know this side of her when we got married. I mean, she was al...
Added By Bon431 on 17-07-2009
Hi there - I am so sorry this is happening to you....
Added By Captain Oates on 20-07-2009
I had something similar. When we went through this...
Added By Captain Oates on 20-07-2009
The matter should then be returned to and addresse...
Added By Captain Oates on 20-07-2009
Also, sorry to rain on Bon's parade, but I did the...
Added By hopeofray on 21-07-2009
Hi. Sorry to hear about your situation and underst...
Subject: Feeling confused
Posted By cherrybe@live.com on 17-07-2009
My wife and I separated 8 months ago. We parted mutually even though she was more strong-minded than I was. I wasn’t sure about separation or divorce but she seemed very sure about separation and also divorce. She said we c...
Added By cherrybe@live.com on 17-07-2009
I forgot to add that she thought we should separat...
Added By harry888 on 17-07-2009
Counselling - way to go.
Added By Bon431 on 17-07-2009
Hi there and welcome! It sounds like after 8 month...
Added By hopeofray on 21-07-2009
Great advice from Bon already! It is important to ...
Subject: Consent order?
Posted By ermyth on 16-07-2009
Hi. I want to divorce my husband but sure about the process or terminology. We do not have children. If I divorce, do I need a consent order? Or is it just required when you have children? When do you need it?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-07-2009
In England & Wales the divorce and the 'ancillary'...
Added By hopeofray on 16-07-2009
Hi and welcome aboard. Great advice from stids! Ho...
Subject: Filing Docs
Posted By harry888 on 16-07-2009
I have received an order from the High Court regarding my children. EX Parte. The divorce took place not in UK. It is the 1st document to come out of the UK Law Courts. Ex wife has a new UK lawyer. The issue is that I w...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-07-2009
If they are relevant documents should be filed wit...
Added By harry888 on 17-07-2009
If CACFASS become involved do they see the court r...
Added By harry888 on 17-07-2009
Sorry one more question.
Is it ju...
Subject: Quickie divorce?
Posted By qeaza on 15-07-2009
Thinking about a quickie divorce. How easy is it? Been married for a little less than 2 yrs. No kids. Live in a rented house. Has anyone here done it before?
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-07-2009
There is only one divorce procedure and there is...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 15-07-2009
Must be psychic - "a quickie divorce is a fallacy...
Added By Daniel Plata on 31-10-2009
Online divorce companies claim that they are quick...
Added By Daniel Plata on 31-10-2009
they are just cheaters so save your money
Subject: Telling my parents this weekend
Posted By onlook on 15-07-2009
I will be telling my parents about my divorce this weekend. I have been delaying it for the past 3 weeks. They have no idea how rough things have been on me so I think they will be in a state of shock. My wife has been cheati...
Added By hopeofray on 16-07-2009
Hi. It can be tough to address this issue with you...
Added By Bon431 on 16-07-2009
Hi there - I'm thinking about you and your parents...
Subject: Some advice please
Posted By Stuart on 14-07-2009
Hi,
Just looking for some advice.
My son will be 12 in October and over the past few months has increasingly expressed a desire to live with me. He is very unhappy with his mum who is pregnant an...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 14-07-2009
The wishes and feelings of a 12 year old carry gre...
Added By Stuart on 15-07-2009
Hi,
Thanks for replying.
Added By Suspicious Minds on 16-07-2009
Sorry to be brutally honest, but your lad is a big...
Added By Simes 2p on 16-07-2009
Ouch.
Stu, if I was able to chat to...
Added By Bon431 on 16-07-2009
Hi Stu - As you know, this is a tough one! In my o...
Added By Stuart on 16-07-2009
Thanks for all of your comments...
...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 16-07-2009
Stuart, just two points.
"What I th...
Added By Stuart on 17-07-2009
Valid points STIDW - as usual!!!
I ...
Added By Bon431 on 17-07-2009
Hi again - I don't think you should let it go, so ...
Added By Owl1 on 18-07-2009
STIDW I agree with the points you raise above.
Subject: What can I do?
Posted By shortnik on 13-07-2009
I had been living with my partner for the past 9 yrs. not married but we have a 4 yr old son. Now he wants to end it. I cannot complain because we both never wanted to get married. But I didn’t think that he would want to e...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 13-07-2009
Oh dear, unfortunately there are many people optin...
Added By shortnik on 15-07-2009
Thanks for the detailed reply. Much appreciated. I...
Subject: court order
Posted By julie21 on 12-07-2009
hi
its been a while since i visited here. I am now happily married again.
so just for those of you who think it wont ever happen it can.
I have a question re court orders.
at my divorce proceedin...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
The problem with Meshers is often the person livin...
Added By Jellylegs on 13-07-2009
I agree with STIDS - seek proper legal advice on t...
Subject: contact
Posted By why? on 11-07-2009
what can i do? i believe courts can not enforce contact between a father and his children. h has constantly let me down at the last minute, often without reason or with poor excuses. because i believe in children maintaining ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 11-07-2009
You can apply for a contact order to regulate cont...
Added By why? on 11-07-2009
his reasons or usually social. there are business ...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
I'm not sure why you can't have friends around whe...
Added By why? on 12-07-2009
i understand what you say. of course i can have fr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
A contact order can more or less have in it whatev...
Added By why? on 12-07-2009
yes. contact is the right of children? is it thoug...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
In determining contact the court must give regard ...
Added By why? on 12-07-2009
thank you. i dont want to control his contact. the...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
"i just dont want him controlling my contact. ie: ...
Added By why? on 12-07-2009
that is what i was afraid of. i had hoped i could ...
Added By Bon431 on 13-07-2009
Hi why? - It sounds like your x is doing all he ca...
Added By why? on 13-07-2009
hi bon. thank you.
until this week i have n...
Subject: I'm off
Posted By Kat007 on 11-07-2009
For a well deserved holiday, a week in the sun to regroup. My middle one has had her prom recently and look absolutely gorgeous I feel this day signals the start of growing up for her and she was scared luckily we have talked...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 12-07-2009
Bon voyage!
Added By skovby1 on 12-07-2009
Have as lovely holiday - get those batteres rechar...
Added By Suvla1915 on 12-07-2009
Have fun!
Added By Leela on 12-07-2009
Hope you have a lovely time. You deserve it!x
Added By hopeofray on 13-07-2009
It is a well deserved break indeed! Hope you have ...
Added By Kat007 on 20-07-2009
Had a wonderful time thanks guy's, was hot hot hot...
Subject: Need advice
Posted By dreamtab on 10-07-2009
I divorced 3 yrs back. I have a 7 yr old son who lives with me. My np and I want to start living together. Is it ok for a child to live in this kind of an arrangement? Can anyone share whether it has been good or bad for them...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 10-07-2009
You need to be aware just because you love your n...
Added By hopeofray on 13-07-2009
Good advice from stids already. There is a lot of ...
Subject: Big thankyou
Posted By Happyheart on 08-07-2009
Just wanted to drop a line to say thanks to those who posted with advice to a query I had a few weeks back concerning fears I had of my ex abducting our children to a non-hague convention country. By way of update I self repr...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-07-2009
Glad to hear it worked out and you found the site...
Added By hopeofray on 10-07-2009
Hi Happyheart. It is good to hear that all went we...
Subject: Should I change sols?
Posted By lukechup on 08-07-2009
Hi. I have been seeing my sol for the past 4 months now and I still don’t feel comfortable with her. Should I just a little longer and see how it goes or should I change? Does it usually take long to feel comfortable around...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-07-2009
It really depends on why you don't feel comfortabl...
Added By hopeofray on 10-07-2009
Hi. I think it is important to consider the facts....
Subject: Advice please
Posted By skycloud1 on 08-07-2009
I have been separated from my husband for the past 7 yrs. I want to divorce now because I want to be with my np. I want to serve divorce petition but I want to protect my assets beforehand. Anything I can do to do that? Any a...
Added By sometimesitdoesn'twork on 09-07-2009
I assume there are no longer a joint bank account...
Added By hopeofray on 10-07-2009
Hi. Stids has given great advice already. All the ...
Subject: Settlement
Posted By judy on 07-07-2009
Married for 29 years & I feel this is the end of the road for us.
Will savings, property etc be shared equally?
Would appreciate any advice from someone who has been married the same length of time and has come ...
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