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Subject: Oh he's really good
Posted By Kat007 on 20-12-2009
So having had rather a lot of snow lke many parts of this fair land of ours, we went out to play on friday morning good fun dump the child for being cheeky and hitting me on the head with a snow ball, he was hiding behind a car and I got ambushed LOL we had a fantastic time.
Then S went to his dads until boxing day and all was quiet :( I started to get things sorted in doors for the kids return housework etc. Then I was meeting a friend for some pub therapy at lunch time. I get a text can I come back and get something out the shed, No darling everything is packed up ready to move, thanks alot was the reply, asked him not to be so rude, then another text unpack it then, No i said not unpacking boxes and just going out.
So I get in my car and just as I am pulling off Ex turns up with S, sits in the car he looks at me and shakes his head in disgust. Why because then he can say to S sorry but obviously your not that important to Mum that she would wait and let you unpack stuff etc etc. I could hear him saying it. So I expect now that he will produce this as evidence in court when we go, that Mum isn't thinking of S's wishes and fellings. What an idiot to do that to our child complete PAS so clear what he does.
Anyway rant over, concentrate on when the kids get home and enjoy their 2nd xmas day with them.
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Added By juggler on 20-12-2009
It must be the time of year.....
After court not even 10 days ago when the ex was given a severe b0ll0cking for changing his story (i.e lying) half way through the morning, he was told in no uncertain terms what the court order means and what he should not do.
1) Not to let his fiancee have ANY contact with the boys.
2) To drop off and pick them up on time,
3) Stop hassling my parents (!) with phone calls.
Since court he has
1) Had his fiancee drive to his house during contact time, leave the boys playing darts (oh no, not dangerous at all) and speak to fiancee for ages on the path where they both waved to the boys through the window.
2) Just phoned to say he will be 40+ minutes late today dropping them back (he lives 4 miles away and no, there is no snow).
3) Has phoned Dad this morning!
He doesn't quite get it, does he?
Added By Kat007 on 22-12-2009
Juggler so sorry this is still happening to you and the kids and your Dad.
Makes you wonder doesn't it were the person went the kind loving supportive and caring bedfellow we fell in love with. Oh they went to someone else and turned into a stranger. I do still miss mine on occassion but I really don't like the person he has become at all. Such a shame, I actually feel quite sorry for him because he has ended up with hardly any friends except her long time friends and two members of his family are still talking to him. I don't bad mouth him to the rest but they are just so angry and shocked at the person he has become and how he treats people that they don't want anything to do with him.
Does your dad have an answer machine he could just wait and listen to see who is ringing before he picks up the phone or caller ID is a good thing, because I had a call from the Ex's GF wasn't pleasant and unfortunately didn't realise it was her until I had started to play it back and the kids heard the start of her rant at me such a shame the oldest deleted it so evidence of her behaviour gone. But good in a way I as I don't want the children to think badly of his GF. They have to spend time with her albeit reluctantly but that is the card they have been dealt.
And as for court it's strange that your ex behaves like mine doesn't listen to authority and picks out the bits that he wants to hear and ignores the rest Hmm when did they become so DUMB oh yep when they dropped their pants and dipped it were it shouldn't have gone Big mistake as since that day the brain was completely disengaged never to be sensible again.
But we can look back and hold our heads up high knowing that we have done all we can to protect and support our children and wider family and stood on the high ground regarding other matters in divorce and know we are the better person for doing so.
I wish you and your family a very merry Christmas and a Happier quieter 2010 all my love Kat xxxx :) xxxx
Added By why? on 22-12-2009
hi.
it sounds very much deliberate. its not that he doesn't understand or get it. its his wat of being an arse, thats all. and he's doing a very good job of it. clearly being an arse is something he is good at. what ever you do, dont show you are upset or angry. keep distance and try not to look next time he is on path. take note and any evidence you can wihim noticing. he just wants to hurt and upset you. i know this onlt too well. get his numbers barred from parents phone. he can use another number but every number he uses, simply barr it. he will tire of having to use a different phone evry time just tl hassle you all. make it hard work for him.
Added By Kat007 on 30-12-2009
Oh it happened again really he is pushing his luck all it will take is me informing Cafcass and the judge of his actions.
This weeks was I had book to take son on a special xmas treat paid for in advance. Told son the morning we were going and he informed me that dad had text and asked him to go out with him on our contact time again. Of course his outing wsa bigger and better and son wanted to go. I informed ex we had plans and he ignored it told son I was making a a big deal about their trip and that son now couldn't go with him. This was not the case at all I just asked he had him home in time for us to also go out. Son was upset and was crying and said I am so fed up with dad making me choose between you Mum it's not fair.
I agreed with him and said go with daddy and then I will see you later, well of course he didn't get him back in time and I lost the money as i had to cancel so late. I was not happy but of course didn't let my boy see this and just asked if he had a nice time with his dad.
This is so unfair of him keep playing games with our son and mucking up our contact time so I will mention this again and see what cafcass have to say again. Nightmare continues. :(
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