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As I woke at 4am this morning I was thinking of all of us who will be apart from our children this christmas, some of us have opted for this to keep life simple for our kids and some of us have had this forced upon us keeping the annimosity going.

I thought about how things in life were so much easier when we were a family and that since we have become a different family unit how sometimes contact and money suddenly becomes a contencious issue. I thought how simple this could have been if compromise could have worked on both sides and that it is such a shame that after so many years together one of us has become a very angry and bitter person.

So after spending an hour looking back I started to look at what was around me, I have beautiful children and a wonderful grandchild, I may not have much money and owe even more but what I do have is a life to look forward to with my family, yes Curve balls will be thrown and i have a big bat and yes the ex will always be part of my life but it is MY LIFE for me to take control of and to share with my family.

I am tierd of the court battles and know I have one coming up but something happened recently with my child that has become the focus for my fighting spirit. She is having tests over the next couple of weeks. The specialist who we saw was so concerned he didn't wait for another appointment to be made he went and called his boss who came straight down to see my child and they did tests during her consultation, emergency x-rays and scans all in one mornings and all marked urgent results needed, Pathology tests done and wait for the results he has fast tracked them all and you may wonder why, she is a teenager and we found a surpsicious lump that has started to grown rather quickly. This certainly has focused my mind. But thankfully neither the doctor or I showed how concerned we actually were as it is xmas and she is still my baby and she needs to have fun and enjoy this time of year with her Dad.

So I may not be around as often so just wanted to say to every one here, I hope that you all have a wonderful christmas and a more peaceful 2010, my love and best wishes to you all kitty kat xxxxx

So I sit and wait and do not show how scared I am and continue as normal. I asked if she had any questions but she said no can I go out with myboyfriend now so she did, I came home let her dad know what happened again no questions no call and no e-mail to either her or me, nothing zero zilch.