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Subject: New to this but Hi ....
Posted By Bobby321 on 11-01-2010
Just looking for a bit of advice and your thoughts on my current situation.
In brief ..married 22 years, one child (16), house (Joint). Decided to seperate in September 09 with the intention of going to mediation to sort the finances and divorce after 2 years of being seperated. Seems quite amicable on both our parts and it appears to be going OK. Our daughter will live with me and continue college. There is about 150k in the house and my wife has said she would like 50% of that and 50% of my lump sum (pension) in about 10 years time which would be about 60k. I wouldn't want anything from the house and will probably initially rent and get sorted.
She has been left a house in her Grandmothers will which would be worth around 220k and unfortunately i cant see her making another 10 years. Should i / Can i use this future income in the mediation.
I have spoken to a solicitor and lodged money with them in order for them to look over what's agreed in mediation.
Any thoughts? Be kind!
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Added By LazyLizzie on 11-01-2010
If the grandmother is not dead then the money won't count. If she went into a care home some of it would be swallowed up. She could remarry, fall out with your wife etc. The money isn't guaranteed so its ignored. The only way to make sure you get some of that inheritance is to stay married.
Added By Kat007 on 13-01-2010
I won money on the lottery the other day and thought will my ex go after it should I make an offer, but then realised it was only £4.70 lol so stuff it. when finances are sorted it is usual that a clause is put in that neither party can revisit to make a claim against inheritance/future higher earnings, if this isn't put in then maybe yes. But as LL said the poor women is still of this earth and does not count. counting eggs before they've hatched is never a good idea.
Keep it simple and pleasent and fair to you both and any children always the best way.
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