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I didn't go because I could not get the time off of work because a project I was working on was reaching it's conclusion.

I wrote to the court and the other side and gave them both a letter from my manager.

I was not there when the date was set because their barrister called me a child abuser and I walked out. The judge got flustered and set it for min time period. Court letters were delayed.

The 29 Jan court date is a directions hearing as said below. I don't really know what I am doing.

Is a letter from your manager not a good enough excuse?

I sent it as soon as I could. I requested an adjournment from the court and while I was away on holiday found out from my father that the response from the circuit court judge was that I had to have the other sides agreement or apply via a contested application for an adjournment. I called the court manager who agreed that I had no time to do so as the hearing was the same day I arrived back from holiday.

They did not agree to adjournment because they knew I couldn't make it and saw it as an empty net. Bit disappointed with Judge falling for it and having no respect for litigants in person.

After saying all of that, should I withdraw? Is my excuse valid? I think not wanting to lose my job is a fairly good reason. Other point is this is not my application, but hers.

They got an adjournment before without agreement, why is it different for me.Cafcass officer recommended adjournment, posh judge took it personally, and egged on by big barrister came down badly completely on her side. Wrote to my MP etc. not impressed or happy with courts at all.

Now I get them flouting order the whole time thinking I will never go back to court again under threat of costs. Very nasty business. Advice appreciated.

What was I supposed to do? What should I do now? Simes?

Her solicitor has hinted that I should have hired someone to go to court for me, I don't think that would have been possible given the time constraints.