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Subject: 4 Weeks - Like nothing every happened :-)
Posted By Jools123 on 17-01-2010
Hi all,
My daughter is back from her extended Christmas break to South Africa with her mum and boyfriend.
I had access this weekend Fri 5pm to Sun 5.30pm.
I have to say, most comments were right, the time for children must move by so quickly that they adapt very well - its probably us parents that don't do so well - lighting candles, fretting about where she was, what she was doing, forgetting Daddy.
Picked d up as normal. Had usual games. Was called at 6am on sat and sun for a cuddle as if she'd never been away. She talked our heads off all weekend but nothing about where she had been or what she had done. More interested in dolls house she had for Christmas, playing school with my partner and generally chilling out with Dad.
Oh its good to have her back! :-)
It was worth the fight though. And new access order sent to court on Friday for more contact, holidays and next Christmas to be resolved in advance!
To all NRP's - don't give up. Its worth it in the end! I'm under no illusions that I will encounter difficulties in the future but the one thing I know is that I am doing everything in my power to be the best parent I can for my daughter.
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Added By Kat007 on 18-01-2010
Jools123,
Phew what a relief she must be feeling to be back to a normal weekend with daddy, You know she will have missed you but your right time at her age goes by so quickly,blink of an eye and she was seeing her precious dad again.
Glad you had a great weekend all together and soon you will have another one then a longer period of time together. And yes keep doing what you are to make sure your daughter gets to be heard about how she needs both her parents in her life.
Keep going.
Added By Owl1 on 18-01-2010
Good news Jools.
I think you are right about kids being able to take it in their stride more than us parents. Sometimes you just need to see that action to be reassured. Next time will be easier for you.
Kids do tend to live in the moment and often compartmentalise the various strands of their lives. I'm not surprised you heard nothing of her holiday. It had been and gone. You were the next exciting thing and her focus.
But most of all well done to you for the way you have handled this and conducted yourself. You didn't overeact and lose it and sought a reasonable compromise which benefitted your daughter.
You are a damn fine parent.
Added By Jools123 on 18-01-2010
Thanks Kat and Owl for your kind words!
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