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Subject: ha ha here's a laugh
Posted By Kat007 on 30-01-2010
So ex is getting married again ha ha so funny everyone who mentions it too me just laughs and says how rediculas, i just say not bothered, not interested, couldn't care which is all true.
Got an e-mail from him, he asked me if there was anychance I could let him have the original decree absolute as he needed it for the registry office so she could book the wedding. He said he couldn't find his and that she was chewing his ear off to get it all sorted asap and it would really be a help to him. ha ha
I wrote back NO you will have to apply for another copy from the court, it would be a help to him, so why would I want to help him again, oh I don't lol what a twat ha ha, made my day yesterday cheered me up no end.
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Added By Suvla1915 on 30-01-2010
What a cheek!
Added By skovby1 on 30-01-2010
Amazing how some people cannot look after the single piece of paper that they went through so much to get hold of !
Added By LazyLizzie on 30-01-2010
My ex came round to see me to ask if I could let him have a copy of the absolute. He had lost his and needed it to get security cleared at work.
Had he asked how our sons were I probably would have given him a copy. He didn't - so I didn't.
Added By Kat007 on 31-01-2010
Exactly one of the most important pieces of paper needed for a 2nd marriage and oh no couldn't find it ha ha ha.
Maybe I could have given it to him with a downloaded divorce application ready for him to fill in after a year their wedding lol now that would have been funny well for me anyway not so much him.
Onwards and upwards keep moving towards the next hearing in march lovely. Maybe next year I will have a court free year :)
Added By Stuart on 02-02-2010
"Maybe I could have given it to him with a downloaded divorce application ready for him to fill in after a year their wedding lol now that would have been funny well for me anyway not so much him"
Yes....send a copy of the absolute with the D8....address it to the new wife to be....
Oh...thats naughty...lol
Added By Kat007 on 03-02-2010
However I have come to realise that if I did this I would lower myself to their level and I really can't be bothered. Trying to get rid of him not encourage any other contact apart from the children. lol. However I have recieved 3 yes 3 letters in the past week all going over old ground. Circles the drive me mad argh
Added By london on 06-02-2010
Why is it such an issue to let ex-spouse have a copy of the decree absolute ? I remember avidly letting my ex have a copy of mine, as she couldn't lay her hands on her copy at the time, as she needed this for a permanent visa application for the country where she now resides -
If it had been because she was getting remarried and needed it, I would have been similarly helpful, anything to ensure that there is clear blue water between us...
Kind regards
Added By Kat007 on 06-02-2010
Well it actually turns out that he didn't need it after all, after my last post he e-mailed to say that his old solicitor had it all along and sent it to him. I do however stand by the fact that given his recent aggression by mail and threats of court again over finances, which were only dealt with for the 2nd time in a year last nov and threats to court over the kids and his parental alienation tactics with all the kids now, they all have the hump with me right now but have been told not to tell me why (honestly) So would I help him out No F***ing way the mans a control freak and needs serious counselling to sort his anger issues out and learn that the only ones being hurt are our children and hers. What he does to these kids is not right poor loves(I include hers as they are being affected by the way he behaves as they live with them).
Nothing I can do but continue to support our children as always and be here when they need to vent any issues and anger.
Added By why? on 11-02-2010
i understand that you would not want to help him do something you disagree with kat. however,by not giving him the absolute you have given the impression that his remarriage bothers you and even if it does, and it might, because thats natural but even if that were true, the last thing you would want is tohave him believe he has hurt you or you are jealous. his girlfriend equally will think that you are jealous. im all for not helping and supporting and making it 'easy' for those acting against your wishes and know they are acting against your wishes but id hace given him ultra quick in the hope that this may mean he really has moved on!
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